Cheap Sluts Ruin Relationships..

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    Jan 31, 2014 7:14 AM GMT
    Well pardon my language, but here goes: I think that in gay world sex comes relatively easy. Online (CL/Grindr) or even in general, if you are out and about (3 sec or longer eye contact and u r game). This greatly effects the chances of dating/ ltr oriented guys. I mean I would at least wait for one measly week to get in the bed. But there are 10 other guys who are willing to have sex right there. So obviously the guy's decision will be impacted by it. And many gay guys only get off, having sex with str8 married or in-relationship men. Meaning cheap sluts ruin relationships. Or, am I just having tough luck finding reasonably patient (1 week) guy. People on this site seems little dignified, at least in their posts, compared to other places. Any thoughts.
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    Jan 31, 2014 7:18 AM GMT
    The two men I have love the most in this world made me wait a very long time before I got some, bout three months . And those have been my best relationships. I think sex is so easy to obtain that when someone actually makes it mean something It's a great breath of fresh air
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    Jan 31, 2014 10:15 PM GMT
    I could not agree more with behemoth
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 01, 2014 12:27 PM GMT
    I'm sure there are still guys out there who are open to a relationship but from personal experience, you might have better luck looking offline first. I mean, sure, plenty of guys out irl are bound to have a profile on grindr/a4a/etc. but I don't know, I think that taking the chance meeting someone offline, you'll have a better chance to show your personality and in turn, might attract a guy on an emotional level.

    Don't give up. I'm sure you'll find someone.
  • Apparition

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    Feb 03, 2014 6:37 AM GMT
    If you put it in your profile you can find a ltr and sleep with himthe first night.
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    Feb 03, 2014 6:50 AM GMT
    Not to be a hater - I never tried grindr and have you looked at craigslist M4M..... ehhhh some of those guys actually want relationships but, ehhhhhhh..... noooo. Not to be mean but, no.

    Also the culture surrounding downlow married men is ahhhh just ahhh friends dad is like that - so so awkward and confusing

    I would worry about whether or not I'd want to kiss the guy more than sleep with him.

    Also maybe change your perspective of homosexual culture or broaden your awareness of heterosexual culture - might help.

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    Feb 04, 2014 7:04 PM GMT
    Well, I spoke about the same thing in my blog. How the cheap view towards gay sex is also what tends to affect other things as well. Here's an excerpt from my blog:

    But apart from blame, is reality. What is the reality? Generally speaking, Gay sex is cheap. That’s the reality of the situation. I’m not inferring that we as gay men are cheap, but there’s no denying that it really doesn’t take much more than a hard dick, a little attraction, vehicle, and place to host and you’ve got all the prerequisites for a hookup. Wait, something HAS to be missing right? I mean, that’s it? The fact is, most gay men don’t even take each other out to dinner before having sex these days. You ‘might’ get taken to breakfast after…but if you don’t, it does not imply the sex wasn’t good. But if you don’t put out, you’re definitely not getting breakfast.
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    Feb 05, 2014 5:56 PM GMT
    Whether or not you have sex soon after meeting a guy, probably does not have a bearing on whether that guy is potential R material or not. It depends on the the nature of the guy, and how your 2 personalities interact. Thousands, maybe millions, of gay relationships in the US have started out between two guys having sex at or soon after their first meeting. So choose guys willing to wait or not. Someone may have said, you may have to kiss a 1,000 frogs before you find your prince. If you only have sex with guys you really like, (instead of are just hot for) your chances of one of them being turning into an ongoing R are much greater.
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    Feb 05, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    Meh, men are men.

    I had sex with my husband on our first date over 27 years ago. It didn't keep us from having a long term relatinoship.

    I don't think it's sex that's the problem, it's the "Disney princess" view of the world that's the problem. Lots of guys think they're looking for a long term relationship with a knight in shining armor, but funnily enough, no one ever measures up. So they're always looking for someone who ticks off more of the boxes on their lists.

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    Feb 05, 2014 8:35 PM GMT
    ikilledcaptainplanet saidspeak for yourself, breh. if you ask me, you seem to be one of those cheap sluts that you're talking about. you ain't really interested in finding someone serious. you're all about the moment.


