Oh no... crush on an old high school jock

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    Jan 16, 2014 2:55 PM GMT
    Alright... weird situation.

    so I got promoted in my company to an office job. A new guy took my old job and turns out to be this guy from my high school class that hung out with the jocks alot... i saw him as a jock and back then i never saw him as a potential friend... he never talked to me and i never talked to him bit he wasnt a dick yo me unlike some of the other jocks.

    Anyway I first met him on a job site when I was working my old job.. we talked a little and he was funny and not really flirty but I can tell he was trying pretty hard to come up with conversation.... and I was trying to be as flirtatious as I could be while doing labor... lol

    same thing just happened.. I ran into him while walking around the office (he's in the shop at my office) and we talked a little again.. He makes lots of eye contact and talks alot... Idk if its.because he is new and I'mthe only person he knows... or he is secretly gay.

    I don't remember him having girlfriends in h.s. that's why I'm curious... Some of those jocks have to be closet cases right? And he probably assumes I'm gay.. just from hhigh school days. So ill what to think.. I'm just going to keep running into him and talking to him I guess but I want some.opinions...

    I'll answer what questions you hhave its kind of a confusing story.
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    So why can't you ask him out for coffee or a beer or w/e?
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:22 PM GMT
    Does he smile when you grab his junk?
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:30 PM GMT
    MikeW saidSo why can't you ask him out for coffee or a beer or w/e?


    I don't wanna scare him haha he just started working here monday. Hopefully in time I will ask him. I'm gonna try and be friends first haha
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:31 PM GMT
    leo_ saidColleague dating? No matter from which past he just popped up! Be little careful. Let him make all the efforts if he really want. You just react. Don't act. That's what I am saying. "You are not sure about his sexuality yet"!



    that's why I'm sketched too... but he is so cute! Lol
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    somersault saidDoes he smile when you grab his junk?


    hopefully he will ;)
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:36 PM GMT
    gjmascguy11 said
    MikeW saidSo why can't you ask him out for coffee or a beer or w/e?


    I don't wanna scare him haha he just started working here monday. Hopefully in time I will ask him. I'm gonna try and be friends first haha

    So what's the problem?
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:40 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    gjmascguy11 said
    MikeW saidSo why can't you ask him out for coffee or a beer or w/e?


    I don't wanna scare him haha he just started working here monday. Hopefully in time I will ask him. I'm gonna try and be friends first haha

    So what's the problem?


    no problem... just hope haha
    I just wanted to know what other people thought... it would also be hard to go to lunch or anything with him.. we don't really work anywhere near eachother.
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    Jan 16, 2014 4:46 PM GMT
    gjmascguy11 said
    no problem... just hope haha
    I just wanted to know what other people thought... it would also be hard to go to lunch or anything with him.. we don't really work anywhere near eachother.

    Well, then, I think it sounds like it is worth exploring. Lunch or some other off hours opportunity to get to know one another can always be worked out.
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    Jan 16, 2014 5:42 PM GMT
    Well from what your saying he doesn't sound gay, or at least not interested.. But maybe from the stuff you haven't said lies his interest.. possibly
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    Jan 16, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    The last conversation I had with him when I was "flirting" was this summer.. so I can't remember what we talked about. We talked about high school and he recognized me.. but other than that he might just be really nice
    but like I said I don't remember him having gf's.. and he reminds me of me lol

    and I don't think he hangs with his old.feiends anymore which leads me to believe something withing his click happened. Haha but Idk I'll keep trying icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 16, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    1. Proof read before posting (pet peeve and I'm just as bad sometimes)

    2. Don't shit in your own sand box. This is your work, keep it professional. There are tons of guys in this world, don't grab one that you have to see every day. If things don't work out or he's not gay and you come on to him, you're stuck with dealing with it forever. If you end up working together or one for the other down the road, it's awkward.

    3. Good luck.
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:08 AM GMT
    Umm ask if he's gay? You could always hint it out that you're gay, or tell him before asking if he is - that's what I did with this guy who I liked who I know will never have the same feelings for me lol. I just texted him and asked if he had a problem with gay people and he didn't (he looked like a total jock), so then I was able to talk to him about myself without feeling uncomfortable. Just ask him out to lunch like buds and then just talk lol. You can figure out so much about a person if you just let him say things, instead of you.
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:25 AM GMT
    NEVER dip your pen in the company ink well....
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    Jan 17, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
    kiwiLifter saidDoes he know or suspect you're gay, I can't tell from what you have said?

    He might be straight/bi curious! They are the hottest!icon_cool.gif



    if he recognizes me from the parties in high school he can probably suspect I'm gay. Haha I was a lot more colorful back in high school.. dyed blonde hair.. neon colored shirts etc. I was very confused at that time. Haha and he probably can assume at work now too.. im look the gayest at my company haha
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    Jan 17, 2014 2:29 PM GMT
    eb925guy said1. Proof read before posting (pet peeve and I'm just as bad sometimes)

    2. Don't shit in your own sand box. This is your work, keep it professional. There are tons of guys in this world, don't grab one that you have to see every day. If things don't work out or he's not gay and you come on to him, you're stuck with dealing with it forever. If you end up working together or one for the other down the road, it's awkward.

    3. Good luck.


    I'm not going too. It would be interesting to know though.. If he ddoesn't last too long lol
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    Jan 17, 2014 3:17 PM GMT
    Wait so you flirted with him during the summer, but he started working this Monday?

    Anyway, I also don't think you should date or get in his pants. I have friends who dated co-workers and they'd tell me the most awkward stories when they'd break up. Asking him out for a beer wouldn't be too awkward if you don't let it :p
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    Jan 17, 2014 3:58 PM GMT
    vla8 saidWait so you flirted with him during the summer, but he started working this Monday?

    Anyway, I also don't think you should date or get in his pants. I have friends who dated co-workers and they'd tell me the most awkward stories when they'd break up. Asking him out for a beer wouldn't be too awkward if you don't let it :p



    yeah he was a temporary employee on a job site and we both came together to work on putting up a fence... then I went to this job and he took my old job. Lol
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    Jan 17, 2014 9:25 PM GMT
    Well went into the shop to talk to my old boss and to the hottie haha


    again he was really nice... I was talking to my boss first then he was listening in and totally got me to talk to him instead... he was making fun of me and my work haha granted it was funny but pretty flirty.. then proceeded to ask what I was doing this weekend and talked about where we lived for some reason then we went outside and talked about his new job and i gave him some pointers.

    Iike i said.. He probably knows I'm gay. And he's really smiley and laughy when i talk to him.... keeping fingers crossed for the future.. even if we work in the same office. I'm never around that part of the office lol