Do you really enjoy pleasing other guys sexually, or are you just "taking turns" with them? Do other guys do that to you?

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    Dec 14, 2008 9:41 PM GMT
    I can tell when some guy is just doing me in bed while on "auto pilot," to earn the right for me to do him next. Or he's returning the "favor" if I did him first. In either case, he's very mechanical, just going through the motions, an obligation, not a pleasure for him.

    I, on the other hand, love giving men pleasure and orgasms. Many lovers have independently told me exactly the same thing: that I get a "cat that ate the canary" silly grin of self-satisfaction when I've given them a mind-blowing orgasm.

    Their pleasure is mine, and the more intensely they cum, and yell and carry on, the happier I am. Not to mention that I simply adore a man's equipment, and having it in my mouth and hands, and using techniques he may never have experienced before. (BTW, I'm not a submissive, in case you were wondering, just the opposite)

    So what's your experience with other guys? The mechanical taking-his-turn kind of guy, or someone who's really into it, having a great time for your sake as much as his? And if you want to say, what kind of lover do you think YOU are?
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    Dec 14, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    it all depends on the guy and the mood I'm in really, but, I do take a lot of pleasure in knowing I'm causing his that much excitement/pleasure its a turn on knowing a guy is really into you.

    But I've met guys who try to get mechanical and if I don't stop them, then I'll take total control and just do what I want since there just returning the favor they can shut up and let me have some fun icon_smile.gif
  • brianstephens

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    Dec 15, 2008 7:29 AM GMT
    haha...

    i really enjoy it.
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    Dec 15, 2008 9:21 PM GMT
    I'm a pleaser. icon_smile.gif

    I wish there more more dudes like us out there who love to make their men feel good. But until I find one... I'm satisfied just giving it away. icon_twisted.gif
  • rnch

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    Dec 16, 2008 12:22 AM GMT
    one of the many things i like about my current FB is that he gives back as good as he gets from me. icon_cool.gif
  • BostonGuy6

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    Dec 16, 2008 1:22 AM GMT
    so I definitely enjoy giving pleasure to guys soo much... it really turns me on to make a guy moan and groan and writhe and squirm and scream in pleasure... really gets me going and sometimes I don't mind to give and not get back but not all the time..

    one problem I've had is lately I've been hooking up with a lot of bicurious guys and they really are just using me for their pleasure which I don't really mind.. i just would like it in return sometimes, and I want them to want to give me pleasure not that its forced cuz then thats really not a turn on either. that also bothers me cuz I'm not the biggest on purely hookups, and the fact that these guys would never want me as a person really makes me a bit depressed icon_cry.gif but i always know that going into it, so its really my own damn fault.

    on the other hand, there was this gay guy that I was doing a really good friendship with benefits thing and sleepovers and such. hung out with him almost every day for a few weeks, and he was dead sexy. and a lot of mornings I would get up and give him head. but most of the time I wouldn't ask to receive it and I enjoyed him waking up to pleasure... and I was 18 at the time (but mature for my age) and he was 23 and I felt sometimes he thought that I was immature..and looked down on me because I was young. and he thought he could just get away all the time with never getting me off, which didn't make me feel that great. but one day (this is actually quite funny) we were hooking up, and I was giving him head and he was returning the favor on and off.. and then he busted and we had the moment of after sex whatever.. and he said to me, "let's go have some ice cream sandwiches!! mm that sounds good do you want one cuz I do! let's go upstairs." and I said while laughing "no! I don't want an ice cream sandwich, I want you to suck my dick. nice try" lol it was really funny, we were both laughing he was like are you sure? I said yea lol and he gave me head. but that kind of bothered me cuz he really didn't enjoy giving me pleasure and was quite selfish in bed anyways.. and thought that I was immature enough to fall for the ice cream sandwiches bit. ahahha but yea that's my funny input
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    Dec 16, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
    i would actually rather just be the one pleasing they guy lol. i love getting a guy off so, much fun. but it's more fun for me to get off on my own.

    when im with a guy im very specific in what i like to get off and if it's not a certain way it just doesnt do much for me :/
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    Dec 16, 2008 5:05 AM GMT
    If a guy is really aggressive and he is not really my type I might let him just service me if that turns him on. My favorite story about being serviced was when I was in a straight bar watching college ball during march madness. I met this truck driver who asked me where a strip club was. I told him where I thought one was but when he asked me how it was, I told him that's not my thing. He suddenly became more interested. After a few brews he asked me why I never married. I told him why. He then says, "you want to know something", and I said, "what that you're bi'. He looks surprised and says, "how did you know?". I told him because I know a lot of bi-guys. He then tells me that he and his girlfriend often have threesome with another guy or another woman and that they both go bi during the threesomes. What he like most is going down on a guy. He then asked me if I wanted a bj. The thought of going down on him did not appeal to me but the thought of being serviced in the cab of a truck did. So I made sure he was happy with just servicing me before I said yes. After I came he said. "man that was great you made me feel like such a faggot!"

