Possessive mentality (guys who think they own you after a single encounter)

  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    Too many times, guys will try to command control of your body or your time, sometimes guys you barely even know. It's ridiculous. I'm a maverick, I do my own thing and don't feel the need to be up under someone 24/7, or need the constant validation that other people seem to crave.

    I don't understand this possessive mentality that a lot of men have, as if, just because you show them a bit of attention, or just because they find you attractive, that they have claim to your attention, time, body, and life. They don't!

    I don't think I've said exactly what I wanted to say, but I've tried. Basically, we need to stop treating each other like pieces of meat, overvaluing guys just because we find them attractive, and getting frustrated and possessive just because we don't get our way. We need to start seriously respecting one another, because we don't.
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    Jan 26, 2014 5:05 AM GMT
    I love those kinds of guys ...very easy to turn tables on personalities like that
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:14 AM GMT
    ViciousRumor saidI love men like that. I like feeling that someone,cares about me.


    What the fuck??? If they care about you, they would respect your body, and your time. Wtf?

    *walks out*

    Maybe I mis-articulated what I was trying to say.
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    Jan 26, 2014 5:16 AM GMT
    Some like to rule and some to be ruled, as simple as that.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:18 AM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Dopeamine said
    ViciousRumor saidI love men like that. I like feeling that someone,cares about me.


    What the fuck??? If they care about you, they would respect your body, and your time. Wtf?

    *walks out*

    Maybe I mis-articulated what I was trying to say.


    What are you trying to say? Give an example


    I don't know. I just know there is a difference between caring about someone and trying to possess them or place them into a fantasy world where they exist to serve your needs.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:19 AM GMT
    David3000 saidSome like to rule and some to be ruled, as simple as that.


    The world is not that simple, maybe you are though. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 26, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    I seem to attract those guys. They're tragic and pathetic.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidI seem to attract those guys. They're tragic and pathetic.


    Exactly.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:24 AM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Dopeamine said
    ViciousRumor said
    Dopeamine said
    ViciousRumor saidI love men like that. I like feeling that someone,cares about me.


    What the fuck??? If they care about you, they would respect your body, and your time. Wtf?

    *walks out*

    Maybe I mis-articulated what I was trying to say.


    What are you trying to say? Give an example


    I don't know. I just know there is a difference between caring about someone and trying to possess them or place them into a fantasy world where they exist to serve your needs.


    Some people are into that. I'm the type as long as I am not alone I don't care. I like feeling owned.


    You have low self esteem, or you are a masochist.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:26 AM GMT
    ikilledcaptainplanet saidto me, i think that many guys do that except it's called being clingy. like what you said, being clingy isn't just with dating. i'm a guy that values his alone time and space. i'll chill with someone, text them and whatever one minute and then they won't hear from me the next for a day or even a week or month or two. it's not that i'm being flakey either or reclusive. i just love to be alone away from everybody and i mean everybody even my own family. for some reason, people think that they always have to be around somebody all the damn time. that's why you have everyone busy texting, on each other's facebook and etc. it's okay to be alone and basically be clingy with yourself. i think that's why you have these clingy or over possessive folks running around.


    I'm more introverted than extroverted, so the same way. Very self sufficient, very much like a maverick. People just don't get it. I love people, but I don't need company all the time the way others do.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 5:27 AM GMT
    ViciousRumor said
    Dopeamine said
    ViciousRumor said
    Dopeamine said
    ViciousRumor said
    Dopeamine said
    ViciousRumor saidI love men like that. I like feeling that someone,cares about me.


    What the fuck??? If they care about you, they would respect your body, and your time. Wtf?

    *walks out*

    Maybe I mis-articulated what I was trying to say.


    What are you trying to say? Give an example


    I don't know. I just know there is a difference between caring about someone and trying to possess them or place them into a fantasy world where they exist to serve your needs.


    Some people are into that. I'm the type as long as I am not alone I don't care. I like feeling owned.


    You have low self esteem, or you are a masochist.


    I'm both.


    Well, DAMN, own it! icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:34 AM GMT
    Dopeamine saidToo many times, guys will try to command control of your body or your time, sometimes guys you barely even know. It's ridiculous. I'm a maverick, I do my own thing and don't feel the need to be up under someone 24/7, or need the constant validation that other people seem to crave.

