is the gay relationship stronger

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    Jan 14, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    -do you feel your big gay relationship is stronger than between your two parents?

    -for the pda; which would you do, hold hands or kiss or be kissed?


    reference:
    http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/the-key-to-a-happy-relationship-be-gay-or-childless-or-make-tea-9057349.html
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    Jan 14, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    The vast majority of the gay relationships I have witnessed have been flimsy and superficial and lasted less than 5 years. My parents and those of their generation have either been in a single long term relationship since I have known them, or have gone from one LTR to another.
    So, to answer your question, gay relationships in general are often doomed to failure for a lack of role models, conviction and clarity of definition of what exactly is a relationship.
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    Jan 14, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidThe vast majority of the gay relationships I have witnessed have been flimsy and superficial and lasted less than 5 years. My parents and those of their generation have either been in a single long term relationship since I have known them, or have gone from one LTR to another.
    So, to answer your question, gay relationships in general are often doomed to failure for a lack of role models, conviction and clarity of definition of what exactly is a relationship.


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    Jan 14, 2014 9:34 PM GMT
    I didn't know gay men could remain faithful to each other for more than a month.
  • RGW94

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    Jan 14, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    Depends on the people I guess. Relationships as a whole seem to fail a lot. I think people have this vision in their minds that they're going to fall in madly in love with someone and it's going to be all rainbows and fluff forever and ever. It isn't. Relationships are like business partnerships; don't sign up for something just because it looks attractive, make sure your businesses will support and better each other's in the long run.
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    Jan 14, 2014 10:25 PM GMT
    smartmoney said
    So, to answer your question, gay relationships in general are often doomed to failure for a lack of role models, conviction and clarity of definition of what exactly is a relationship.



    Yep. This.
  • RGW94

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    Jan 15, 2014 12:10 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidThe vast majority of the gay relationships I have witnessed have been flimsy and superficial and lasted less than 5 years. My parents and those of their generation have either been in a single long term relationship since I have known them, or have gone from one LTR to another.
    So, to answer your question, gay relationships in general are often doomed to failure for a lack of role models, conviction and clarity of definition of what exactly is a relationship.


    Well, can't the same be said for straight relationships? There's no reason why a gay relationship should be any different than a straight one unless you want to be a drama queen and focus on the fact that you share genitals with your partner. Everything's give and take. Doesn't really matter your gender.
  • thadjock

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    Jan 15, 2014 12:30 AM GMT
    The bar is set pretty low for any relationship I have. my parents marriage only lasted 6 yrs, and honestly from everything I've heard it was a hot mess from the beginning.

    but, I still haven't met my "6 year guy" yet, so who am I to judge?

    gay guys have a reputation for not being able to hold a relationship together, but I refuse to accept that.
  • RGW94

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    Jan 15, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    thadjock said

    gay guys have a reputation for not being able to hold a relationship together, but I refuse to accept that.


    Ditto.
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    Jan 15, 2014 12:48 AM GMT
    Apparently my boyfriend and I are pretty stable for a couple our age, and we're definitely happier with each other than either of our parents are.
    As for pda, we hold hands sometimes.
    I think half the problem with a happy relationship is that we have a moving goal post. Is a successful relationship a happy one or one that lasts a long time?
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    Jan 15, 2014 1:15 AM GMT
    Love is blind, I believe.

    As for pda:
    I heard "What the fuck!" a couple of times while holding hands with my ex and walking on Yonge st, here in T-dot.
    We used to kiss whenever we said goodbyes. One time we heard a couple of negative Jamaican words.
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    Jan 15, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
    thadjock said

    gay guys have a reputation for not being able to hold a relationship together, but I refuse to accept that.


    Sir you earn my respect, any relationship can be ascrew up, the couple desicions makes the relationahip goodor bad.