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    Jan 24, 2014 8:47 PM GMT
    Lets say you meet a guy,you hit it off,everything is perfect but the sex life is terrible. Open relationship is out of the question
    Do you continue to just ignore the sex part because of how good everything else is? Or do you break it off and find someone more sexually compatible with yourself?
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    Jan 24, 2014 8:51 PM GMT
    Bad sex isn't forever. You both have to communicate and let each other know your likes/dislikes. And keep trying. Practice makes perfect. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 24, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    No, sex is an important part of life. If I really like the guy I keep him as a friend.
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    Jan 24, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    I need sex, and lots. How 'bad' is bad? LOL.
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    Jan 24, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    Let's say its a low sex drive or somethin that makes having sex a rare occasion
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    Jan 24, 2014 9:13 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidLet's say its a low sex drive or somethin that makes having sex a rare occasion

    How rare? For my ex, anything less than one time per day was rare.
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    Jan 24, 2014 10:12 PM GMT
    I find no legitimate reason why either partner shouldn't be sexually satisfied, even if one is asexual or both are differently preferenced from each other. Also I'm adamantly against people raping their own psyches with a sexuality that doesn't come naturally for them just to satisfy their partner's sexual preferences.

    So given monogamy as an absolute, I wouldn't even consider such a relationship without being fully sexually compatible or at least enough so as to reduce to a minimum any sexual frustrations; but given an open relationship, which you do not have within these parameters, as viable option, I see no justifiable reason why sexual preferences should interfere with intimacy otherwise expressed and enjoyed and I feel that we rob ourselves for no good reason of perfectly satisfying relationships when we insist otherwise.

    Saying that companionship is "nothing more than" friendship is stupid. Marriage, partnership, coupling by any name is, or certainly ought to be, first and foremost, companionship. The only people I ever considered best friend were my partners.
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    Jan 24, 2014 10:16 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidLet's say its a low sex drive or somethin that makes having sex a rare occasion


    Let's also say one partner is a cop and has his dick blown off in the line of duty. Would he insist his partner go the rest of life without dick? Leave him? Make your partner suffer for your loss? Where is the greater loyalty?
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    Jan 24, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidLets say you meet a guy,you hit it off,everything is perfect but the sex life is terrible. Open relationship is out of the question
    Do you continue to just ignore the sex part because of how good everything else is? Or do you break it off and find someone more sexually compatible with yourself?



    My experience has been that, if the sex isn't working, the relationship is doomed. That's not my feeling.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 24, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    Sorry to say, doesn't sound promising, OP. icon_sad.gif Ultimately it all depends on how you feel about and handle it. I'd be real curious whether this was just the way the guy is or whether he was suppressing his libido.
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    Jan 24, 2014 11:31 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidLet's say its a low sex drive or somethin that makes having sex a rare occasion

    Have you tried eating oysters?
    (I kid the Behemster.)
  • MikeW

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    Jan 24, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter said
    _Behemoth_ saidLet's say its a low sex drive or somethin that makes having sex a rare occasion

    Have you tried eating oysters?
    (I kid the Behemster.)

    Actually, now that you mention it, low testosterone could be the problem (or not).

    How willing is this guy to look at and try and change the situation to keep you happy OP?