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    Jan 14, 2014 5:35 PM GMT
    I am stressed. That's just the best way to describe it. I was put in the hospital a while back because my heart felt like it was going to explode. It turns out I was having some type of anxiety attack. One of my friends passed away, finals were coming up, and working retail in December doesn't help much. On top of that I support my mother and younger brother, and am wanting to get out of Alabama as fast as I can.

    Now, I feel a bit in the same boat. It's my last year at my community college and I'm transferring to university next Fall to complete the rest of my courses online (about a years worth). I'm also looking to relocate to anywhere that is outside of Alabama, Georgia, and the surrounding areas (except Florida sounds nice). Shooting for somewhere out West.

    Anyway, to the point. I am taking some really hard courses this semester, and I feel that I have to dedicate a lot of my time to it. When I'm doing homework though, I feel guilty that I'm missing my workout. When I'm missing my workout I feel guilty that I'm not doing my homework. When I'm at work I absolutely work myself to exhaustion (we are short handed and our store manager has said he doesn't care how hard we are working - the less people he has to pay the bigger yearly bonus he gets). When I take time to myself I can only think what life is like outside of this place, and how many opportunities and moments I am missing because I cannot afford to just simply get up and move like I would like.

    I just am not sure what to do at this point. It's like no matter what I do I am STRESSED TO THE MAX. I get home from work and I am physically drained so I do homework. Then I feel guilty about missing my workout. I finally get an off day to do my workout and I feel guilty that I'm not working out as much as I should. I just can't win.
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    Jan 14, 2014 5:39 PM GMT
    Sorry you're going through that. You're too nice to feel like that all the time. Can you answer a few questions?

    • What are your PHYSICAL symptoms?

    • What are your triggers for these feelings?
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    Jan 14, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidSorry you're going through that. You're too nice to feel like that all the time. Can you answer a few questions?

    • What are your PHYSICAL symptoms?

    • What are your triggers for these feelings?


    Physical Symptoms: Accelerated heart rate, trouble breathing. Best way I can describe it is like a broken rib or I just ran a 5k without actually moving.

    I think I put myself down a lot. I choose to do a lot of right things, but for every choice I make their is something else being sacrificed. Does that make sense? On top of that I work a job where I am treated like total shit daily from customers and managers, and I can do nothing but simply take it because their are no other job options here making the amount of money I make (10 bucks an hour).
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    Jan 14, 2014 5:51 PM GMT
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    Scruffypup saidSorry you're going through that. You're too nice to feel like that all the time. Can you answer a few questions?

    • What are your PHYSICAL symptoms?

    • What are your triggers for these feelings?


    Physical Symptoms: Accelerated heart rate, trouble breathing. Best way I can describe it is like a broken rib or I just ran a 5k without actually moving.

    I think I put myself down a lot. I choose to do a lot of right things, but for every choice I make their is something else being sacrificed. Does that make sense? On top of that I work a job where I am treated like total shit daily from customers and managers, and I can do nothing but simply take it because their are no other job options here making the amount of money I make (10 bucks an hour).



    This doesn't sound like Generalized Anxiety. It sounds like Panic Attacks, which are much more severe. I'm not a therapist but I know a lot about Panic Disorder because I've dealt with it my whole life. You should see a therapist as soon as possible. If you let them go without treatment, it can easily develop into Agoraphobia where you're afraid to go places where you've had a panic attack in the past.
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    Jan 14, 2014 5:56 PM GMT
    Your overall health and well-being should be most important to you. Stress is a killer. You may have to time manage your homework and workouts better. I think you are feeling overwhelmed with the recent and current stressors you have and these life changes make you feel powerless. Bear with it for now but just be careful. It won't last forever. School will end. I know the feeling of wanting to get out too and I still feel it. You just have to 'fight up' with it and make the best of what you have now. With regard to your workouts, you may have to do less on a weekly basis but I don't think you should cut them out because exercise is good for stress.
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    Jan 14, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    JumpMan_Josh said
    Scruffypup saidSorry you're going through that. You're too nice to feel like that all the time. Can you answer a few questions?

    • What are your PHYSICAL symptoms?

    • What are your triggers for these feelings?


    Physical Symptoms: Accelerated heart rate, trouble breathing. Best way I can describe it is like a broken rib or I just ran a 5k without actually moving.

    I think I put myself down a lot. I choose to do a lot of right things, but for every choice I make their is something else being sacrificed. Does that make sense? On top of that I work a job where I am treated like total shit daily from customers and managers, and I can do nothing but simply take it because their are no other job options here making the amount of money I make (10 bucks an hour).



    This doesn't sound like Generalized Anxiety. It sounds like Panic Attacks, which are much more severe. I'm not a therapist but I know a lot about Panic Disorder because I've dealt with it my whole life. You should see a therapist as soon as possible. If you let them go without treatment, it can easily develop into Agoraphobia where you're afraid to go places where you've had a panic attack in the past.


    It is a panic attack. I think it's also an Adjustment Disorder with an Anxiety specifier.
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    Jan 14, 2014 6:32 PM GMT
    Thank you for the advice, fellas.

    As far as the panic attack thing: I'm sure that's definitely a possibility, but funds are definitely an issue and I can't see myself affording a therapist any time soon.

    The good news is I'm setting myself up for something awesome. I have IT experience, no college debt, minimal hospital debt, and an okay credit score so far (close to 700). On top of that I have a savings account that gets about 40 bucks pumped into it every two weeks. So I guess I am setting myself up for something great, but just can't seem to execute it yet.

    @Visicousrumor: I think this is absolutely amazing advice. I'm going to try to make some type of chart to manage things. I think if it's laid out right in front of me things might be a lot less stressful.
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    Jan 14, 2014 6:34 PM GMT
    FYI: There are free mental health clinics in almost every city. I would do a little research and find one.
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    Jan 14, 2014 6:41 PM GMT
    If I can make one last suggestion.....don't let any doctor give you Xanax or Valium! In the end it will make Panic Attacks worse.
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    Jan 14, 2014 6:59 PM GMT
    ikilledcaptainplanet said
    Scruffypup saidFYI: There are free mental health clinics in almost every city. I would do a little research and find one.


    can tell you from first hand experience that these places ARE not to be trusted. free service usually means shitty service where they just prescribe pills and aren't able to do much else. hopefully, it's different for him BUT last year, that's what i had to go through with the charity care. having to go to some group therapy that wasn't helping me, then popping pills seeing the shrink every 2 months, and basically ending up worse off than before i came to them. having insurance makes a BIG difference in the type of care you receive.



    You can't judge all free clinics by one. People can have bad experiences while paying $150.00 an hour too. Many times therapists donate a portion of their time for those who cannot afford care. If you go to a psychiatrist, they're going to pump you full of pill no matter what you're paying. I'd stay away from them completely as they try to cure everything with drugs.
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    Jan 14, 2014 7:05 PM GMT
    It'll get better.