    When I was younger I would turn down all the offers for head from guys who were aggressive. I was always so surprised and how blunt they were. But now if I haven't had sex in a long time I figure why not. The way I see it, is if I'm really smitten by a guy, I have no problem with doing the work. In fact in that case I like giving him a sexual message. I offered a really hot guy a message one night which led to sex, dinner and then a night of spooning. I blew him but he never blew me and I had no problem with that.

    Clearly the best is when you are both so into each other that you both want to give. I'm afraid that has happened to me in a long time and if it does happen I think I would have a hard time if we didn't get to see each other over and over again.
  • PRDGUY

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    Dec 16, 2008 7:03 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidI can tell when some guy is just doing me in bed while on "auto pilot," to earn the right for me to do him next. Or he's returning the "favor" if I did him first. In either case, he's very mechanical, just going through the motions, an obligation, not a pleasure for him.

    I, on the other hand, love giving men pleasure and orgasms. Many lovers have independently told me exactly the same thing: that I get a "cat that ate the canary" silly grin of self-satisfaction when I've given them a mind-blowing orgasm.

    Their pleasure is mine, and the more intensely they cum, and yell and carry on, the happier I am. Not to mention that I simply adore a man's equipment, and having it in my mouth and hands, and using techniques he may never have experienced before. (BTW, I'm not a submissive, in case you were wondering, just the opposite)

    So what's your experience with other guys? The mechanical taking-his-turn kind of guy, or someone who's really into it, having a great time for your sake as much as his? And if you want to say, what kind of lover do you think YOU are?


    rite with u there..... am top but if we take turns my suk bud does me first, or at same time.... and he loves it as he sed knows my cock as gud as his and feelin the swellin, throbbin,, pulses.... it turns him on....
    when i do him hes lovin it as i also get turned on for exact same reason so 'imho' blieve two dudes totally at ease/confy w/each other aren't just returnin the favor.... sumtimes he'll just say hes horny but will demand that he let him blow me no recriprecation..... and hell suk me slowly and spend 2hrs till he lets me blow.... still such a turn on 4me that i demand 2 rtn the nut.... usually we go ave of 3 times... record was 6 days w/o nuttin- we were away, and upon rtn from 4pm til 1030am next mornin was record most times, longest time...... but even thou hes best/ closest friend and found since he realized he was SSA/bi we've becum closer than ne1.... other experiences r similiar and no even tho we are not boyfrnds there is no single thing we wont discuss

    those just doin it cuz u are nutting u last and they show no enjoyment in it it shud be avoided... however in my experiences this seems very rare

    loverwise- well been told excellent but u wud need to get their opinions..... if this gud w/ my best frnd/suck bud itll be better once in with and civilly united w/ my husband! [tomir1 any thoughts??????? icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif ]
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    Dec 16, 2008 8:35 PM GMT
    The best kind of sex is when both of us are enjoying it. I think we feed off of each others passion in the process of building to a climax. We love to cum together at the same time but sometimes I cum first. Luckily, I tend to stay hard for a long time after I cum so I can usually continue to please him until he cums. I prefer to be looking in his eyes at this point because I love to see the reactions he is having even when he is not moaning and I want to be ready to kiss him again just before we start laughing.

    When I was single I was very active sexually. Some people might have called me a whore, but I do not like this word applied in this way because I find sex to be such a beautiful and joyous experience. Anyway, I found that there is a whole spectrum of experiences with guys. Sometimes, as you mentioned, a guy seems to be so robotic or just plain inactive and just lie there on his stomach. I sometimes did not even know that a guy came until he would turn over and I would wonder how that happened because he did not even move his arms or make a sound. I hate to criticise this kind of guy because I guess that is what they liked but for me it was boring. Then there are the guys who seem to think I was a jungle gym, moving around my body at great speed as if I was going to get up and go somewhere. In this world, it takes all kinds and everything in between.
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    Dec 16, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    alexander7 saidThe best kind of sex is when both of us are enjoying it. I think we feed off of each others passion in the process of building to a climax. We love to cum together at the same time but sometimes I cum first. Luckily, I tend to stay hard for a long time after I cum so I can usually continue to please him until he cums. I prefer to be looking in his eyes at this point because I love to see the reactions he is having even when he is not moaning and I want to be ready to kiss him again just before we start laughing.

