Are you the initiator?

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    Dec 15, 2008 11:51 PM GMT
    If your in a realtionship and you are always the initiator, does it bother you?

    Would it make you feel like the other person doesn't want you?

    Or do you think in realtionships one person usually wants it more than the other.....so the other doesn't initiate it because they know the other person will all the time?

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    Dec 19, 2008 11:51 PM GMT
    In my last relationship, yes, I was always the initiator, and yes, it was fucking annoying.

    He was terrified of sex; a textbook case of Portnoy's Complaint (the relationship between he and his mother mirrors that book so exactly it's scary).

    And even when we did have sex (well, not sex because he'd lose his erection the moment anything more than oral became inevitable), he was the most selfish lover I've ever been with.

    I still love the guy (even though we no longer talk), but goddamn it does being the initiator make you feel fucking unsexy as hell.
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    Dec 20, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    one will generally initiate sex more then the other but they both generally do..

    Now how is a more important question.. personally my way was to just jump him and start taking his clothes off before he had a chance to fight back.