    I don't understand this possessive mentality that a lot of men have, as if, just because you show them a bit of attention, or just because they find you attractive, that they have claim to your attention, time, body, and life. They don't!

    I don't think I've said exactly what I wanted to say, but I've tried. Basically, we need to stop treating each other like pieces of meat, overvaluing guys just because we find them attractive, and getting frustrated and possessive just because we don't get our way. We need to start seriously respecting one another, because we don't.
    I know exactly what you mean. My experience with Gay guys is that they're either really, really apprehensive, and will talk to me but never actually follow up on any plans to meet (endless text/call circus) or way too pushy. I mean really pushy, to the point where it is creepy and desperate.
    There has to be a guy that falls somewhere between the two extremes. But it's like they're socially defunct as a whole.

    Like jesus, at least meet me for coffee before you start trying to sweep me away to your cottage for the weekend, I don't even fucking know you!

    And this is why I haven't been on a date for years. Endless text circus, or I'm being pressured into something/guilt-tripped. It's annoying. Done.

    *walks out*

    Op, I'm assuming you're an introvert as well?
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:44 AM GMT
    Ajjax said
    Dopeamine said
    I know exactly what you mean. My experience with Gay guys is that they're either really, really apprehensive, and will talk to me but never actually follow up on any plans to meet (endless text/call circus) or way too pushy. I mean really pushy, to the point where it is creepy and desperate.

    Like jesus, at least meet me for coffee before you start trying to sweep me away to your cottage for the weekend, I don't even fucking know you!

    And this is why I haven't been on a date for years. Endless text circus, or I'm being pressured into something/guilt-tripped. It's annoying. Done.

    *walks out*

    well thats hard not to do you being so cute and all
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:48 AM GMT
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    David3000 saidSome like to rule and some to be ruled, as simple as that.


    The world is not that simple, maybe you are though. icon_biggrin.gif

    Or maybe you are too narrow minded to think than being dominating equals desperation. Your views are only that, yours. You should get out more and see there's a huge world outside your little head.
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:48 AM GMT
    David3000 said
    Ajjax said
    Dopeamine said
    I know exactly what you mean. My experience with Gay guys is that they're either really, really apprehensive, and will talk to me but never actually follow up on any plans to meet (endless text/call circus) or way too pushy. I mean really pushy, to the point where it is creepy and desperate.

    Like jesus, at least meet me for coffee before you start trying to sweep me away to your cottage for the weekend, I don't even fucking know you!

    And this is why I haven't been on a date for years. Endless text circus, or I'm being pressured into something/guilt-tripped. It's annoying. Done.

    *walks out*

    well thats hard not to do you being so cute and all
    You too, David!
    But for example, I would find you physically desirable -- but That doesn't mean that I wouldn't want to get to know you first, y'know, on a personal level, before there's a jump to commitment. I'm sure you'd feel the same.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 6:51 AM GMT
    Ajjax said
    Dopeamine saidToo many times, guys will try to command control of your body or your time, sometimes guys you barely even know. It's ridiculous. I'm a maverick, I do my own thing and don't feel the need to be up under someone 24/7, or need the constant validation that other people seem to crave.

    I don't understand this possessive mentality that a lot of men have, as if, just because you show them a bit of attention, or just because they find you attractive, that they have claim to your attention, time, body, and life. They don't!

    I don't think I've said exactly what I wanted to say, but I've tried. Basically, we need to stop treating each other like pieces of meat, overvaluing guys just because we find them attractive, and getting frustrated and possessive just because we don't get our way. We need to start seriously respecting one another, because we don't.
    I know exactly what you mean. My experience with Gay guys is that they're either really, really apprehensive, and will talk to me but never actually follow up on any plans to meet (endless text/call circus) or way too pushy. I mean really pushy, to the point where it is creepy and desperate.
    There has to be a guy that falls somewhere between the two extremes. But it's like they're socially defunct as a whole.

    Like jesus, at least meet me for coffee before you start trying to sweep me away to your cottage for the weekend, I don't even fucking know you!

    And this is why I haven't been on a date for years. Endless text circus, or I'm being pressured into something/guilt-tripped. It's annoying. Done.

    *walks out*

    Op, I'm assuming you're an introvert as well?


