I'm getting kicked off of RJ and other related sites because I'm not 18. The twist? I'm 21.

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    Jan 21, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    So it all started the other night on another gay website in a chat room. Out of nowhere a guy starts jumping on me saying I'm a terrible person, nasty twink, ect, ect. I seriously didn't know the guy and decided not to feed the flame. He invites me to a private chat and says he knows where I work and what I do, and actually nails it. At this point I freak the fuck out so I screencap the shot and send it to the sites customer service.

    Well, he sends me a private message explaining that he has reported me to the admin for not being 18. Lol okay that's cool I'm 21 anyway. Fast forward to today, BANNED for not being 18. They want a copy of my photo ID and me holding a newspaper just to access the site. Sorry, not doing it.

    Check on another website... BANNED for not being 18. I can't even log into my account as it is "under investigation."

    Now the kicker, I receive an E-mail from RJ customer support saying that my account is suspended until further notice. I hop on here and everything is fine, and I honestly don't think the RJ admin has sent me an E-mail. I don't understand why I've been banned from the other sites though... I hate looking so young sometimes. I guess the situation is more funny than anything though. icon_lol.gif

    This is worse than the time I was ID'd for buying condoms!
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2260765


    Edit: The RJ e-mail is most definitely not a legit one. Yay!
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    Jan 21, 2014 7:21 PM GMT
    It's most likely your Ex. doing it.

    How's that restraining order coming?
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    Jan 21, 2014 7:22 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidIt's most likely your Ex. doing it.

    How's that restraining order coming?


    I seriously thought that, but I really have no proof. I'm not sure that he would be following me from site to site either, but he is crazy so who knows.
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    Jan 21, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    dustin_K_tx saidIt's most likely your Ex. doing it.

    How's that restraining order coming?

    I seriously thought that, but I really have no proof. I'm not sure that he would be following me from site to site either, but he is crazy so who knows.

    You may be a victim of malicious attacks by some online psycho, perhaps the very one in the encounter you described.

    I've had a few of them happen to me. Some people online are seriously deranged. And just like the hackers who crave attention & importance by disrupting the Internet on a large scale, some get their cruel kicks by hurting individuals one-on-one.

    Some will dismiss it as a form of classic bullying, but I see it more seriously as the work of a potentially dangerous sociopath. I would recommend you change your account names & passwords, and avoid posting pics of yourself until this harassment stops.
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    Jan 21, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    JumpMan_Josh said
    dustin_K_tx saidIt's most likely your Ex. doing it.

    How's that restraining order coming?

    I seriously thought that, but I really have no proof. I'm not sure that he would be following me from site to site either, but he is crazy so who knows.

    You may be a victim of malicious attacks by some online psycho, perhaps the very one in the encounter you described.

    I've had a few of them happen to me. Some people online are seriously deranged. And just like the hackers who crave attention & importance by disrupting the Internet on a large scale, some get their kicks by hurting individuals on a one-by-one basis.

    Some will dismiss it as a form of classic bullying, but I see it more seriously as the work of a potentially dangerous sociopath. I would recommend you change your account names & passwords, and avoid posting pics of yourself until this harassment stops.


    Yeah, I requested that my accounts be completely deleted from their cache' instead of under suspension, so that solves that problem. In the meantime I'm making sure my computer is all clean and pretty much changing everything around.
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    Jan 21, 2014 8:17 PM GMT
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    Yeah, I requested that my accounts be completely deleted from their cache' instead of under suspension, so that solves that problem. In the meantime I'm making sure my computer is all clean and pretty much changing everything around.

    Good, hope it works. Having to make these changes is admittedly a hassle, a kind of concession or surrender, affording the bad guys at least a form of victory. Not unlike the international war on terrorism, that has disrupted so much of our daily lives.

    The biggest annoyance for my husband & me has been with banking. We're getting regularly hacked, and while the bank has caught the attempts so far (one attack managed to access $20,000 but the bank intercepted the transaction and froze the money, we lost nothing), we're finding ourselves having to change all our account numbers on a yearly basis.

    Which means all new bank cards & numbers, new checks issued, notifying all our direct depositors (6 in total, which sometimes takes a month to go into effect, making deposits delayed), redoing our direct debit authorizations (causing our payments to bounce if we forget to change them all promptly, like our Florida SunPass toll card, our rental storage unit, my gym membership, etc), and so forth.

    The digital world is wonderful in many ways, and here I am online talking about it with guys clear around the globe. But with it has come headaches & risks we never had to deal with before. It seems few things come without a price.
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    Jan 21, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    What a tale of woe.

    What are the sites that banned you?

    You might want to delete all cookies from your browsers, and start over again in that department.

