Avoiding Depression

  • musicdude

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    Jan 17, 2014 12:56 PM GMT
    As much as few people are willing to admit going through it themselves, mental illnesses are a part of our lives at some point or another. Wether it be something we're going through or something that someone we know is going through, we're all affected.

    For a few months now, I find myself at a low. I'm not sure if what I'm feeling would be considered clinical depression but I do find myself tired, irritable, low moraled and pessimistic. Focusing on my studies is proving more and more difficult, facing family is more and more challenging and I've been wanting to seclude myself from the world. I know this is counter to my goals because the only way I'll achieve my long term academic goals is to push forward and as for the rest well, secluding myself isn't going to help.

    Any who, I guess my question is : what is it that you do (wether its something big or something small) in order to stay happy? Is there something you do for others? yourself? I'd like to know.


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    Jan 17, 2014 1:08 PM GMT
    Blocking out all the external bad influences and finding ways to be at peace with myself. That's how I stay sane. I feel absolutely no pressure, because I know I will die one day. Death means salvation, so I can happily live towards that. That's probably gonna sound rather fatalistic, but it helps me to enjoy life a lot more.

    This probably isn't much help to you, but I thought i'd just answer your question.
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    Jan 17, 2014 1:39 PM GMT
    I do go through such period, and more frequently than I would like to. I don't think you can completely get rid of it but yeah meeting people, going out, doing something which can keep your mind off such thoughts, helps. You do need a good friend also with whom you can talk, and he can motivate or encourage you. Traveling to some place could benefit also. In a long run, you need to keep yourself busy. More free time on your hand, more you will find yourself filled with such thoughts.
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    Jan 17, 2014 2:16 PM GMT
    I don't think keeping busy is a way to deal with it, but more of a way to surpress it. It's about finding peace I think, but whatever works for you is best option of course.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 17, 2014 2:26 PM GMT
    Truppensturm saidBlocking out all the external bad influences and finding ways to be at peace with myself. That's how I stay sane. I feel absolutely no pressure, because I know I will die one day. Death means salvation, so I can happily live towards that. That's probably gonna sound rather fatalistic, but it helps me to enjoy life a lot more.

    This probably isn't much help to you, but I thought i'd just answer your question.



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    Jan 17, 2014 2:30 PM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Truppensturm saidBlocking out all the external bad influences and finding ways to be at peace with myself. That's how I stay sane. I feel absolutely no pressure, because I know I will die one day. Death means salvation, so I can happily live towards that. That's probably gonna sound rather fatalistic, but it helps me to enjoy life a lot more.

    This probably isn't much help to you, but I thought i'd just answer your question.



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    So many unnecessary anxiety about dying causes so much distress in people's lives, might as well embrace it and be at peace with it icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 17, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    Some mental illnesses don't make themselves apparent until you are in your 20's. I've seen it happen a few times.. friends all of a sudden have become bi-polar.
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    Jan 17, 2014 3:10 PM GMT
    Going to the gym and eating healthy have helped me. I've heard about meditation also helping. I used to go to counseling sessions, which were already included with the misc. fees for tuition at my school. I believe all schools offer them. I stopped because work and school schedules often conflicted.

    Anyway, there are various types of depression. Some people have minor bouts, while others have severe depression. I found talking about it to a counselor helped somewhat. It got a little bit repetitive, but it still helped to know there was someone listening to what I had to say.
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    Jan 17, 2014 5:16 PM GMT
    I think once you truly accept that life is pain, it no longer matters whether or not you're happy, you just keep going. For what reason, is what I'm still trying to figure out. Nothing seems worth it to keep going.
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    Jan 17, 2014 7:09 PM GMT
    I should probably add that i'm in no way depressed or have ever been depressed (i'm talking about the real thing here, everybody has times when they feel shitty).
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    Jan 17, 2014 7:46 PM GMT
    See, I knew my advice on being at peace with yourself wasn't at all far-fetched. Thanks YourName2000 and Lao Tzu for backing me up icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 17, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    I can't copy/paste my comment w. A tablet so, I'll get the root of it.

    When I feel sad I usually make life changes or, make sure that change for me is imminent. Usually that involves affecting people near me someway or another if just by existing visibly.

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    Jan 17, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    Montreal is far enough north, that more winter sunlight (artificial or otherwise) might help. People who live in the far north, often get SAD (Seasonal affective disorder).