    Yes. That is all.

    Mostly introverted, with extroverted qualities. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 6:51 AM GMT
    CopperDevil saidI love those kinds of guys ...very easy to turn tables on personalities like that


    What do you mean?
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:53 AM GMT
    Ajjax: sure i totally get your point, and I feel the same way. Maybe you crossed your path with a bunch of losers. If you are confident you dont need to be pushy, let things flow, that's what I do.
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:53 AM GMT
    David3000 said
    Dopeamine said
    David3000 saidSome like to rule and some to be ruled, as simple as that.


    The world is not that simple, maybe you are though. icon_biggrin.gif

    Or maybe you are too narrow minded to think than being dominating equals desperation. Your views are only that, yours. You should get out more and see there's a huge world outside your little head.


    Where did I say that? Learn how to read, dolt.

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    Jan 26, 2014 6:55 AM GMT
    David3000 saidAjjax: sure i totally get your point, and I feel the same way. Maybe you crossed your path with a bunch of losers. If you are confident you dont need to be pushy, let things flow, that's what I do.
    I think it's because Canadians have no balls. icon_lol.gif

    EDIT: That is a joke. There are some really decent Canadian guys, just haven't met any in person yet.
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    Jan 26, 2014 6:57 AM GMT
    Dopeamine said
    David3000 said
    Dopeamine said
    David3000 saidSome like to rule and some to be ruled, as simple as that.


    The world is not that simple, maybe you are though. icon_biggrin.gif

    Or maybe you are too narrow minded to think than being dominating equals desperation. Your views are only that, yours. You should get out more and see there's a huge world outside your little head.


    Where did I say that? Learn how to read, dolt.


    aw, it was Ajjax who used the word 'desperate', the concept though is still the same and I insist, you should get out more.
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    Jan 26, 2014 7:00 AM GMT
    Dopeamine said
    CopperDevil saidI love those kinds of guys ...very easy to turn tables on personalities like that


    What do you mean?




    People who are obsessed with you, its easy to control them if they think that you are bending to their constant possessiveness, like reverse psychology. Their egos can blind them from whats really happening

    like this ...hulk-smash-loki-o.gif


    How to fuck with men

    1.Do not call or text him first; only respond to texts and calls; If you shall miss a call, text him back until he calls you again. Never call him, you do not want to be in his received calls.

    2.Never tell him you miss him! If he asks tell him you don’t answer questions of those natures.

    3.Never tell him you like him! If he asks tell him that you pick up his calls and return his texts so that should be good enough.

    4.Keep the questions you ask him limited; let him mostly ask you all the questions, but do ask him something every once in awhile.

    5.Never concern yourself with how his day was or what he is currently doing.

    6.If he begins to argue with you just say “okay” or “yeah yeah”, you really don’t care about him so no need to ruin your blood pressure over a man.

    7.Whenever he mentions how he will never hurt you and treat you different tell him you know he would.

    8.No pet names.

    9.If he asks you did you think of him today, respond with yeah I thought about what you were doing.

    10.Never let your guard down.

    11.If he says your playing games; tell him you just go into every situation with your guard up and expecting the worst.

    12.If he says that you don’t have to have your guard up with him; tell him well we’ll see.

    13.If he texts you and asks you will you be up later; tell him you don’t know. Never plan on his time.

    14.If it gets silent on the phone; you remain silent until he starts up the conversation; if he doesn’t tell him your phone is dying.

    15.Never hang with him in public or private.

    16.If you have to see him in public never touch him in no form or matter.

    17.Let him know your life is busy so he won’t get mad when he wants to hang.

    18.If he seems impatient tell him he was never patient to began with.

    19.Let him know you don’t jump into relationships; be honest about past activities.
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    Jan 26, 2014 7:05 AM GMT
    David3000 said
    Dopeamine said
    David3000 said
    Dopeamine said
    David3000 saidSome like to rule and some to be ruled, as simple as that.


    The world is not that simple, maybe you are though. icon_biggrin.gif

    Or maybe you are too narrow minded to think than being dominating equals desperation. Your views are only that, yours. You should get out more and see there's a huge world outside your little head.


