Couples profiles

  • Borski1992

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    Jan 30, 2014 2:25 AM GMT
    Just out of curiosity, am I the only one who pictures all couples profiles as people with two personalities in my head when I see them on the forums?
    I guess not all, just the ones that exclusively use the pronouns "we" and "us" for everything.

    I don't know if I could have a shared account with a lover. I'd give them my password and let them go on my account whenever they wanted (so long as they don't post things on there that I don't know about) but I would feel strange being THAT much more inseparable.
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    Jan 30, 2014 2:44 AM GMT
    My, you worry about odd things.
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    Jan 30, 2014 2:55 AM GMT
    OP, had to check,,, Yep, you're 21. Give it about 30 yrs and your anxiety about trivial BS will vanish into thin air.
    No one's really saying anything earth shattering about their spouse here in the threads. If you ever expect to have a lasting relationship with any MAN, you better give him some space to be himself. He's not going to do you wrong. Learn to trust him, or find someone you can trust.
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    Jan 30, 2014 3:08 AM GMT
    There's a small part of me that's annoyed by the whole "we" and "us" thing but it's probably because I'm lonely and bitter.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 30, 2014 6:21 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidGiggles!

    Boner, you must be hittn' the bong or sumpn. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 30, 2014 6:21 AM GMT
    haha I created a thread exactly like this last year.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 30, 2014 5:12 PM GMT
    Borski1992 saidJust out of curiosity, am I the only one who pictures all couples profiles as people with two personalities in my head when I see them on the forums?
    I guess not all, just the ones that exclusively use the pronouns "we" and "us" for everything.

    I don't know if I could have a shared account with a lover. I'd give them my password and let them go on my account whenever they wanted (so long as they don't post things on there that I don't know about) but I would feel strange being THAT much more inseparable.

    I agree. I have a long term partner but I still see a division, a separation between us that is healthy, I think. Sure, many things are "we" in terms of preferences and habits and experiences, but I have some individual interests and so does he. "We" support each other in those areas as any good couple will but that doesn't mean we share the interest or participate. It actually gives each of us some away time which all couples need. Maybe our example is unusual to an extent because we both do 80% of our work from home so we are together A LOT! Time away can be good so long as it isn't too long. Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Individual interests broadens our collective "we?"
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    Jan 31, 2014 12:14 AM GMT
    Actually there was at least one other thread asking why couples share profiles but I can't find it since the search function started going haywire (all I remember is that meninlove commented on it).

    I have no problem with it except it's disconcerting when they don't sign off with their name (real or otherwise), or sign off as both parties when, presumably, only one person is in the room typing a post at a time. There are universal fears; homelessness, hunger, and losing your identity. So naturally couples sharing profiles might rankle people who'd rather speak for themselves than let someone else, even a partner, possibly misrepresent them. Shared profiles might definitely aggravate members who feel they might lose part of themselves and their separate identity if they're in relationships. Worrywarts might even feel distress for the couples and engage in rescue fantasies! To all these people whatever their reasons couples sharing profiles would most likely respond, jointly or separately, "get over it!"

    - eager & muscle
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Jan 31, 2014 12:23 AM GMT
    Just let them be. It doesn't really matter. If they are committed and they want a joint account, why stop them? It's lovely.