Invite a gay "orphan" to your home for the holidays

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 15, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
    I touched on this topic in another thread. Many gays & lesbians are "orphans" during the holidays, being single and having no family nearby, or maybe a couple that doesn't know anyone.

    Would you consider inviting them into your own home? Here's the model I once followed:

    When I was in the US Army, it was a tradition for Officers to invite junior enlisted soldiers to our homes for holiday dinners, especially on Thanksgiving. The idea was to reduce the number of young Privates who spent the holiday in the barracks, away from their families, and who would otherwise have their dinners in a stark mess hall.

    My partner & I still follow that tradition, and while we can't have every last gay or lesbian "orphan" or couple from our community at our table, we accommodate as many as we can. I hope others will think about doing the same. Can you?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 15, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    I think that's a great idea. Maybe you have a nieghbor or a friend...co worker who would normaly have nothing to do and might prefer to be around people...........

    When my partner and i were together, we used to have Vhristmas dinner and invite all our orphan friends.........

    but now I am the orphan!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 15, 2008 10:04 PM GMT
    I would gladly open up my home to "orphan" gays during the holidays and for more long term for them a place to stay in trade for some help at my places. trouble is I'm so far away from any large cities that most would feel too isolated. Is there a networking for this type reaching out?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 15, 2008 11:17 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidWhen I was in the US Army, it was a tradition for Officers to invite junior enlisted soldiers to our homes for holiday dinners, especially on Thanksgiving. The idea was to reduce the number of young Privates who spent the holiday in the barracks, away from their families, and who would otherwise have their dinners in the mess hall.


    When my family lived overseas while my dad was in the Navy my family would also invite my dad's co-workers. And for thanksgiving, easter, and sometimes just because.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 15, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
    realifedad said I would gladly open up my home to "orphan" gays during the holidays and for more long term for them a place to stay in trade for some help at my places. trouble is I'm so far away from any large cities that most would feel too isolated. Is there a networking for this type reaching out?


    This is a group I've advertised on my web site, but with whom I actually have no personal experience. Is this what you have in mind?

    http://www.lghei.org/English.htm
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 16, 2008 9:15 AM GMT
    Booo... I hope I'm not alone this Christmas, Thanksgiving was awfulicon_cry.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 16, 2008 11:49 AM GMT
    As an 'orphan' of sorts, I just go work at the soup kitchen. Spirit of the season of giving.
    I'd rather hang around a bunch of grateful strangers in need, than sit at home. That way I don't have to worry about feeling guilty or bad about not being able to afford the kind of presents I'd like to get for my friends.
    Win win.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 16, 2008 11:58 AM GMT
    My brother and I every xmas and thxiving have a big dinner party for all the single people or guys with no family, including straights and gays, we usually end up spending about five hundred dollars for each party on just the main food
  • Delivis

    Posts: 2332

    Dec 16, 2008 12:04 PM GMT
    <--always home alone on the holidays, but i dont find that sad or anything, quite used to it! Long live the internet!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Dec 16, 2008 1:53 PM GMT
    My partner and I are kind of “gay orphan” collectors. Over the years we have invited many gay orphans to be part of our family. Some are military and college guys that can’t travel to their blood relatives during the holidays. Others have been rejected by their blood relatives and have chosen to be part of our family.

    It’s not just during the holidays. Any given weekend we may have a house full. My friends joke our home is a like a wayward youth home…lol.

    It is very rewarding but it can also be stressful at times. We get so attached to them that we worry when they are out late, who they are with, etc. Guess I know how my parents felt when I was growing up.