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    Jan 21, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    My good friend's son is having his bar mitzvah and I want to give a generous but not absurd cash gift. How much should I give?
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    Jan 21, 2014 1:50 AM GMT
    A jillion dollars would be impressive.
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    Jan 21, 2014 1:53 AM GMT
    Keys to the yacht and a card for the fuel dock.

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    Jan 21, 2014 2:00 AM GMT
    First off, they are still a kid, second how good of a friend

    Acquaintance: 10 - 15
    Work buddy: 25 - 35
    Best friend: 50 - 100

    Or some where in between ... it also depends on your income ... if you are a lawyer or doctor, you can probably double or triple the above

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    Jan 21, 2014 2:00 AM GMT
    This bar mitzvah is in two weeks so no time to save for the yacht. Any guesstimate would be helpful.
    Please.
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    Jan 21, 2014 2:02 AM GMT
    Thanks,Moonhawk, this helps.
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    Jan 21, 2014 2:04 AM GMT
    Savings bonds are probably still appropriate. They mature just in time for college.
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    Jan 21, 2014 2:05 AM GMT
    I think MoonHawk is a bit on the low side.
    I'd say $25 if you barely know the parents, $75 for relative or good friend, $150 if you're like an uncle to the kid.
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    Jan 21, 2014 3:25 AM GMT
    The important thing to consider is that your monetary gift to the kid really ends up going to the parents to pay for the reception and the kid might just get a cut from that (at least that's how it was back in my day --- and I didn't feel bad about it - I knew my parents weren't made of money...)

    Anyway, nowadays I say $100 per guest...

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    Jan 21, 2014 3:52 AM GMT
    Flattery will get you everywhere.
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    Jan 21, 2014 7:25 AM GMT
    If they're loaded or have loaded friends/family and you can afford it: $500. Those kids get loaded at these mitzvah's because the family and friends make it rain.

    If they're not loaded $100 sounds appropriate for a good friend's son. Honestly $100 across the board doesn't sound bad but $500 will definitely make you a little bit more appreciated icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:14 AM GMT
    ChristopherMcG saidIf they're loaded or have loaded friends/family and you can afford it: $500. Those kids get loaded at these mitzvah's because the family and friends make it rain.

    If they're not loaded $100 sounds appropriate for a good friend's son. Honestly $100 across the board doesn't sound bad but $500 will definitely make you a little bit more appreciated icon_lol.gif

    Christophermc sounds like in the ballpark. Depends on how close you are, how big a deal is the bar mitzvah, and how much you can afford. Are the parents spending a couple hundred thousand $ for an over the top event, or is this a small event?