    Physical exercise (even if you aren't in the mood) and sunlight can help.

    If you have clinical depression, anti-depressive drugs work for most people. You have to keep trying different ones until you get the right one for you, and it may take a while until you notice any effect.

    New research seems to indicate that Ketamine, also known as "Special K," can give almost instant relief. Since this is not yet an approved drug, you probably could not get a prescription for it (from a veterinarian, perhaps?). Try it at your own risk - available at clubs and raves, but who knows at what purity.
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    Jan 19, 2014 1:57 AM GMT
    OP, you may be depressed. If how you feel is interfering with things you usually like to do or with things you need to do, you should see a doctor - preferably a psychiatrist. Talk therapy and/or meds can help. But it can take time to see results and most meds may give you side effects before they start helping with your mood.

    Things you should do on your own: make sure you get 7-9 hours of sleep per night, eat well, exercise, get sunlight when you can. it's important to keep doing stuff and seeing people - even if you don't feel like it. Isolating yourself is a symptom of depression that feeds on itself.

    Good luck! Feel free to PM me.
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    Jan 19, 2014 2:54 AM GMT
    I think you'll find some very good (and very bad -- be careful) advice in this thread:
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    Diet and exercise make a much bigger difference to your mental health than most people realize.
  • jessetriguy

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    Jan 24, 2014 4:09 PM GMT
    Whenever confronted with a situation that gets me down I always accept it and tell myself "it is what it is". I try not to dwell on it. Gym and work keep my mind off of things. What really helps me get through bad days is being around happy family and friends. They always make me feel like everything is going to be ok.icon_wink.gif Good Luck to you
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    Jan 24, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    Well, for me i'm kinda introverted so, when I find things around me get to chaotic for me to handle I just seclude myself from everyone and everything. Hm, just recently I found myself a boyfriend, so when I get too stressed out I either talk to him on the phone or hangout with him in his room. Sex is also a good stress reliever for me.

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    Jan 25, 2014 9:37 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidMontreal is far enough north, that more winter sunlight (artificial or otherwise) might help. People who live in the far north, often get SAD (Seasonal affective disorder).

    Physical exercise (even if you aren't in the mood) and sunlight can help.

    If you have clinical depression, anti-depressive drugs work for most people. You have to keep trying different ones until you get the right one for you, and it may take a while until you notice any effect.

    New research seems to indicate that Ketamine, also known as "Special K," can give almost instant relief. Since this is not yet an approved drug, you probably could not get a prescription for it (from a veterinarian, perhaps?). Try it at your own risk - available at clubs and raves, but who knows at what purity.


    I'm gonna just express this is probably not a wise choice from observations at parties and reading party monster..
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    Jan 25, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    Ajjax saidI think once you truly accept that life is pain, it no longer matters whether or not you're happy, you just keep going. For what reason, is what I'm still trying to figure out. Nothing seems worth it to keep going.


    I don't feel pain sitting in bed right now :O this post is depressing!
  • Webster666

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    Jan 25, 2014 9:53 PM GMT
    I have regular chiropractor appointments (every 2 to 4 weeks), where he does massage, then an adjustment. I come out of there feeling "up." By that, I mean that I feel happy and have a positive attitude.

    What's missing in your life, and what are you doing to get it ?
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    Apr 15, 2014 11:16 AM GMT
    "You will find that help will always be given here to those who ask for it."

    By Dumbledore.
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    Apr 15, 2014 1:47 PM GMT
    avoid the drugs (anti depressants) but if you do indulge this way:
    -first off pick a functional health care provider. If they are not working for you move to another, i mean politely tell them in person to their face their service at $100/hr sux and if they can recommend another college.
    -quality factors are how stable are your mood swings. if you find your self not wanting to wear underwear to the office you might want to ck your self. vs. Lusting for the exact o knife and your wrist. Consistent emotions are the key. People will notice.


    Avoid the drugs
    find a hobby, meet new people. For example get that extra college degree, get a sportbike, something really really difficult to do. Your going to need a challenge that might last you a few years.


    I took the sportbike rout. Ate hospital food some times but on the up side (sooo important) met people I would never dream existed and did things I never dreamed about. Lost weight. Started a gym addiction. No reason a mid life crisis cant be self serving and positive.

    My partner took the clinical drug rout and did not fair as well.