WHY DO SO MANY GAY COUPLES HAVE OPEN RELATIONSHIPS -

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    Jan 24, 2014 7:34 AM GMT
    I personally believe open relationships are for the more 'sluttier individuals' if you truly love someone then how could you even consider sharing them with someone else. Ive often noticed that long term older gay couples sometime down the road allow for an open relationship why is this? why can't gay couple stay monogomous like most straight couples?
  • Nayro

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    Jan 24, 2014 10:26 AM GMT
    BECAUSE THEY WANT SEX WITH MORE MEN THAN JUST THEIR OWN PARTNER!
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    Jan 24, 2014 3:20 PM GMT
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    Jan 24, 2014 3:24 PM GMT
    Daelin saidBECAUSE THEY WANT SEX WITH MORE MEN THAN JUST THEIR OWN PARTNER!

    This.
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    Jan 24, 2014 3:29 PM GMT
    Cause most gay guys are...

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    And want to tap as much hot ass as they can before they hit the dirt.
    Which is kinda sad...
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    Jan 24, 2014 3:32 PM GMT
    pablomarko123 saidI personally believe open relationships are for the more 'sluttier individuals' if you truly love someone then how could you even consider sharing them with someone else. Ive often noticed that long term older gay couples sometime down the road allow for an open relationship why is this? why can't gay couple stay monogomous like most straight couples?
    "Stay monogamous like most straight couples". You should really try livin on earth...think you might like it...
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    Jan 24, 2014 4:04 PM GMT
    Because anal beads should be shared.
  • dudex76

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    Jan 24, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
    Am I sluttier if I want to have sex with other men once in a while and not getting it at home... icon_question.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 24, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    Why is it the stupid, craven, photo-less, profile-less guys always feel the need, the right, to make judgmental questions? I personally believe guys who have no profile or pics to be the castrated scum of infected slave traders.
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    Jan 24, 2014 4:28 PM GMT
    Daelin saidBECAUSE THEY WANT SEX WITH MORE MEN THAN JUST THEIR OWN PARTNER!



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    Jan 24, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    Seriously, with ALL the topics on this subject and you couldn't search ANY of them to find the answer to your question? You're young and when you grow up and actually have a relationship, then return and ask your question. Until then, use the search option in the forum section to educate yourself on what others have already posted a million times…..good luck. Oh and one more thing….we're gay, we don't want to be like straight couples because half of them end up divorcing anyway….their perfect monogamous relationships really suck!
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    Jan 24, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidWhy is it the stupid, craven, photo-less, profile-less guys always feel the need, the right, to make judgmental questions? I personally believe guys who have no profile or pics to be the castrated scum of infected slave traders.

    Well, he's just a child….at 21 he doesn't know how to search the forum, he's stuck on an island between the Pacific Ocean and the India Ocean, probably has little internet access and clearly no internet etiquette as evident by his 'screaming' topic! Give him a break, let's all welcome him to RJ then we can belittle him to death!
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    Jan 24, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidSeriously, with ALL the topics on this subject and you couldn't search ANY of them to find the answer to your question? You're young and when you grow up and actually have a relationship, then return and ask your question. Until then, use the search option in the forum section to educate yourself on what others have already posted a million times…..good luck. Oh and one more thing….we're gay, we don't want to be like straight couples because half of them end up divorcing anyway….their perfect monogamous relationships really suck!


    that's nasty. You're basically saying all gay men are built like savage animals. Just face it, guys (gay or straight) who mess around while having a partner is, as others mentioned above- a slut, no matter what angle you look at it.
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    Jan 24, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidWhy is it the stupid, craven, photo-less, profile-less guys always feel the need, the right, to make judgmental questions? I personally believe guys who have no profile or pics to be the castrated scum of infected slave traders.


    Wow, he's a nice bloke. Remind me not to get on his bad side. I like my balls..."they're functional and aesthetically pleasing"

    In reality...It's just how the gay community has evolved. As they get older they will realize that the void they've been trying to fill with sexual desire can be filled with just one person, and that they've just been looking in all the wrong places to feel complete...In other words...we grow up eventually. ;)
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    Jan 24, 2014 5:13 PM GMT
    Varus said
    eb925guy saidSeriously, with ALL the topics on this subject and you couldn't search ANY of them to find the answer to your question? You're young and when you grow up and actually have a relationship, then return and ask your question. Until then, use the search option in the forum section to educate yourself on what others have already posted a million times…..good luck. Oh and one more thing….we're gay, we don't want to be like straight couples because half of them end up divorcing anyway….their perfect monogamous relationships really suck!


    that's nasty. You're basically saying all gay men are built like savage animals. Just face it, guys (gay or straight) who mess around while having a partner is, as others mentioned above- a slut, no matter what angle you look at it.

    Nope, won't admit it because I think you're totally wrong. A slut is someone who just hooks up with whomever and has meaningless sex. Everyone thinks that a guy in a relationship does that. That's, from what I've heard, not the case. Most guys that seem to want to open the relationship, do hookup with others (single or couple) but seem to do a little more filtering for someone they can connect with than a slut would.

    You seem to just want the gay world to mimic the str8 world. That's great, let's do that and then the divorce attorneys can get rich off of us too. Nope, nothing wrong with communicating partners opening up their relationships for sexual reasons with boundaries and agreed conditions. Guys like you will only understand that when you grow up and actually have a long term relationship. Even if you never have it open, you'll still learn from the experience why guys open them up and they're successful despite your desires to ignore the needs.
  • Dave_StMtn

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    Jan 24, 2014 5:16 PM GMT
    Perhaps there are no absolutes. People are different, and what works for some couples doesn't work for others.
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    Jan 24, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    Destinharbor saidWhy is it the stupid, craven, photo-less, profile-less guys always feel the need, the right, to make judgmental questions? I personally believe guys who have no profile or pics to be the castrated scum of infected slave traders.

