MY GAYDAR SUCKS!!!!

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    Sep 20, 2007 8:34 AM GMT
    I don't know how anyone can tell unless your femm, or out in a gay club. Or in a overly gay area. I'm speaking of just walking in the street and seeing someone your interested in. This is particularly hard with the brothas, cuz there is this unspoken but reverent greeting of 3 second stare and the head nod. I just nod and move on. I'm too nervous of overstating my "damn your fine", so I more times than not give the brush off.
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    Sep 20, 2007 1:02 PM GMT
    Aside from the same odor we all put out...I'm kidding. I hear you. I have the same problem. I was at the mall the other day with a friend and saw this guy, asked her if she thought he was gay, and she said that he had been eyeing me earlier. Maybe I'm just generally oblivious.
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    Sep 20, 2007 3:28 PM GMT
    My gaydar is very faulty. I can never tell unless a guy's tongue is down my throat and I still wonder if he's gay.

    And then there are the confusing guys who say they are straight (like last night, some guy told me at least three times he was straight....at a gay bar...and later I saw him dancing with a guy). I hate when I've been at a party or something and had a great conversation with a guy and we seem to really hit it off - and then he tells me he's straight. Not, "I have a girlfriend," "I'm married," or "I'm bi" but "I'm straight." Is that a guy's way of saying he's not interested?!?

    Maybe that's why my gaydar is all messed up.
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    Sep 20, 2007 3:35 PM GMT
    I don't even try anymore to guess who is gay or not....my gayday doesn't work at all! I never think anyone is gay....just the opossite to must of my friends, they think everyone is gay!

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    Sep 20, 2007 3:37 PM GMT
    I saw this HOT HOT HOT guy in the mall on Tuesday....he works at one of those kiosks...he sells womens curling irons...Is as buffed out as can be...as butch looking as can be...the arm tats...FUCKING HOT...he sells womens curling irons for petes sake...gotta be gay right???? Im trying to figure out a way to find out...any suggestions??? I have no gaydar unless they are in a gay bar or give me the "eye"...
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    Sep 20, 2007 3:38 PM GMT
    Why not just go up to him and ask him?
  • iHavok

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    Sep 20, 2007 3:46 PM GMT
    I really have no gaydar. I even doubt the sexuality of the dude when my cock is sliding down his throat...so i have no advice.
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    Sep 20, 2007 3:52 PM GMT
    I'm the same way except for those who are the obvious.
  • iHavok

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    Sep 20, 2007 4:04 PM GMT
    Usually, I'll even check for wood on a guy sucking my cock...just to make sure he's as into it and me as I am to him.
    I like to be thorough.
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    Sep 20, 2007 4:11 PM GMT
    Ha! My Gaydar is infallible!
    You'd have developed your own if you hadn't spent so much of your lives staring in the mirror. =D)
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    Sep 20, 2007 4:13 PM GMT
    aero....are thos derogatory comments directed at me?
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    Sep 20, 2007 4:33 PM GMT
    'Round here, "Do you like boys or girls?" works fairly well. Of course there has to be some icebreaker or short conversation leading up to this.
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    Sep 20, 2007 5:02 PM GMT
    Well now a days you cant always tell when looking at a guy if hes gay or not and my gaydar doesnt work too well but I was told

    YOU HAVE TO TRAIN YOUR GAYDAR TO WORK.

    I was like WTF but I guess, the only way to find out if its working is to ask. Usually your instincts are correct.

    Most guys say it isnt working cause they dont follow up to find out if he is gay or not or dont even ask. They look adn say i couldnt tell so I didnt follow up. But usually when you talk to a guy you can tell right away.

    Like the curling iron guy, just walk up and ask him how he got a job like that and doesnt look like the typical curling iron saleman.

    Also do you think that the feminine guys are that way so that you DO know they are gay and there is no confusion over it.


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    Sep 20, 2007 5:14 PM GMT
    "Also do you think that the feminine guys are that way so that you DO know they are gay and there is no confusion over it."

    Of course. We all know a guy or two who one day sat down and made a cognitive decision to risk the ridicule, beatings and general discrimination to ensure that anyone who was curious would know for sure that he likes to put a penis in his mouth. In the game of sexual conquest, it is the effeminate homosexual male and the butch lesbian who are the big winners. It's twice the prize if he or she isn't white and can be won the whole shebang if there's a handicap or two involved. I think that the whole idea of 'gaydar' germinated in the observation of gender-extraordinary characteristics. If it walks like a duck, and you call it a duck, you don't really have duckdar, ya know?
  • iHavok

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    Sep 20, 2007 5:29 PM GMT
    I can pick a duck masquerading as a human anytime.
    I have excellent duckdar.
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    Sep 20, 2007 6:00 PM GMT
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    Sep 20, 2007 6:43 PM GMT
    My theory (and it's only a theory) is that "gaydar" was developed instinctually in gay men as a way to meet other gay men without getting killed or beaten up back in the day (when I walked miles to the bars in the snow in my bare feet).

    Now with gay men depending on the internet more and more to meet, that instinct need no longer come into play. You pretty much know that you're getting a gay man by the time you click the check out, I mean sign out button. What he really looks like is another matter.

    It's also my thinking that older gay men probably have a better working "gaydar" than younger gay men. But only you guys can attest to that.
  • iHavok

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    Sep 20, 2007 6:46 PM GMT
    Was it uphill both ways Inked? :-)

    I like your theory.
  • Salubrious

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    Sep 21, 2007 8:46 AM GMT
    I have very good gaydar. I can usually pick out even the closeted ones. However, one thing throws it off: Mormons. So basically I have a MormonorGaydar.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 21, 2007 10:26 AM GMT
    I have very good gaydar... i can usually pick out the one gay guy standing in line at the movies well-enough but to yell if a guy's eyeing me?
    I've got to be the absolute worst ...

    you have no idea how many times a friend will nudge me and say...that guy just cruised you

    and I'll say - where? and by then he's lost in a crowd or something

    or even worse...those guys who pass yu on the street and give you that barely audible...How you doin?
    come on guys - then I'm left standin there thinkin did I hear him right?
  • gymguy81

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    Sep 21, 2007 1:28 PM GMT
    im with te rest of you i cant tell and i see some fine assed dudes. i cant tell and i cant get enuff contact to tell if they are gay or not. i mean i have found ways to tell homophobes form non homophobes its kinda a dumb way but it works none the less.

    BUT I STILL CANT TELL HERTEO FROM HOMO
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    Sep 21, 2007 2:52 PM GMT
    How about just asking?
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    Sep 21, 2007 2:53 PM GMT
    Asking? How gay!!
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    Sep 21, 2007 3:02 PM GMT


    Asking??? Oh nooooooo. *blushin*
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    Sep 21, 2007 4:27 PM GMT
    well if they are hot enough in my opinion they are either gay or about to find out with me. lol yeah i usually if i don't know that someone is gay is i ask them away from there friends or i will be as obvious about my sexuality enough so that i don't even have to ask. BTW my new boss is homophobic... wow i am so acting straight at work until i am there long enough to be like hey Joel I suck dick and i've noticed you have a half hard on all the time... lol what's up? pun intended.
    I do however believe that gaydar is a make believe "instinct" and unless they come out and say it or have sex with you It is nearly impossible to tell if one is actually gay. I hate when a straight guy is effeminite though it throws me almost completely off. I could swear he was gay but oh no i was wrong. Bi maybe?lol