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  • Deri245

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    Jan 17, 2014 3:46 AM GMT
    Hi everyone well i always been curious to kno how it feels to be in a solid relationship,Dates etc... Never dated anyone nor have I been on a date icon_sad.gif I prob have the record for most turndowns ever lol
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:27 AM GMT
    I get turned down constantly too, so you're not alone.
    I think that's because I'm void of personality or any redeeming qualities.

    I had been in a relationship for 5 months once. It was kind of stressful because he worked 2 jobs, didn't get to see each other much, and ultimately he dumped me.

    Generally, not as amazing as people make it out to be. This is just from experience though, and I may be talking out my ass.
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:37 AM GMT

    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
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    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.



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    Jan 17, 2014 4:47 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.


    It's not polite to brag, son icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:51 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.


    It's not polite to brag, son icon_rolleyes.gif


    They asked. If no one tells them, then what? How else will they know it happens? icon_wink.gif

    -intrigued

    PS I was in their boots at one time, so I know the feeling they have, and am trying to show there's light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak..
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:53 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.


    It's not polite to brag, son icon_rolleyes.gif


    They asked. If no one tells them, then what? How else will they know it happens? icon_wink.gif

    -intrigued

    PS I was in their boots at one time, so I know the feeling they have, and am trying to show there's light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak..


    I know, I was just being sarcastic icon_lol.gif. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but sometimes it's hard to know how long that tunnel is.
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:55 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    o I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago.


    Yeah, it is a bit of a numbers game.


    It is, very much so. I created something for myself I called Doug's Rule. Every evening I had to go out and talk to someone, anyone. Man woman old young tall short fat skinny handsome plain, it didn't matter. After talking for a few minutes I was free to go home. Many nights I was home within an hour of going out. After a few years of this I had met hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people. My work background was customer service, so this helped my work as well, lol.

    By the time I met Bill talking to strangers was a lot easier.
    There was a confidence I'd gained. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 17, 2014 4:57 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    blkapollo said
    meninlove said
    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.


    It's not polite to brag, son icon_rolleyes.gif


    They asked. If no one tells them, then what? How else will they know it happens? icon_wink.gif

    -intrigued

    PS I was in their boots at one time, so I know the feeling they have, and am trying to show there's light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak..


    I know, I was just being sarcastic icon_lol.gif. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but sometimes it's hard to know how long that tunnel is.


    lol, I know you were, you handsome sweetie. My tunnel was pretty long. 19 years old to 34 years old long.
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    Jan 17, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.
    Where/how did you meet them? Colour me ignorant, but I haven't the slightest clue where to begin.

    It's an inspiring story, but many of us are painfully shy, obviously damaged individuals.
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    Jan 17, 2014 6:00 AM GMT
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    Ajjax saidI get turned down constantly too, so you're not alone.
    I think that's because I'm void of personality or any redeeming qualities.

    I had been in a relationship for 5 months once. It was kind of stressful because he worked 2 jobs, didn't get to see each other much, and ultimately he dumped me.

    Generally, not as amazing as people make it out to be. This is just from experience though, and I may be talking out my ass.


    Those are very strong words...

    However true they may be...
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    Jan 17, 2014 6:16 AM GMT
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    meninlove said
    lol, I thought at one time I had the worst record for being rejected, so I just kept meeting more and more people, making friends, some casual and some not. The odds went up and I had a fair amount of flings and several serious relationships before I met Bill over 24 years ago. This year in Dec. we will celebrate 25 monogamous years together. I couldn't be happier.
    Where/how did you meet them? Colour me ignorant, but I haven't the slightest clue where to begin.

    It's an inspiring story, but many of us are painfully shy, obviously damaged individuals.


    Hmm...well yes, so was I. My hand used to shake picking up a beer. I could sweat a shirt out in 15 minutes so often carried spare in a backpack I took out with me.

    I hit wall after wall socially at first. I was very familiar with rejection.
    I went through periods of feeling very depressed and lonely. I perfected the art of crying alone, walking on a beach or in a park. Depression anxiety and loneliness had become old familiar friends. I accepted them as part of whatever odd journey I was on, and so slowly stopped giving those feelings so much attention.

    I began appreciating people enormously, and after talking to a hundred or so people discovered I wasn't alone in those feelings. They were like me!

    Interestingly, there came a resigned moment where I realized I might never meet my match, so to speak, but hey, I had mountains of people I could talk to. I think at that point things began changing in the way I outwardly and unconsciously expressed myself.

    I hope this helps!

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    Jan 17, 2014 6:27 AM GMT
    Relationships causes lots of feelings at different times. I choose to never be less happy with a relationship than alone. :-) Everyone... Should? Anyway!


    My personal experience with dating is usually like this.
    :O be happy alone and the mens will flock to me.. Kinda.. yea. After that .... ehhhh I don't know? Say thank you! :-) Be confused, recognize if you show interest in one other interested parties might try to slut shame you, proceed to ignore them all b.c I don't need grief.

    Or then quickly avoid all eye contact and disappear from the dance floor. :-)

    Or wow I like you so much but, you're trying to make me feel bad to make me like you more? - ewww :O Why do I like this person?!
    *push imaginary next button*

    Hope this helps. ( I laughed typing it :-) )
  • Deri245

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    Jan 19, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    Haha ye thanks everyone! The problem with me is I do have feelings for this one guy its just hard idk Ive told him but idk nothing happens.