    There's a difference. I actually made a thread, when my mind wondered and decided not to follow thorough with my intensions. So yup, spare the judgement.
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    Feb 05, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    It takes 2 to tango, not all the **Cheap sluts' fault if the other guy (married, in a ltr) or whatever want to stray and cheat in their partner. Men are fueled by lust in general, most guys just do the deeds and don't think about consequences. You just have to learn *self-control and not fuck everyone that move.
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    Feb 06, 2014 12:06 AM GMT
    I think I'd trust a "cheap slut" who wants to get freaky sooner, than a manipulative pork belly who thinks that holding off on sex makes him some sort of catch.
    Plus, you wait any sort of time in the dating world, and then you finally get naked and you realize the person you invested so much time getting to know is a terrible lover, or has chest hair, or something equally unfortunate, and you really feel like you wasted a lot of time, cause three weeks is an eternity in the gay dating world.
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    Feb 21, 2014 7:35 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidI think I'd trust a "cheap slut" who wants to get freaky sooner, than a manipulative pork belly who thinks that holding off on sex makes him some sort of catch.
    Plus, you wait any sort of time in the dating world, and then you finally get naked and you realize the person you invested so much time getting to know is a terrible lover, or has chest hair, or something equally unfortunate, and you really feel like you wasted a lot of time, cause three weeks is an eternity in the gay dating world.


    Lololololololololololol
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    Feb 21, 2014 8:23 PM GMT
    I think it's unfair to blame 'cheap sluts' as they may not even know the person they hooked up with is in a relationship. The person to blame is the person in a relationship who couldn't keep it in their pants.

    To be fair though if it happened to me I would castrate the pair of then lol.
  • goodmagic

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    Feb 22, 2014 10:01 AM GMT
    I'm trying not to say anything negative. I think you are frustrated and we all been there. You can't make someone love you. What you can do is stop going after guys who are not worried about you. Stop having sex with people that it won't lead to anything.Seek only what you really want and accept no compromise.
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    Feb 22, 2014 12:26 PM GMT
    smartmoney said...or has chest hair...


    lmfao
  • KittenpasteCo...

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    Feb 22, 2014 3:21 PM GMT
    Like Kaii said, meeting people online leads to the type that's unwilling to wait. I've yet to meet anyone starting from offline, with my lack of social skill. Guess I can't give much more input than that - I'm just tired and posting at midnight here.
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    Feb 23, 2014 10:36 AM GMT
    Where are these cheaters? We rarely hear their side of the story.
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    Feb 23, 2014 7:12 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidEvery time I see this thread title, I read it as "cheap suits" and think "damn, I need to update my wardrobe." icon_eek.gif


    Lol :-)
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    Mar 01, 2014 8:47 AM GMT
    You're right. Sex has become very accessible in modern times. It shows in current media and pop culture; sex is in style. I generally think that most people regard sex as a right and not a privilege.

    I also think that collectively as a culture, people have become very entitled and very spoiled. Given the amount of strain and difficulty of most gay relationships, it's very easy to adopt the "Why have one when you can have eight?" mindset.

    I don't think it's "cheap sluts", either. I just think that that's the direction culture has headed progressively. You seem to hear more stories about cheating and less about long term commitment nowadays.

    That just highlights the difficulty in gay relationships in modern times. You really are trying to find love in a hopeless place.

    That's why I say, if you find something real, stick with it.

  • helloandgoodb...

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    Mar 02, 2014 7:54 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidEvery time I see this thread title, I read it as "cheap suits" and think "damn, I need to update my wardrobe." icon_eek.gif


    cheap suits will prevent a relationship form even starting. a nice well fit birthday suit on the other hand...
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    Mar 26, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    I like talking with people that I meet more than having sex with people - I think that often gets conflated with the why have one when I can have eight or, I severely misunderstand people and the world - lol

    I guess I add that now because traveling as a trucker I find people drop the whore ho bomb like breathing air - its way sad - usually the more to be rude "hicish"or old fashioned or religious the town or w.e the more often I hear it..

    Like natalism or pressure to be as miserable as these fat nasty old honkeys ive been meeting

    Harsh but eck...