Is it still a bromance...?

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    Jan 21, 2014 4:43 PM GMT
    Wanna start out by saying I'm a bi (no one knows that) college kid and I have this friend who I've grown really close to the past several months.

    From what I can tell, he's VERY straight haha...but people used to always JOKE about us being a couple and we got pretty touchy feely. We'd hug, cuddle, do little pecks on the cheek...but basically when we were separated by break (he lives out of state), he'd text me every day and ask how my day was going and what I was up to.

    When we got back to school, literally just one thing led to the other...and he stayed over last night. We kissed on our faces, necks, chest/stomach...it was real nice and we loved it. And he kept telling me how much he loved me and I love him like a bro/best friend so I'd say it back

    We made out a few times and I played with his thighs...but other than that, no butt or dick action whatsoever. We both did just lightly squeeze each other's asses but dicks just stayed off limits without us saying anything.

    I dunno....I still want this to be a bromance like before because I do love him, just not like that. And I know he wants it to be a bromance too despite how much he loves it/me...and he keeps saying "oh we have to stop" but then says "oh who are we kidding" but then says "after tonight no more"

    What do you guys think?

    How can I make sure things don't get awkward...that's my BIGGEST concern
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    Jan 21, 2014 5:40 PM GMT
    I thought "NO PHOTOS" guy were not allowed to post in the forums?


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    it's not gay if your balls don't touch.
    Bro-Code 101.
    A High-five always tilts the Kinsay scale back the other way.
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    Jan 21, 2014 8:02 PM GMT
    I wouldn't bring it up until it actually goes too far for you (if ever it happens). I think it's ok to have very intimate "friendly" relationships, as long as mutual bounds are respected.

    If anything, during your "sessions", you could just insist more on the non-romantic nature of it, like "I love you too bro, you're really my best friend" or something. If ever he tries to go for more, just stop him very gently and say that you'd rather not, but keep "playing" to show him that you do love what you guys already share. Just don't lead him on, I guess.
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    Jan 21, 2014 8:05 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidI thought "NO PHOTOS" guy was not allowed to post in the forums?


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    it's not gay if your balls don't touch.
    Bro-Code 101.
    A High-five always tilts the Kinsay scale back the other way.
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    Jan 21, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    Next time the situation arises, both of you should drink a lot, so you are mildly drunk. When you are rolling around together, notice whether his dick gets hard. There's nothing like alcohol to excuse overcoming inhibitions among college students. This scenario plays out a million times a year across american college campuses. If anything serious happens, you both have the option of pretending not to remember the next day (if he does not remember, neither do you), or be honest about it and see how the events affected your relationship - if at all.
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    Jan 21, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    It won't get awkward until one of you decides you've done something wrong, and I see nothing wrong with the situation as it is.
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    Jan 21, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidI thought "NO PHOTOS" guy were not allowed to post in the forums?

    I guess there are either exceptions or it doesn't work icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 21, 2014 11:23 PM GMT
    You've gone from romance to homance.
    (as in homo, not ho)
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    Jan 21, 2014 11:45 PM GMT
    One thing you can love a guy no matter what your relationship is. Hang on to that. If there is anything uncomfortable just move on with your friendship. I am bi. I had a straight roommate in college and he always wanted to wrestle and then hump each other. I didn't feel that would retain our roommate situation so never consented but to this day wish we experimented. I know he did before. He is now fat, bald and unattractive but a successful lawyer with kids.
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    Jan 23, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    So I actually did have a few pics but got paranoid he'd google the same situation and see me posting here and recognize me or something haha

    But anyways, last night the same thing happened again...he stayed over and this time actually had cologne around his neck just for me and asked me to where some. Again, we did pretty much everything like before (made out, kissed face, neck, stomach, upper thighs, and even ass this time...the slobbery kind. I'm not gonna lie it was nice...but again, I'm not interested in starting up a romantic relationship with him since I see him as a best friend.

    Again, there was NO DICK ACTION whatsoever...never touched or saw it, but when he was on top of me I could feel it was hard like mine (even though I feel like that'd happen to any straight guy that turned on)

    He said he loves me like crazy and that it drives him crazy, and I say I love him back even though I mean as a best friend, which he is.

    We both agreed we should stop, and we do this by gradually taking a few things out from each session. This time, the making out parts had no tongue and we didn't do any chest action.

    My MAIN CONCERN is keeping the friendship as before without it becoming awkward...I don't know if he likes me, I mean I always thought he was 100% straight...but I also don't know how to tell him that I don't want it going beyond what it is and that I just don't want things getting weirder
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    Jan 23, 2014 6:30 PM GMT
    It's already awkward, you might as well give him a blowjob icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 23, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    Aman123 saidwe did pretty much everything like before (made out, kissed face, neck, stomach, upper thighs, and even ass this time...the slobbery kind.

    He said he loves me like crazy

    ...I don't know if he likes me,



    ....for real?


    el oh el.
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    Jan 23, 2014 8:00 PM GMT
    Aman123 said..I don't know if he likes me, I mean I always thought he was 100% straight...but I also don't know how to tell him that I don't want it going beyond what it is and that I just don't want things getting weirder


    Vanna White, the player would like to buy a clue!icon_rolleyes.gif


    He is NOT 100% straight, you can bet on that. If he was, he would never consent to kiss you anywhere on your body, let alone fool around sexually and get aroused while doing so.

    He is gay, or at the least bi, like you.
    Tell him that you like having fun and getting intimate with him, but that you're not willing to out of hand or 'weirder' as you put it, or else it will do both.