Age and ejaculating

  • jayatl56

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    Jan 22, 2014 12:44 AM GMT
    I'm 57 and have no problem getting an erection. That's not the issue. My annual physical goes well and the dr said I have the prostate of a much younger man.

    My problem is I just have a tough time cumming. I have sex and wear myself out. The sensitivity just seems to have gone away. I wank for a looong time before I can get off and even barebacking my FB goes nowhere. I have to stop and wank and even then I'm exhausted when I finally cum.

    Anyone else experience this? Any suggestions improving cum time?

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    Jan 22, 2014 12:50 AM GMT
    hmm I remembered one time I masturbated like 4 or 5 times in one day and later on that night I had sex with my bf, he came, but I still didn't. He tried everything to get me to cum (he's that type of guy), but, I told him not to worry about it. I think moderation in sexual activity is healthy and can prove to be beneficial in the long run.
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    Jan 22, 2014 12:55 AM GMT
    Are you on any anti-depressants, serotonin-inhibitors? Those delaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy my orgasms sometimes.
  • jayatl56

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    Jan 22, 2014 12:58 AM GMT
    Nope. No medication whatsoever. I do take vitamins and red yeast rice for cholesterol. That's the only "med" if you call it that. I sometimes think it's age and being circumcised.
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    Jan 22, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    Are you using a death grip when you jerk off? That would desensitize your penis in time, so that other stimuli don't work anymore. Dan Savage has a lot to say about that.
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    Jan 22, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
    jayatl56 saidI'm 57 and have no problem getting an erection. That's not the issue. My annual physical goes well and the dr said I have the prostate of a much younger man.

    My problem is I just have a tough time cumming. I have sex and wear myself out. The sensitivity just seems to have gone away. I wank for a looong time before I can get off and even barebacking my FB goes nowhere. I have to stop and wank and even then I'm exhausted when I finally cum.

    Anyone else experience this? Any suggestions improving cum time?



    well no wonder! barebaking your facebok is never gonna make u cum, silly.

    U need to bareback some other type of hole.
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    Jan 22, 2014 2:48 AM GMT
    jayatl56 saidI'm 57 and have no problem getting an erection. That's not the issue. My annual physical goes well and the dr said I have the prostate of a much younger man.

    How much did you pay him for it?

    OK, sorry, my silly comment for the day. icon_redface.gif Seriously, I've been through this same thing as I grew older, so I empathize.

    One factor was naturally declining testosterone levels, which I have. Later getting prostate cancer reduced my ejaculate volume even more, but I still got fully hard. Has your doctor done a hormone check? And I presume he's checked you for cancer, the rate going way up as you approach 60, when I got mine (and SO FAR apparently treated successfully).

    Following my radiation treatment & prostate surgery my formerly rock-hard erections have softened & shrunk somewhat, and whacking has become more difficult. So what I do is use a lubricant, either ID Lube or Wet, which have glycerin. I could easily JO dry previously, but very difficult at present. I'm circumcised.

    The lube really helps, seems to enhance sensitivity & pleasure, and I always get off that way. The lube lets me use a sliding, twisting motion as I jerk. So far I've declined my doctors offer for a prescription like Viagra, but I'm reconsidering. I hate to admit my "manhood" needs help, never did until 62, but the cancer has sorta made it no longer my "fault" or a personal failing.
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    Jan 22, 2014 7:36 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidAre you using a death grip when you jerk off? That would desensitize your penis in time, so that other stimuli don't work anymore. Dan Savage has a lot to say about that.

    I was doing that. Then I got a Fleshjack (Icejack). Best purchase I ever made.
  • jayatl56

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    Jan 22, 2014 10:58 AM GMT
    Aha. The deathgrip thing might be it. That's the way I've jerked off since I started jerking off. I'll give it a light touch and see if that helps improve things.
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    Jan 23, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    jayatl56 saidAha. The deathgrip thing might be it. That's the way I've jerked off since I started jerking off. I'll give it a light touch and see if that helps improve things.

    If you're 57 and have not figured out how to jerk off without damaging your dick, you should not be having sex.
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    Jan 23, 2014 7:25 PM GMT
    The other thing I was thinking of is down time. If you're wanking more than once a day, for example, try reducing it to once a day.
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    Jan 24, 2014 12:07 AM GMT
    You're too young to be having those types of problems. And circumcision has nothing to do with it. Are you physically fit? Overweight? Intense cardio can really help if there's some kind of circulation problem, but other than that, I would just get checked out. It could also be mental. Stressing out about not getting off will start a bad cycle that repeats itself.
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    Jan 24, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
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    bhp91126 saidAre you using a death grip when you jerk off? That would desensitize your penis in time, so that other stimuli don't work anymore. Dan Savage has a lot to say about that.

    I was doing that. Then I got a Fleshjack (Icejack). Best purchase I ever made.

    Bingo. That's what I was going to suggest, too. And my experience mirror's Lumpy's. I found the Fleshjack gave me all the sensation I needed to get the job done without strangling the nerve endings, lol. Practice with that instead of your hand and you may be able to regain some of your sensitivity.

