Im always the one to initiate everything..i dont get it

  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jan 17, 2014 3:43 AM GMT
    I met this guy at a club on november 30th and we really clicked.We have been texting ever since.I really like this guy and he says he is going with the flow and he wants to get to know me but at the same time he is busy all the time.I havent seen him since like dec 9th and we live in the same state.I always text first I always call first.Does he not feel the same way should i give him space until we hang out again?... dude is driving me bonkers.
  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Jan 17, 2014 6:08 AM GMT
    You live in the same STATE? Why say state and not city? If the dude lives several hours away from you on the other side of the state, chances are nothing's gonna come of it anyway.

    But anyway, you sound like how I used to be before I realized cute dudes are a dime a dozen and would text/call them and overanalyze shit and put way too much effort. I'd recommend you do what I learned to do at 18: leave him alone a week. No calls or texts.
    If he's busy anyway, he doesn't have time to be getting to know you or date you. And anyway, I've heard that "busy" line many times. It's just what pussies say who are on the fence about if they want you in their life or not, since they don't wanna completely let you go just in case feelings develop or their other guy doesn't pan out, etc. Trust me, no matter how busy a man is, if he wants to go out with you or hang out with you, he'll make time.
    If he never hits you up, delete his number and while some people disagree, I personally feel that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. I mean, any insanely hot guy I developed feelings for and then we'd part ways...I'd hop on Grindr or Manhunt or Barnes and Noble or what have you...see an amazingly sexy guy who catches my attention and has the barest amount of wit, and I wouldn't even remember the dude I split with. So...you know, go slut it up dude. ;)

  • Midas426

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    Jan 23, 2014 11:58 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace saidI met this guy at a club on november 30th and we really clicked.We have been texting ever since.I really like this guy and he says he is going with the flow and he wants to get to know me but at the same time he is busy all the time.I havent seen him since like dec 9th and we live in the same state.I always text first I always call first.Does he not feel the same way should i give him space until we hang out again?... dude is driving me bonkers.
    Yeah I run into this a lot myself. It seems all the guys I'm interested in lately I keep having to initiate texts and heaven forbid you try to call, you always get voicemail. Can't wait to find a guy that's as in to me as I am to them and is willing to put as much effort into getting to know me as I do. Till then I just keep it moving...which is incidentally what I think you should do.
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    Jan 24, 2014 12:55 AM GMT
    Take it from me; if he isn't initiating anything he isn't interested. Case closed. Full stop.
  • NerdLifter

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    Jan 24, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    If two parties are mutually interested in each other, then they tend to make things work, or at least try.

    This applies to most relationships, not just personal ones.
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    Jan 24, 2014 6:06 AM GMT
    Is this the same guy who is 4 to 5 years older than you? The same guy whom you proceeded to ask if the age difference was too weird?
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    Jan 24, 2014 8:43 PM GMT
    You are just an open option to him, let him go. "Been texting ever since" truly means nothing, and you should be attracted to a person on more than that.
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    Jan 25, 2014 8:39 AM GMT
    He's not interested, I don't reply or initiate anything back to guys who asked me out or want to meet up again, it's a way of saying no without any confrontation. Take it from me, he's not into you. Move on little buddy.

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    Jan 26, 2014 1:16 AM GMT
    Yeah... I've talked to hundreds of guys (roguh estimate) these past few years. It seems like I'm always the yappy dog from looney toons and they're the big one just walking along paying no attention at all. Most don't even text back.
    It's like I'm totally invisible, if that makes sense.

    Alas, I don't really care anymore.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Jan 31, 2014 3:24 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidIs this the same guy who is 4 to 5 years older than you? The same guy whom you proceeded to ask if the age difference was too weird?
    No.. that guy was a flake and he never responded to my mssgs so i blocked dat ass.
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    Jan 31, 2014 4:20 AM GMT
    Sigh. This is just another one of those situations where you need to take complete control. Really.

    This is an opportunity to have your house clean, your car washed, your laundry properly washed ironed AND put away. Don't waste this chance! And, all you have to do is a combination of screwing him deep and nasty into the sheets interspersed with beatings, whippings, floggings, posture torture, bondage AND gang rape.

    The last point is key. "Gang Rape" is a GINORMOUS opportunity to turn his inability to initiate and your ability to "take charge" to great entertainment AND financial gain! A staged gang rape is a tremendous revenue generating operation and one not to be overlooked! And, it's usually ca$h money! Yes, you could take credit cards, but ca$h is truly king! Having a well planned "menu' is key to maximizing profits. The proper venue for "participants" and those who simply wish to watch the show is also an important part of planning a great show that will draw return customers. Don't forget about the passive income that can also come from video distribution!

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  • highforthis

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    Jan 31, 2014 5:46 AM GMT
    LoveAndPeace said
    Erik101 saidIs this the same guy who is 4 to 5 years older than you? The same guy whom you proceeded to ask if the age difference was too weird?
    No.. that guy was a flake and he never responded to my mssgs so i blocked dat ass.


    Blocking someone who ignores you is like "quitting" a job AFTER getting fired. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 12, 2014 2:06 AM GMT
    i think everybody goes thru this at some point in their life. its like the guys we want aren't into us and the ones that are into us we dont want. just take it for what it is. if you're always initiating everything, then more than likely he isn't into u. leave him alone and find another. but yeah, as one guy quoted earlier, i would like to find sumbody who im into who is into me just as much.