musicdude saidAny who, I guess my question is : what is it that you do (wether its something big or something small) in order to stay happy? Is there something you do for others? yourself? I'd like to know.
I'm getting over it by changing the way I think about it.
You see, good and bad, ups and downs, active and passives, encouragement and discouragement, so on and so forth.... are part and parcel of our lives...one cannot exist without the other. It's impossible to think about good or ups when there's no bad or downs that gives some direction.
In order to get rid of bad things that are making you upset, one should inevitably admit that they should stay away from good as well. But, this thought or idea looks strange or weird for someone who reads for the first time. But, if we give a thought to it and try to practice ignoring the both(in other words be content with whatever we have) our mind will be in peace. This 'inner peace' is superior to both good and bad and gives you happiness that's everlasting(not the kind of happiness that only stays with you when something good happens to you and flies away when something bad happens).
This theory is called 'Advaita' (or) non-duality, which I learned sometime ago.
If you really want to be happy, be mentally prepared and accept that good and bad happens to everyone like passing clouds and one shouldn't expect to see the sky all the time throughout the year.
I hope this helps!