    When I was single I was very active sexually. Some people might have called me a whore, but I do not like this word applied in this way because I find sex to be such a beautiful and joyous experience. Anyway, I found that there is a whole spectrum of experiences with guys. Sometimes, as you mentioned, a guy seems to be so robotic or just plain inactive and just lie there on his stomach. I sometimes did not even know that a guy came until he would turn over and I would wonder how that happened because he did not even move his arms or make a sound. I hate to criticise this kind of guy because I guess that is what they liked but for me it was boring. Then there are the guys who seem to think I was a jungle gym, moving around my body at great speed as if I was going to get up and go somewhere. In this world, it takes all kinds and everything in between.
    alex, if you are ever in new orleans.......
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    Dec 21, 2008 2:28 PM GMT
    mmm, I fully love pleasing the other dude. if u read any of my blog, you'd see what I mean, lol.

    I demand first touch cause it is the most exciting, in fact I usually slap a dudes hand away if he tries to touch his own junk...that's my job.

    and I don't always have to have recip....though I definately keep track and if I'm not getting it after the second time, you're out...then again, I'm not afraid to take what I want.
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    Dec 21, 2008 2:46 PM GMT
    rnch said
    alex, if you are ever in new orleans.......


    mch, you've been saying that to all the guys!
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    Dec 24, 2008 4:39 AM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidmmm, I fully love pleasing the other dude. if u read any of my blog, you'd see what I mean, lol.

    I demand first touch cause it is the most exciting, in fact I usually slap a dudes hand away if he tries to touch his own junk...that's my job.

    and I don't always have to have recip....though I definately keep track and if I'm not getting it after the second time, you're out...then again, I'm not afraid to take what I want.


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    Dec 24, 2008 9:49 AM GMT
    I have always loved pleasing another guy, and because I love giving head, and have attained a certain level of expertise in the practice, my sexual partners have very rarely gone away disappointed. Well except for the ones I refused to have sex with again because they turned out to be egotistical jerks.
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    Apr 21, 2010 12:36 AM GMT
    I like pleasing someone who acts like they are actually feeling something.

    But a lot of guys' dicks are so insensitive that I get bored and lose patience. If the only way to get you off is letting you jackhammer me, just forget it.
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    Apr 21, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    I love pleasuring! Very sensual and I love the physical contact. I love getting them so worked up they can't wait to flip me over and.... icon_redface.gif um, nevermind....................
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    Apr 21, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    I am an aggressor...but I never mind if the other takes the wheel, as a matter of fact...the element of surprise would be great (but I don't have that in my relationship...he doesn't even like sex).

    If I do anything for him, he just does it back to repay. It's actually really sad and makes me doubt my relationship.
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    Apr 21, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    I like to please...whenever i get and unresponsive guy or someone who's kinda
    "bleh" about it, I get turned off and my mind says "if he's not liking it then i should stop"...i definitely get off by seeing the other guy having a good time and truly enjoying me.

    For me, the one of the greatest turn on is to see a guy trying to stop himself from cumming so that it doesn't end...a greater turn on is when i see the that guy finally shoot because he can't hold it in much longer.
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    Apr 21, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    nysexy saidI like to please...whenever i get and unresponsive guy or someone who's kinda
    "bleh" about it, I get turned off and my mind says "if he's not liking it then i should stop"...i definitely get off by seeing the other guy having a good time and truly enjoying me.


    Agreed. To me that is the ultimate downer during sex, and I have been known to stop it there and then and leave (or just go shower if it is a boyfriend).

    nysexy said
    For me, the one of the greatest turn on is to see a guy trying to stop himself from cumming so that it doesn't end...a greater turn on is when i see the that guy finally shoot because he can't hold it in much longer.


    Now that is what I am talking about! icon_cool.gif

    Few guys are like that, though. Now and again when I do find one, I just want to marry them. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 21, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    nysexy saidI like to please...whenever i get and unresponsive guy or someone who's kinda
    "bleh" about it, I get turned off and my mind says "if he's not liking it then i should stop"...i definitely get off by seeing the other guy having a good time and truly enjoying me.


    Agreed. To me that is the ultimate downer during sex, and I have been known to stop it there and then and leave (or just go shower if it is a boyfriend).

    nysexy said
    For me, the one of the greatest turn on is to see a guy trying to stop himself from cumming so that it doesn't end...a greater turn on is when i see the that guy finally shoot because he can't hold it in much longer.


    Now that is what I am talking about! icon_cool.gif

    Few guys are like that, though. Now and again when I do find one, I just want to marry them. icon_wink.gif



    Don't you just love that "I want more but i don't think i can handle it" combined with a "I did not expect that AT ALL" look on their face???

    Keeps me smiling for days sometimes