    They come in different textures on the inside...I got the "waves" one. There's actually one for "building endurance", lol.

    Anyway, $80 I definitely don't regret spending. icon_cool.gif


    I got cho "waves"............in my throat. icon_surprised.gif
  • jayatl56

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    Mar 04, 2014 1:34 AM GMT
    Just got a Flesh Light as a gift from my BF. He used it and came within a minute. I still can't get off. Feels great; I just don't get there. It's very frustrating.
  • jayatl56

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    Mar 04, 2014 1:41 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidYou're too young to having those types of problems. And circumcision has nothing to do with it. Are you physically fit? Overweight? Intense cardio can really help if there's some kind of circulation problem, but other than that, I would just get checked out. It could also be mental. Stressing out about not getting off will start a bad cycle that repeats itself.


    I do have daily job-related stress and this compounds it, I think. Honestly, I have no desire during the week to have a wank. I work, go to the gym at least twice a week, eat well and get a good night's sleep every night. I had a full physical about 9 months ago and passed with flying colors. The dr said my prostate was remarkably healthy for a 57 year old. And blood pressure was perfect. I'm not over weight. I get hard as a rock - harder than my much younger BF.

    But over the last few months I've just lost sensitivity, period. I eventually get there but it takes forever and my arms ache. As I mentioned, my BF gave me a new Fleshlight which feels nice but it doesn't seem to do much for me. I'm thinking of rubbing emu oil on my glans to soften the skin. Maybe that would help restore some sensitivity. Other than that, I guess I should talk to my dr about it at some point.
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    Mar 04, 2014 8:53 PM GMT
    I would definitely talk to your doctor. Whenever I see my doctor (thankfully very infrequently), at the end of the visit she always asks me if I have any other issues, and if I'm having any issues with sex. I'm guessing that sex issues are more likely as we get older.
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    Mar 06, 2014 9:48 PM GMT
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    bhp91126 saidAre you using a death grip when you jerk off? That would desensitize your penis in time, so that other stimuli don't work anymore. Dan Savage has a lot to say about that.

    I was doing that. Then I got a Fleshjack (Icejack). Best purchase I ever made.

    Love my 'jimmy'….very helpful on those cold winter nights alone
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    Mar 08, 2014 7:21 PM GMT
    I thought it's an age thing. I've had myself mentally prepared for it also. I hooked up with some guys in 40s, and they had similar problem. That gave me the notion that it's due to the age.
  • JustaRealMan

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    May 02, 2014 1:27 AM GMT
    Hey, man, used to have the problem

    Get your Testosterone checked and get (well, mine is Testopel) your ass back into manhood.

    Tommy
  • jayatl56

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    May 28, 2014 12:00 AM GMT
    I'm a healthy man - just got a full check up and know 100% that everything is fine.

    It's either the fact that I'm cut and/or T levels are low and/or I'm wearing a 0 gauge PA.

    That said, we've found that I get off much quicker when my prostate is being massaged. When BF massages my prostate it's so intense and I really shoot within a much shorter period of time than when I'm wanking without that assistance.

    The other thing I noticed, is that when I'm jerking off to porn, I can get off faster. Not sure why but...
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    May 28, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    jayatl56 said
    ...we've found that I get off much quicker when my prostate is being massaged. When BF massages my prostate it's so intense and I really shoot within a much shorter period of time than when I'm wanking without that assistance.

    The other thing I noticed, is that when I'm jerking off to porn, I can get off faster. Not sure why but...

    Have you also discovered that the sky is blue?

    Seriously, you seem very naive about male sexuality for someone 57 years old. What you're describing is true for almost all men, completely normal, no revelation at all. Guess what gets set out at a hospital or clinic, when you are asked to provide a semen sample in private, for testing purposes? Porn magazines.

    Unfortunately they only ever have straight porn, so doesn't do me much good, unless I wanna bring my own, kinda awkward. Though come to think of it, I guess I can bring porn on the iPad now, even videos. icon_idea.gif
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    May 28, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
    A PA is a piercing isn't it? Did you ask your doctor about it? The supposed downsides of being cut are old wives tales; I'm cut and have no problems.
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    Apr 13, 2015 8:48 PM GMT
    What do you do for exercise? I found that when I started building muscle a few years ago, my sex drive not only went up but my sexual performance was much higher even than when I was in my 20's. Not sure this helps in terms of sensitivity though.
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    Apr 15, 2015 4:09 AM GMT
    If you're dumb enough to stab a needle thru your dick and wear that ridiculous PA you deserve what you get. You probably damaged some nerves. I'll never understand why guys do that shit.

    It also sounds like you're addicted to porn.

    And it's not the circumcision obviously because this is a new thing and I'm assuming you've been circumcised since birth. Stop blaming circumcision for everything. Geezzz. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 17, 2015 2:15 PM GMT
    jayatl56 said... and the doctor said I have the prostate of a much younger man...
    professional bro science. Sad since the doctor gets paid ~$100/hr