Just been told on after meeting someone a grindr "I am not his type"

  • Matthew56

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    Jan 30, 2014 5:42 PM GMT
    That really worries me as I really get concerned and conscious about my appearance that when I get a comment like this it shit scares me and makes me feel low
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    Jan 30, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidThat really worries me as I really get concerned and conscious about my appearance that when I get a comment like this it shit scares me and makes me feel low


    I think you are hot
  • Matthew56

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    Jan 30, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    But if u met me now in real life u would run
  • Karl

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    Jan 30, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    you remind me of a very similar story of mine.
    Last month me and a guy on Grindr met at a coffee store, he's really handsome, we got along with each other very well, we spent 4 hours staying in that store just for talking about ourselves. We even did make eyes contact and everything has been so perfect.

    I was so happy that night , I couldn't sleep , I couldn't get him out of my mind.
    Right at midnight he texted me 3 messages via whatsapp.
    the first two made me feel like he was going to tell me he liked and and I expected it a lot.

    and suddenly the third message broke my heart.
    he told me the exact same thing like yours and he said goodbye as I can never see him again.

    #life

    I was so dissappointed and felt bad about my appearance then but now I'm over it, I feel fabulous lol
    The thing is you should be happy when people tell you that you are not their type.
    When you found someone who says "you are my type" you'll embrace them even more .
  • Matthew56

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    Jan 30, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    What is wrong with me
  • MikeW

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    Jan 30, 2014 6:11 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidWhat is wrong with me

    Are you attracted to everyone? Are you attracted to some guys more than others? Do you have a "type" of guy you are attracted to? Are their "types" of guys you're not attracted to?

    Assuming there is, what is "wrong" with the guys you're not attracted to?

    What I'm getting at is, what you're attracted to or not attracted to says more about you and your preferences than it says about the other guy.

    So even asking a "poor me" question like "what is wrong with me" is a set-up for being down on yourself. There may be all kinds of things "wrong" with you. There may also be all kinds of things RIGHT with you, too. But basing our self-worth, our sense of happiness or whether or not we're "alright" on what other people think or feel about us is a recipe for disaster. No one is going to find your "poor me, what is wrong with me, woe is me" attitude attractive.

    Other than that, there probably isn't anything "wrong" with you.
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    Jan 30, 2014 8:30 PM GMT
    7.5 billion people in the world. Divide by 2 to get 3.75 billion men. Divide by 10 to get 375 million gays. Now take one off that. You still have a chance with 374,999,999 guys. Best get cracking and stop worrying about some nobody off Grindr...
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    Jan 30, 2014 9:06 PM GMT
    lol get a thicker skin than that! most of the guys on grindr are probably shallow and looking to hook up anyway!
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    Jan 31, 2014 12:48 AM GMT
    yeah not everyone is attracted to everyone. if it makes you feel any better, straight guys aren't attracted to all girls. and vice versa.
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    Jan 31, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    Not everyone is everyone else's type. And you can't be everyone's type. I'll bet most guys can tell in the first few minutes of meeting someone if the other is "their type." Be thankful you found out early. Now keep looking.
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    Jan 31, 2014 1:08 AM GMT
    Never had this problem. Hope that helps.icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 31, 2014 1:10 AM GMT
    socalx10 saidlol get a thicker skin than that! most of the guys on grindr are probably shallow and looking to hook up anyway!


    People like me!!!!icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 31, 2014 1:11 AM GMT
    It happens to all of us man. You can be the hottest guy and still not be everyone's type. That's all subjective. At least he was honest with you and told you straight up - rather than leading you on and ignoring you.
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    Jan 31, 2014 4:30 AM GMT
    I'm surprised he hasn't cried "RAAYYYYCCCIISSSTTT!!!!' yet....icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 31, 2014 4:54 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidWhat is wrong with me

    What is wrong with you is that you think every man should be attracted to you.

    One or two who have impaired vision won't be.
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    Jan 31, 2014 4:57 AM GMT
    Don't worry about it man there are plenty of other people out there and you look pretty hot to me haha I don't think you should take comments like that on Grindr serious to he point where it gets too you
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    Jan 31, 2014 5:03 AM GMT
    I got that message once. Felt low too. But you may not know what that person's type is. Maybe it is someone 18 years old and 90 lbs.
  • Matthew56

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    Feb 02, 2014 8:07 AM GMT
    Shmerl saidDon't worry about it man there are plenty of other people out there and you look pretty hot to me haha I don't think you should take comments like that on Grindr serious to he point where it gets too you


    He was keen to meet on grindr but when we met in person it became a different story
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    Feb 02, 2014 11:14 AM GMT
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    Shmerl saidDon't worry about it man there are plenty of other people out there and you look pretty hot to me haha I don't think you should take comments like that on Grindr serious to he point where it gets too you


    He was keen to meet on grindr but when we met in person it became a different story


    It doesn't matter how keen he was. If you can't take the rejection, then stop using the app because you will receive many more rejections should you continue to use it.
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    Feb 02, 2014 11:18 AM GMT
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    Matthew56 said
    Shmerl saidDon't worry about it man there are plenty of other people out there and you look pretty hot to me haha I don't think you should take comments like that on Grindr serious to he point where it gets too you


    He was keen to meet on grindr but when we met in person it became a different story


    It doesn't matter how keen he was. If you can't take the rejection, then stop using the app because you will receive many more rejections should you continue to use it.


    And give them, don't forget. The alternative could be as crazy as pity sex with someone using fake or inaccurate photos (hard to believe, but some people do go through with it out of misplaced guilt).
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    Feb 02, 2014 11:20 AM GMT
    bradomo saidI got that message once. Felt low too. But you may not know what that person's type is. Maybe it is someone 18 years old and 90 lbs.


    I once got rejected by an attractive guy for not being fat enough. I could have got fatter if required icon_lol.gif
  • chadwick1985

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    Feb 02, 2014 8:33 PM GMT
    Just because he said youre not his type doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. It means youre not his type. We all have types and things we like / don't like in a guy.

    At least he said it on first meeting and didn't lead you on, get in your pants then disappear.
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    Feb 02, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
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    bradomo saidI got that message once. Felt low too. But you may not know what that person's type is. Maybe it is someone 18 years old and 90 lbs.


    I once got rejected by an attractive guy for not being fat enough. I could have got fatter if required icon_lol.gif

    We've all been on the end of the rejection stick.
    I've been told I needed facial hair, or was too tall, too big, too a handful of things. It's always stings a bit and then you move on. One day, someone's gonna tell you, that you're just right for them. Then you've met your match.
    Head up pal, so your man can see you coming...icon_cool.gif