Forever Alone.. Because You're Scared! (Your True Relationship Success Stories)

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    Jan 18, 2014 5:57 AM GMT
    So I have read a Ton of how to's and advice from people on how to get guys you like to like you back, or understand if he is showing you signs of interest but it Never Helps!
    It is one thing to read someone's thoughts of what can help you and be inspired by that, and Then act upon those feelings

    I'm on my last straw trying to understand what's going on around me. I have had ridiculously hot guys playing the flirt game With ME ( 0_0)... I don't understand, it has come to the point where its obvious its flirting but this gay generation is dealing with the ultimate offenders.. Straight guys who like to mess with possibly or fully out gay guys.. what for I do not know! Maybe they really were gay but you are both deathly scared to voice your views you both stay single and are forced to move on

    I am So Tired of being scared of their reactions and seeing these guys disappear form my life for forever

    I feel people like me need more than advice.. we want to hear what has been Proven to work. We want to know Exactly how you met the significant other in your life or one of your past ones

    The stories don't have to be about you dating someone you though was straight, just any tale of the how things started will help Very Much!

    Did he pursue you? Was it your Gaydar that attracted you to him?

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    (sorry for stealing this vid from another poster here but the lead is Really hot And these signs never work for me though I notice them)

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    Jan 18, 2014 6:06 AM GMT
    ^ invalid Response........... Invalid Response............
    Ack!!!!!!!!!!!1 Ack!!!!!!!!!!
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    Do you know how many relationships a straight person my age has been through already? A TON! Not that I'm keeping numbers but it is only natural to have a feeling of wanting for another around this time...

    So Once again.... INVALID!
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    Jan 18, 2014 6:14 AM GMT
    Listen.. stop posting in her about that.. you are off topic. The topic wasn't only for me ether
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    Jan 18, 2014 6:18 AM GMT
    Everyone at your age is anxious for a relationship. It'll happen sooner or later, worrying about it won't make it come any faster, although I know this will be of no comfort. It's one reason I don't miss those days.
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    Jan 18, 2014 6:19 AM GMT
    Pazzy, the virgin who lives in his mother's basement and has yet to even kiss a man is giving relationship advice???? That's real golden!!!icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 18, 2014 6:22 AM GMT
    He's not too young to 'handle a relationship' and yeah its totally normal to want to have a partner. You have to take risks, you might get rejected or the relationship might end up with you gettin hurt, but that's how it goes. No risk no gain.
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    Jan 18, 2014 3:35 PM GMT
    Your feelings are natural. All I ever wanted was a nice, solid relationship like my parents still have.
    There are usually a few relationships in your early 20's that teach you many valuable lessons about what it takes to compromise and live with someone else. If you're lucky, you'll find the right one on your first few tries.
    For me, the third time was most definitely the charm.
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    Jan 18, 2014 3:57 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidThere are usually a few relationships in your early 20's that teach you many valuable lessons about what it takes to compromise and live with someone else. If you're lucky, you'll find the right one on your first few tries.

    Or you'll figure out that you're not relationship material. Some of us just aren't.
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    Jan 19, 2014 1:48 AM GMT
    ^ That's a sad way t think about it... icon_cry.gif

    Also.. Is there any point in seeing someone you Know nothing long term can come from, or are they just wasting your time?
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    Jan 19, 2014 1:58 AM GMT
    Just jump into the first relationship as soon as you can. Move in .... make up a story that you got thrown out of your place. It doesn't matter if he is interested in you, he'll grow to love you in time.

