• musicdude

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    Jan 17, 2014 5:15 AM GMT
    there was a format error with this thread so i'm starting it again. please leave your comment there.
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    Jan 17, 2014 7:27 AM GMT

    I actually isolate myself to reflect when I feel sad and then I feel better. I guess that is effective for me. I'll reach out for support when I need it but, recognizing when to let stuff and people go usually allieviates my saddness. I have a tough time with denial at times recognizing what makes me happy is absolutely not. As I've aged I've believed more that being alone is not bad and depression is a sign for change.. Rather than patholigize depression try exercising it? I don't know what that means really but, it sounds fitting.

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    Jan 17, 2014 8:28 AM GMT
    musicdude saidAny who, I guess my question is : what is it that you do (wether its something big or something small) in order to stay happy? Is there something you do for others? yourself? I'd like to know.

    I'm getting over it by changing the way I think about it.

    You see, good and bad, ups and downs, active and passives, encouragement and discouragement, so on and so forth.... are part and parcel of our cannot exist without the other. It's impossible to think about good or ups when there's no bad or downs that gives some direction.

    In order to get rid of bad things that are making you upset, one should inevitably admit that they should stay away from good as well. But, this thought or idea looks strange or weird for someone who reads for the first time. But, if we give a thought to it and try to practice ignoring the both(in other words be content with whatever we have) our mind will be in peace. This 'inner peace' is superior to both good and bad and gives you happiness that's everlasting(not the kind of happiness that only stays with you when something good happens to you and flies away when something bad happens).

    This theory is called 'Advaita' (or) non-duality, which I learned sometime ago.

    If you really want to be happy, be mentally prepared and accept that good and bad happens to everyone like passing clouds and one shouldn't expect to see the sky all the time throughout the year.

    I hope this helps!