    Where did I say that? Learn how to read, dolt.


    aw, it was Ajjax who used the word 'desperate', the concept though is still the same and I insist, you should get out more.
    I have "gotten out", and I very much regret it.
    icon_lol.gif
    I still think it is creepy, deviant behavior.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 7:06 AM GMT
    CopperDevil said
    Dopeamine said
    CopperDevil saidI love those kinds of guys ...very easy to turn tables on personalities like that


    What do you mean?




    People who are obsessed with you, its easy to control them if they think that you are bending to their constant possessiveness, like reverse psychology. Their egos can blind them from whats really happening

    like this ...hulk-smash-loki-o.gif


    How to fuck with men

    1.Do not call or text him first; only respond to texts and calls; If you shall miss a call, text him back until he calls you again. Never call him, you do not want to be in his received calls.

    2.Never tell him you miss him! If he asks tell him you don’t answer questions of those natures.

    3.Never tell him you like him! If he asks tell him that you pick up his calls and return his texts so that should be good enough.

    4.Keep the questions you ask him limited; let him mostly ask you all the questions, but do ask him something every once in awhile.

    5.Never concern yourself with how his day was or what he is currently doing.

    6.If he begins to argue with you just say “okay” or “yeah yeah”, you really don’t care about him so no need to ruin your blood pressure over a man.

    7.Whenever he mentions how he will never hurt you and treat you different tell him you know he would.

    8.No pet names.

    9.If he asks you did you think of him today, respond with yeah I thought about what you were doing.

    10.Never let your guard down.

    11.If he says your playing games; tell him you just go into every situation with your guard up and expecting the worst.

    12.If he says that you don’t have to have your guard up with him; tell him well we’ll see.

    13.If he texts you and asks you will you be up later; tell him you don’t know. Never plan on his time.

    14.If it gets silent on the phone; you remain silent until he starts up the conversation; if he doesn’t tell him your phone is dying.

    15.Never hang with him in public or private.

    16.If you have to see him in public never touch him in no form or matter.

    17.Let him know your life is busy so he won’t get mad when he wants to hang.

    18.If he seems impatient tell him he was never patient to began with.

    19.Let him know you don’t jump into relationships; be honest about past activities.


    Thanks for the reading material! *turns page*
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    Jan 26, 2014 7:08 AM GMT
    Dopeamine said
    CopperDevil said
    Dopeamine said
    CopperDevil saidI love those kinds of guys ...very easy to turn tables on personalities like that


    What do you mean?




    People who are obsessed with you, its easy to control them if they think that you are bending to their constant possessiveness, like reverse psychology. Their egos can blind them from whats really happening

    like this ...hulk-smash-loki-o.gif


    How to fuck with men

    1.Do not call or text him first; only respond to texts and calls; If you shall miss a call, text him back until he calls you again. Never call him, you do not want to be in his received calls.

    2.Never tell him you miss him! If he asks tell him you don’t answer questions of those natures.

    3.Never tell him you like him! If he asks tell him that you pick up his calls and return his texts so that should be good enough.

    4.Keep the questions you ask him limited; let him mostly ask you all the questions, but do ask him something every once in awhile.

    5.Never concern yourself with how his day was or what he is currently doing.

    6.If he begins to argue with you just say “okay” or “yeah yeah”, you really don’t care about him so no need to ruin your blood pressure over a man.

    7.Whenever he mentions how he will never hurt you and treat you different tell him you know he would.

    8.No pet names.

    9.If he asks you did you think of him today, respond with yeah I thought about what you were doing.

    10.Never let your guard down.

    11.If he says your playing games; tell him you just go into every situation with your guard up and expecting the worst.

    12.If he says that you don’t have to have your guard up with him; tell him well we’ll see.

    13.If he texts you and asks you will you be up later; tell him you don’t know. Never plan on his time.

    14.If it gets silent on the phone; you remain silent until he starts up the conversation; if he doesn’t tell him your phone is dying.

    15.Never hang with him in public or private.

    16.If you have to see him in public never touch him in no form or matter.

    17.Let him know your life is busy so he won’t get mad when he wants to hang.

    18.If he seems impatient tell him he was never patient to began with.

    19.Let him know you don’t jump into relationships; be honest about past activities.


    Thanks for the reading material! *turns page*

    Yeah, I'll remember this next time I want to come off as a sociopathic narcissist.