tbone25 saidI am heading towards 37 and thinking seriously about adopting in the next few years. I don't want to miss fatherhood. I am not in a relationship now. I'd love to hear from any guys who adopted as single gay men. How hard was it? What advice would you give? anything
I had two kids . It's not possible to raise a kid alone unless you have major cash for a nanny, day care etc. Kids cost around $200,000 before college and require around a16 year full time commitment.
There is no good reason for a gay guy to have a kid.
Seriously? This is one of the most ignorant, self-loathing comments any man (gay or straight) could make about parenting. Do you all live under rocks? There are single parents raising kids in this country every single day in every single city from every single background and minority. Kids don't cost $200,000, that's ludicrous. That may be the case for some, but it certainly isn't for most.
If any gay guy or couple wants to have children, go do it. Plan for it, but go do it. Soliciting advice on this site was obviously a poor idea, as evidenced by some of the stupid/idiotic comments made here. There are gay men who raise kids. You probably should find a support group or try to meet more gay men who are parents before you make your decision. This is obviously not that place.
And one more totally STUPID comment to refute: "There is no good reason for a gay guy to have a kid." That statement is just plane STUPID!!
This is one of those threads, where if you don't have something good to say to the poster, don't say it at all.