LOving someone with mental health problems

  • BigAlDevlin

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    Jan 27, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    so im married to a transgendered girl (pre-op).

    Shes the love of my life but shortly after we met whilst we were still dating we discovered that she had borderline personality disorder.

    Ive suffered with depression in the past so have a lot of insight into mental health issues and now that im with someone who has a condition not is not only upsetting but possibly lifelong ive had to learn how to cope with it - just like i had to learn how to cope with my own symptoms when i was ill

    i wanted to share this video for anyone else in a similar position to myself as this condition can ruin relationships and i hope this can help you and your partner stick together.

    I also would love to hear from you guys regards how you cope with this or any other mental halth issues as often the coping methods are the same and overlap

  • stratavos

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    Jan 29, 2014 6:57 PM GMT
    thank you
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    Feb 18, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    I am yet to meet a boyfriend in life at the age of 25 and i fear my mental illnesses will be a put off, i have OCD, Depression and now may be a personality disorder.
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    Feb 18, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    Dennis89 saidI am yet to meet a boyfriend in life at the age of 25 and i fear my mental illnesses will be a put off, i have OCD, Depression and now may be a personality disorder.


    As long ad you feel comfortable with your conditions then so will people around u. I suffered for 3 years with serious depression.. it turned my life upside down and i lost a lot.. but somehow i retained my self belief and finally came through it. As soon as my confidence returned i started dating again but whilst ill i didnt. The biggest thing i would say is never lose hope.. as long as you want it you will find a way - at timea it will seem impossible but life always does progress ...youll meet someone who loves you and will not only accept you but support you whrn things get hard .. for certain
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    Feb 18, 2014 7:21 PM GMT
    BigAlDevlin said
    Dennis89 saidI am yet to meet a boyfriend in life at the age of 25 and i fear my mental illnesses will be a put off, i have OCD, Depression and now may be a personality disorder.


    As long ad you feel comfortable with your conditions then so will people around u. I suffered for 3 years with serious depression.. it turned my life upside down and i lost a lot.. but somehow i retained my self belief and finally came through it. As soon as my confidence returned i started dating again but whilst ill i didnt. The biggest thing i would say is never lose hope.. as long as you want it you will find a way - at timea it will seem impossible but life always does progress ...youll meet someone who loves you and will not only accept you but support you whrn things get hard .. for certain


    That is a really nice and supportive thing to say so thankyou and yep i have been to the lowest i can be and one other person said there is only one other way and that is up so... maybe i should think like that no matter how hard it is and think if i do think of my self i am not going to push any potentials away.
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    Feb 20, 2014 9:41 AM GMT
    I have my OCD under control these days but the depression is trying to get sorted and they have only just come up with personality disorder but it isn't confirmed yet i just heard it mentioned so.... ill wait and see what they brand me with.

    The one thing i find hard is that it is so hard to keep trying when your in down mood,
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    Feb 21, 2014 12:11 AM GMT
    paz_the_gnome saidwell.... even though i'm trying not to think about it, i do think that some of my mental conditions will come into play if i were to start dating. i know my anxiety kicks into gear whenever someone tosses that shit my way. it gets uncomfortable to the point where i avoid it. then i look @ some of my habits especially when i go to bed, i dunno if i could be in bed with someone else without being calm.
    I think we all actually underestimate our selves me included but when you have that low mood its that small percentage of crap what drags you down
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    Feb 21, 2014 12:38 AM GMT
    i understand totally with all that background which shapes you and you have no control over that shaping, remember one thing i was told and apply to where other "perfect" people look down on you in that looks fade and where are they with out them looks ?
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    Feb 21, 2014 4:52 PM GMT
    It's like this, guys:


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    ...courtesy of Dr Suess
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    Feb 21, 2014 9:30 PM GMT
    paz_the_gnome said
    meninlove said It's like this, guys:


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    ...courtesy of Dr Suess


    yeah but what if we're too weird that even weird people are scared of our weirdness.


    You rascal, lol, if I were in the same room with you I'd be pinching your nips for that saucy humour.

    Weirdness comes in all degrees, so it's just a matter of mutual levels of weirdnesses that fit together. icon_wink.gif