    You could get different photos and screen names, backup email addresses, phony birthdate that you can remember, new phony names (whatever sites want) etc, and sign up again on those sites. Sign up using someone else's (like a library's) computer, so the sign-up is not coming from your IP address.
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:11 PM GMT
    Why do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
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    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.


    Well, I often wonder if somehow I'm playing the victim card without knowing it, but I'm definitely not. I've been getting the worst end of things here lately, and it kinda sucks! icon_surprised.gif
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
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    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.

    Nah, I only pick on RJ's sociopaths.
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:17 PM GMT
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    HottJoe said
    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.

    Nah, I only pick on RJ's sociopaths.


    You're the hero RJ needs, but not the one we deserve. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 21, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
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    JumpMan_Josh said
    dustin_K_tx saidIt's most likely your Ex. doing it.

    How's that restraining order coming?

    I seriously thought that, but I really have no proof. I'm not sure that he would be following me from site to site either, but he is crazy so who knows.

    You may be a victim of malicious attacks by some online psycho, perhaps the very one in the encounter you described.

    I've had a few of them happen to me. Some people online are seriously deranged. And just like the hackers who crave attention & importance by disrupting the Internet on a large scale, some get their cruel kicks by hurting individuals one-on-one.

    Some will dismiss it as a form of classic bullying, but I see it more seriously as the work of a potentially dangerous sociopath. I would recommend you change your account names & passwords, and avoid posting pics of yourself until this harassment stops.


    ^this^

    catfishing to me is the work of a sociopath, I was a victim once, someone I used to work with, horrible outcome.


    The phenomenon of internet predators that fabricate online identities and entire social circles to trick people into emotional/romantic relationships (over a long period of time).

    Possible motivations: revenge, loneliness, curiosity, boredom

    The term catfishing was inspired by the 2010 documentary "Catfish."
    http://www.digitaltrends.com/web/its-catfishing-season-how-to-tell-lovers-from-liars-online-and-more/
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 21, 2014 9:28 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    Aristoshark said
    HottJoe said
    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.

    Nah, I only pick on RJ's sociopaths.


    You're the hero RJ needs, but not the one we deserve. icon_lol.gif

    Who do we deserve?

    icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 21, 2014 10:02 PM GMT
    Had to be someone in your 'inner' circle if they knew where you worked AND that you had an RJ account. Plus some computer skills to send you a fake email. Check the header for the name or ip address and trace it, narrow it down anyway.

    Let's play Sherlock! First one to figure out who it was wins! LOL
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    Jan 22, 2014 2:55 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    HottJoe said
    Assholes always target nice people.


    Well, I often wonder if somehow I'm playing the victim card without knowing it, but I'm definitely not. I've been getting the worst end of things here lately, and it kinda sucks! icon_surprised.gif

    Hmmm… maybe it isn't the 'victim card' so much but something along the lines HJ is suggesting -- you're niceness itself. You aren't doing anything wrong, that's just who you are, the way you are, but some (mean, crazy) people resent your niceness and try to take advantage of it.
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    Jan 22, 2014 3:03 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    HottJoe said
    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.


    Well, I often wonder if somehow I'm playing the victim card without knowing it, but I'm definitely not. I've been getting the worst end of things here lately, and it kinda sucks! icon_surprised.gif


    You are not victim anything, you're sweet wonderful Josh and I can tell you from experience to focus on those that like you, and try ignore those that try to dig at you. Once in awhile you'll respond, as I do, too, but pick your battles. icon_wink.gif

    Besides you and I and a pile of others here are all friends on FB now, so this place's trolls lose their self percieved power as a result. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 22, 2014 3:08 AM GMT
    Aww. Josh has a secret admirer. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 22, 2014 3:26 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Ohno saidWhy do you have these people who hate you? You always seem to act very nicely icon_question.gif

    Assholes always target nice people.


    Sad, but true.
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    Jan 22, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    It's got to be your crazy ex. Who else would have it in for you like that AND know where you work and everything?
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    Jan 22, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    xrichx saidAww. Josh has a secret admirer. icon_biggrin.gif

    Are you kidding? A whole crowd of 'em, I imagine.
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    Jan 22, 2014 4:04 AM GMT
    Thanks everyone. You guys definitely make me feel better haha!

    Anyway, I think the situation is definitely handled now and everything is going back to normal. I think I'll just stick to RJ for the time being. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 22, 2014 4:11 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidThanks everyone. You guys definitely make me feel better haha!

    Anyway, I think the situation is definitely handled now and everything is going back to normal. I think I'll just stick to RJ for the time being. icon_biggrin.gif

    You've got too much muscle to be a twink anyway.