chuckystud3 saidWell, this exemplifies part of the underlying conditioning: lack of esteem; constantly seeking approval from the pack.
The answer: nobody cares. In a world of 7 BILLION folks, you give yourself way to much importance.
Having the self-confidence to post a picture, complete a profile, break with the latest weird fashion trend is part of having healthy self-esteem.
I totally disagree. Some guys are just not good at picking the right clothes and need advice. Recently, a friend of mine did one of those complete wardrobe makeover things for me. He pointed out how shirts, jackets, suits etc. should fit.....how to compliment my physique. Practically everything I had got tossed.
We ain't talking about being trendy, or wearing labels. Just wearing decent inexpensive clothes that are comfortable. It's also about being self confident enough to change your look. Lots of people have variations of only ONE style of dressing.
When you look in the mirror, you seeks approval from yourself, not 7billion other people. Your self esteem is better when you know you look real good. Confidence soars. In a world of 7 billion people, there is only one person to give you importance....yourself.
And sometimes you have to ask someones opinion to get the clothes right.
As for me, posting a picture and completing a profile is a minscule fraction of my lifestyle. I'm always out and about....in public....relaxed and formal events. I want to look good.
Not a slave to looking good all the time, but now able to get it going when I want to.
The question of weather it looks gay or not doesn't apply.