omniwinery saidThe new mailman is really hunky. When he smiles at me, it makes my weenie feel funny.
How should I go about seducing him? Should I ask him out when his shift is over?
I'm afraid he might say no, and it would be awkward afterwards.
On an extra cold day, have cocoa ready when he shows up.
On an extra hot day, have ice water ready when he shows up. (Ehhh...in Toronto the latter may be a while off. Scratch that.)
Pour some for him and some for you. Make small talk. With very few exceptions hetero guys are quick to "flaunt it" by working their wife/gf into conversations. Or, if single or looking to cheat they'll ask if you know where to find attractive available women in the neighborhood. Straight male privilege allows for that. You don't have to ask the "are you..." question. They'll answer it for you.
If he's pressed for time as mail carriers often are, and hasn't outed himself as not one of us, there's your opening. Let him know - without leering or anything like that - he can stop by after work and get his cocoa then.
Think of this in terms of "befriending," not "seducing," for now. First things first.