Feeling undesirable

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    Jan 26, 2014 2:33 PM GMT
    Does it happen to you often to feel undesirable ?

    Sometimes, it seems to me like it's so easy for other gay guys I know to meet guys and I'm the only one just standing there not knowing what to do.

    I have never been in a relationship with a guy. It's not what I look for anymore, but there was a time, where I was really looking and nothing came my way. Meanwhile, whenever I talk to a gay friend the same age as me, they always say they've at least had 1 significant boyfriend, and are shocked when I tell them I've never had a real relationship.

    Last night, I was at a party and these two guys were making out, and it dawned on me that it had been two years since I had met a guy like that. I have had pathetic internet hookups but for most of them, there was barely any attraction and any chemistry at all. What I mean to say is it's been so long since I met at guy at a party,that I got to seduce or that got to seduce me. I only had a couple of encounters like that a while ago, but I remember how amazing it felt and how sexy and confident it made me feel.

    Besides, no offense for older men, but I'm young ! I'm 21, this should be easy. I feel like it will only get harder from now on and it really depresses me.
    I want to feel sexy and desirable again.
  • Eli_jah

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    Jan 26, 2014 2:38 PM GMT
    Yeah, I think it happens to all of us at some point for various reasons. That's why it's so important to cultivate a decent to good sense of self worth and self esteem.
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    Jan 26, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidDoes it happen to you often to feel undesirable ?

    Sometimes, it seems to me like it's so easy for other gay guys I know to meet guys and I'm the only one just standing there not knowing what to do.

    I have never been in a relationship with a guy. It's not what I look for anymore, but there was a time, where I was really looking and nothing came my way. Meanwhile, whenever I talk to a gay friend the same age as me, they always say they've at least had 1 significant boyfriend, and are shocked when I tell them I've never had a real relationship.

    Last night, I was at a party and these two guys were making out, and it dawned on me that it had been two years since I had met a guy like that. I have had pathetic internet hookups but for most of them, there was barely any attraction and any chemistry at all. What I mean to say is it's been so long since I met at guy at a party,that I got to seduce or that got to seduce me. I only had a couple of encounters like that a while ago, but I remember how amazing it felt and how sexy and confident it made me feel.

    Besides, no offense for older men, but I'm young ! I'm 21, this should be easy. I feel like it will only get harder from now on and it really depresses me.
    I want to feel sexy and desirable again.

    That's not necessarily true. If you take care of yourself, try to be fit and active, you'll get plenty of attention.
    I do believe that men are most attractive in 30s, emotionally and physically.
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    Jan 27, 2014 5:11 AM GMT
    a) maybe start going to the gym, toning your body a bit
    b) totally get outta france unless its paris, worst country ever for guys
  • SuntoryTime

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    Jan 27, 2014 5:14 AM GMT
    Davidolce saida) maybe start going to the gym, toning your body a bit
    b) totally get outta france unless its paris, worst country ever for guys


    Interesting. Why you say that?
  • TheSkyWasYell...

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    Jan 27, 2014 5:51 AM GMT
    I feel unattractive constantly. I'm a bisexual who has been equally rejected by both men and women. I've just accepted that there is something off-putting and unsexy about me and I naturally have nothing to offer. I've seen it so many times I've accepted that fact.