First hook-up.

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    Feb 01, 2014 8:57 AM GMT
    Since I'm this type of guy who has never done a hook-up where you go to guys' place (or he comes to yours) and afterwards you leave immediately and that's that (or anything similar), I was wondering how it is. Weren't you afraid that the guy might be creepy or weird? How was first time you did it? Didn't you feel strange or uncomfortable?
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:01 AM GMT
    I was scared my first hook up..the guy was really hot, we had been talking a little while, invited him over ( he lived with his family) then things just took their course
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    Feb 01, 2014 12:41 PM GMT
    That sounds really tricky. It's like you have to block yourself to have any of your natural emotions and just focus on the phisical stuff. Weird. At least for me. Never had sex with anybody who I didn't like at least.
    Anybody has had a positive experience when you start talking, and you have some loughs and this other guys turns out to be someone really cool?
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    Feb 01, 2014 1:27 PM GMT
    I answered an Ad, it turned out he was a Cal graduate student. I was an undergrad, we decided to meet up in Oakland's Whitehorse bar. We met up, hung out, had some beer, played some pool. He was 24, 3 yrs older than me, kinda nerdy geeky! Cute. Around 1:30 am, we decided to leave, it was raining, he drove me back to my place. We hung out, kinda hooked up! I slept because I had class tomorrow, he left at 4 am! We talked a couple times after that but never really met up again. It was a fun experience, nothing creepy.

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    Feb 01, 2014 2:05 PM GMT
    niegosh saidThat sounds really tricky. It's like you have to block yourself to have any of your natural emotions and just focus on the phisical stuff. Weird. At least for me. Never had sex with anybody who I didn't like at least.
    Anybody has had a positive experience when you start talking, and you have some loughs and this other guys turns out to be someone really cool?
    I've had a guy I really liked but we never made anything , there have others that have wanted more than just to be the place I rested my cock at night . But they snoozed on telling me to long.. mostly good experiences , only 1 bad where the guys status changed to + and I guess he had slept with me and another guy the same week..well I turned out to remain - so pretty much he was a little too crazy and didn't wrap up with the other guy..this was the last time I ever just hook up
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    Feb 01, 2014 3:30 PM GMT
    Well I went over a guys house expecting me than sex.. but only got the sex part... icon_rolleyes.gif

    but yeah it was kind of scary, not because I thought he may be crazy, we had spoke online for a while, just other nervous reasons
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    Feb 01, 2014 6:42 PM GMT
    Ok. So what actually made you guys go for it? Curiosity? Lack of other options?
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:21 PM GMT
    niegosh saidThat sounds really tricky. It's like you have to block yourself to have any of your natural emotions and just focus on the phisical stuff. Weird. At least for me. Never had sex with anybody who I didn't like at least.
    Anybody has had a positive experience when you start talking, and you have some loughs and this other guys turns out to be someone really cool?

    It can happen but don't count on it. I don't have sex with someone I don't find attractive enough, liking is different story. With all the dating apps, it's a spur of the moment thing. Anyway, these days I don't do much hook ups.
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    niegosh saidOk. So what actually made you guys go for it? Curiosity? Lack of other options?
    I wasn't looking to date anyone..I had just come out of a 9 mo sexless relationship and I was horny as ever
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:33 PM GMT
    I guess you could say that my first boyfriend started with a "hookup", though we didn't call it that back then.
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    Feb 02, 2014 1:30 AM GMT
    Why hook up if you aren't comfortable doing it?
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    Feb 02, 2014 1:32 AM GMT
    Honestly, I feel like my first hook up was a mistake. You know... you have no information about him, and then you end up leaving slut shamed. I'm happy that I at least lost my virginity to somebody that I liked, instead of fucking some random guy in his apartment in the city.
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    Feb 02, 2014 1:40 AM GMT
    Expect a lot of poop, op. Poop. Everywhere.





    Poop
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    Feb 02, 2014 3:21 AM GMT
    Import saidExpect a lot of poop, op. Poop. Everywhere.





    Poop

    LOL....... are you sure you're not my Asian mother?

    You make me laugh more than Woodsmen likes to giggle!
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    Feb 02, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    For me, I regret not waiting for a guy I was more attracted to, even though my first experience was just foreplay. When I actually lost my virginity (topped and experimented with bottoming), I was satisfied, that guy was attractive and I was glad I waited to go all the way. You don't have to wait for the perfect guy, but you want a guy that is pleasurable to be with and one that can give you an experience to look back on fondly.
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    Feb 02, 2014 3:56 AM GMT
    I think it depends on what you and your hook-up are looking to get out of it. It might also depend on what it takes for you to get sexual with someone. In my opinion, the most important thing is making sure you both are on the same page considering these factors. If you're looking for sex and only sex, then I think that minimal conversation is the best way to go. Once you show up, or he shows up, a simple cue to get things started (e.g., "are you cool with us just getting started?" or however you can articulate that you're ready for the fun to begin in the least awkward manner!) should be sufficient. When things are done, you can give another gentle cue to wrap things up generally works. If you guys have spoken for a while or you are each open to the possibility of your hook up developing into something more, then you could start with conversation before the hook up or end the hook up with some talking/hanging out.

    A few other things that come to mind is that I always appreciate it when hosts don't make me feel trapped in their home or when travelers don't overstay their welcome. Also, the hospitality of hosts goes a long way for me too! And finally, I think hook ups are only as awkward as the people make it. So if you just be yourself and act friendly, then you should be fine! icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 02, 2014 5:43 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidGiggles!

    giggles back...how does that feel. Tell us what you are thinking!

    To the OP, my first hook up, I just wanted to see what sex was like.. cause I live in suburbs and haven't seen two guys holding hands openly. So, went there and was nervous. I thought it's more like love.. and I am going to see him all the time and he'll be my boyfriend. When we started I began by hugging him my burying my head in his chest and wouldn't let go. lol. Poor guy was really patient and understanding though (old guys rock). Then he understood that he'll be directing everything. He gave me directions in a gentle tone. I came fairly quickly and he took his time. Never saw him again. Came back in home listing to music loud as possible took shower and closed my bedroom and slept. Next morning, everything was normal. So yeah.. My only hook up ever, now I want to actually date a guy.
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    Feb 02, 2014 7:18 AM GMT
    So, my question came from the fact that this really hot guy offered to come by and have sex. As always in these cases I thanked him for this offer ("not interested in hook ups"), and later on started thinking if it's as weird as I think. And if people who do it regularly feel comfortable about it, or it comes with time, or it never comes and they just accept the fact that it is what it is.