    Well, he's just a child….at 21 he doesn't know how to search the forum, he's stuck on an island between the Pacific Ocean and the India Ocean, probably has little internet access and clearly no internet etiquette as evident by his 'screaming' topic! Give him a break, let's all welcome him to RJ then we can belittle him to death!

    lol Ya, you're probably right. Australia is pretty remote. But my guess is his brain is even further removed.
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    Jan 24, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
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    eb925guy saidSeriously, with ALL the topics on this subject and you couldn't search ANY of them to find the answer to your question? You're young and when you grow up and actually have a relationship, then return and ask your question. Until then, use the search option in the forum section to educate yourself on what others have already posted a million times…..good luck. Oh and one more thing….we're gay, we don't want to be like straight couples because half of them end up divorcing anyway….their perfect monogamous relationships really suck!


    that's nasty. You're basically saying all gay men are built like savage animals. Just face it, guys (gay or straight) who mess around while having a partner is, as others mentioned above- a slut, no matter what angle you look at it.

    Nope, won't admit it because I think you're totally wrong. A slut is someone who just hooks up with whomever and has meaningless sex. Everyone thinks that a guy in a relationship does that. That's, from what I've heard, not the case. Most guys that seem to want to open the relationship, do hookup with others (single or couple) but seem to do a little more filtering for someone they can connect with than a slut would.

    You seem to just want the gay world to mimic the str8 world. That's great, let's do that and then the divorce attorneys can get rich off of us too. Nope, nothing wrong with communicating partners opening up their relationships for sexual reasons with boundaries and agreed conditions. Guys like you will only understand that when you grow up and actually have a long term relationship. Even if you never have it open, you'll still learn from the experience why guys open them up and they're successful despite your desires to ignore the needs.


    Lol, most of the guys that I knew said they only go into open relationships because they go in it for the sex, and that emotionally investing in someone who is already "committed" icon_rolleyes.gif is the stupidest thing one can do. I personally think it's pretty foul.

    I'm not here to mimic anything or anyone, but monogamy is being with one person and monogamy applies to both gay and the straight world.

    I think opening relationships just shows you're greedy, and is derived by your lust. Which by far is some of the most unattractive qualities any person can possess.
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    Jan 24, 2014 5:49 PM GMT
    So many great opinions. Thanks to everyone who replied I really appreciate your feedback

    I agree with Varus's views but I also believe that love is a very complicated thing and maybe as you mature you start to think differently
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    Jan 24, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Gay MALE couples tend to have very high open rates. Not lesbian nor straight couples. Guys are hornier than women and are wired to think about sex frequently. Guys also tend to have lower emotional intelligence. So much of sex and relationships is about communication and satiation of needs and emotions. So it makes sense if you have two guys together, that there might be a higher degree of leakage between the two of them which increases the need(for some) or desire (for others) to seek alternatives.

    E.g.
    For some guys it's about having sex with as many hot guys as they can before they get old.

    For others it's about not being complementary in bed or wanting even more.

    There are other reasons too.
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    Jan 24, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
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    Jan 24, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    I have seen just as many open relationships fail as I have seen monogamous ones.

    What it boils down to is that men are by nature, more sexual creatures. Gay or straight. We want to breed and have our basic sexual instincts satisfied. Gay men in general, tend to be more open minded on issues of sexuality and love. So when two especially horny especially open minded individuals come together....you get an open relationship.

    We shouldn't judge a couple by what they do in the bedroom. It's none of our business. And what works for one couple may not for another. And that's fine too.


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    Jan 24, 2014 6:28 PM GMT
    Myol saidGay MALE couples tend to have very high open rates. Not lesbian nor straight couples. Guys are hornier than women and are wired to think about sex frequently. Guys also tend to have lower emotional intelligence. So much of sex and relationships is about communication and satiation of needs and emotions. So it makes sense if you have two guys together, that there might be a higher degree of leakage between the two of them which increases the need(for some) or desire (for others) to seek alternatives.

    E.g.
    For some guys it's about having sex with as many hot guys as they can before they get old.

    For others it's about not being complementary in bed or wanting even more.

    There are other reasons too.


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  • gr8hands4you

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    Jan 24, 2014 6:30 PM GMT
    Because they are very selfish and do not think having sex with another guy hurts the relationship or the guy they are having sex with..
    Every time is see " NSA " I think loser..
    Every time is see "discrete" I ask, what are they hiding.. Many of the guys I know in the area that have gone to another state and got married (are all lovey-dovey in public with partner) are also some of the biggest sluts outside the relationship.. Oops: you are not suppose to know that or them.
    I am also well aware that there are many Bi-sexual men (many times married to a women etc.) that want the occasional sex with another male.. Each one of them Im sure has their own story and I wont condemn.
    I hope this added something to this conversation...
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    Jan 24, 2014 6:31 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidI have seen just as many open relationships fail as I have seen monogamous ones.

    What it boils down to is that men are by nature, more sexual creatures. Gay or straight. We want to breed and have our basic sexual instincts satisfied. Gay men in general, tend to be more open minded on issues of sexuality and love. So when two especially horny especially open minded individuals come together....you get an open relationship.

    We shouldn't judge a couple by what they do in the bedroom. It's none of our business. And what works for one couple may not for another. And that's fine too.


    Whatever happened to live and let live????icon_confused.gif

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