    OR

    Come to the realization that you don't need to be in a relationship to be a whole and complete person and the world is not going to end if you don't find someone. Enjoy everyday and if that perfect guy ever comes along then it will have been worth the wait.
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    Jan 19, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 said^ That's a sad way t think about it... icon_cry.gif

    Also.. Is there any point in seeing someone you Know nothing long term can come from, or are they just wasting your time?


    not if you want a long term thing
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    Jan 19, 2014 2:31 AM GMT
    David3000 said
    ReeBad19 said^ That's a sad way t think about it... icon_cry.gif

    Also.. Is there any point in seeing someone you Know nothing long term can come from, or are they just wasting your time?


    not if you want a long term thing


    Yeah I answered my own question kind of.. it just seems people use others as practice a lot or just for temporary fun... I just couldn't see the fun in something you Know will end..
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    Jan 19, 2014 3:17 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 said^ invalid Response........... Invalid Response............
    Ack!!!!!!!!!!!1 Ack!!!!!!!!!!
    /~_~/

    Do you know how many relationships a straight person my age has been through already? A TON! Not that I'm keeping numbers but it is only natural to have a feeling of wanting for another around this time...

    So Once again.... INVALID!


    yea but those relationships end up (95%) in the gutter, they are more hassle then they are worth, lots of unnecessary drama, and bs. Lets face it, kids in your generation (yes, I can finally say i'm that old haha) are just not looking for boyfriends, they want to just get some ass and leave. I know it's hard but, good things happens to those who wait.
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    Jan 19, 2014 3:40 AM GMT
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    ReeBad19 said^ invalid Response........... Invalid Response............
    Ack!!!!!!!!!!!1 Ack!!!!!!!!!!
    /~_~/

    Do you know how many relationships a straight person my age has been through already? A TON! Not that I'm keeping numbers but it is only natural to have a feeling of wanting for another around this time...

    So Once again.... INVALID!


    yea but those relationships end up (95%) in the gutter, they are more hassle then they are worth, lots of unnecessary drama, and bs. Lets face it, kids in your generation (yes, I can finally say i'm that old haha) are just not looking for boyfriends, they want to just get some ass and leave. I know it's hard but, good things happens to those who wait.


    +1

    To OP, you barely scratched the surface in life. Take a chance, you said you're scared of what other guys reaction will be. I'm sorry but man up, no one's going to hold your hand and get you in a relationship with someone. If you want someone, and you're unsure of their sexuality or if they're even interested, for God's sake just ask. And please don't feel like at 19, you're running out of time. There's more to life than trying to be in a relationship. It will come to you at the right time .
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    Jan 19, 2014 3:42 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 said^ That's a sad way t think about it... icon_cry.gif

    Also.. Is there any point in seeing someone you Know nothing long term can come from, or are they just wasting your time?

    It's a sad fact of our culture that as a general rule gay teenagers don't get to hold hands, make out, date and go steady the way their straight counterparts do. Remember, whether you do it as a teenager or you do it as a 20something, *most* people have to go through that learning phase.

    Personally, I don't understand why so many very young (under 25) gay guys are looking to find "the one" and settle down. I understand they want a companion and steady sex BUT, the reality is *most* (perhaps not all but most) guys that age just aren't emotionally ready to have a committed relationship.

    There is so much to learn about yourself, about life, about how to communicate with other guys -- so on and such -- and the only way you can learn about these things is by going out and meeting people (yes in RL) and *dating* them. I emphasize that word because dating isn't a romp in the hay. Yeah, you might get laid but that isn't what a date is about. Dating is going out to dinner or a movie or to watch a game or something -- a time to hang out and have fun and enjoy one another's company. It requires logistics, communication, deciding who is paying for what… the kinds of things RELATIONSHIPS are made of.
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    Jan 19, 2014 3:55 AM GMT


    In a movie called Rear Window (James Stewart and Grace Kelly romance, Alfred Hitchcock movie) Stella, a nurse gives this advice:

    "When I married Myles, we were both maladjusted misfits. We still are. And we've loved every minute of it."

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    Jan 19, 2014 3:58 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidI want a normal relationship and more.




    *winks warmly*
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    Jan 19, 2014 4:00 AM GMT


    Yes it can be scary , OP, but there's also this:

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    Jan 19, 2014 4:34 AM GMT
    ReeBad19 said^ That's a sad way t think about it... icon_cry.gif

    Don't feel sad for me when I don't feel sad for myself. kthx