What happens if you start to develop romantic feelings for your celibate gay Mormon good friend?

  • hartfan

    Posts: 1037

    Feb 01, 2014 2:58 PM GMT
    I guess there really isn't much else to say except that it sucks. icon_sad.gif

    God. Fate. Heaven. Thou art cruel.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 3:13 PM GMT
    we expect people to accepting of gay men, well, everone's sexuality is different and you have to accept him.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 5:13 PM GMT
    I did when I was 16, we were best friends. He was and still is a beautiful guy, we were both active mormon back then. Then we both left the church and went to uni, moved to diferent cities but stayed in touch. I told Him then that I was gay and he confessed to me he had been dating a guy. I was like ... WTF !! I wish i had some courage back then. Anyways, i did Have a crush on Him but i did let go of those feelings, now we are just good friends and really comfortable with who we are today. icon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

    Posts: 4435

    Feb 01, 2014 5:17 PM GMT
    CJICV saidI did when I was 16, we were best friends. He was and still is a beautiful guy, we were both active mormon back then. Then we both left the church and went to uni, moved to diferent cities but stayed in touch. I told Him then that I was gay and he confessed to me he had been dating a guy. I was like ... WTF !! I wish i had some courage back then. Anyways, i did Have a crush on Him but i did let go of those feelings, now we are just good friends and really comfortable with who we are today. icon_smile.gif

    Ya, I say let him know how you feel. Tell him no pressure but that you think the church is backwards on this topic. You won't be alone in the church feeling that way from what I read. It seems to be changing pretty fast.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    Use your masculine wiles to seduce him.
  • SportsRI

    Posts: 27

    Feb 01, 2014 5:28 PM GMT
    See the movie "The Falls"
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 5:36 PM GMT
    If he is gay, and you are gay.. and you are bringing up the celibate part in the title.. then I am assuming his problem would be the lack of sex in the possible future relationship

    If so, then I say go for the relationship and cross the sex barrier when you get there
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    This happened to me once when I was an undergrad. I fell for a Mormon (LDS) guy who was a teammate on my college water polo team. I let him know. I wish in hindsight I'd just kept it to myself. I lost him as a friend. My love was unrequited, and unappreciated.
  • Destinharbor

    Posts: 4435

    Feb 01, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidThis happened to me once when I was an undergrad. I fell for a Mormon (LDS) guy who was a teammate on my college water polo team. I let him know. I wish in hindsight I'd just kept it to myself. I lost him as a friend. My love was unrequited, and unappreciated.

    No balls, no blue chips....
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    Jockbod48 saidThis happened to me once when I was an undergrad. I fell for a Mormon (LDS) guy who was a teammate on my college water polo team. I let him know. I wish in hindsight I'd just kept it to myself. I lost him as a friend. My love was unrequited, and unappreciated.

    No balls, no blue chips....

    Chips yes, but blue balls. Apparently.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 01, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    Gay. Celibate. Mormon.

    Unless you are willing to stay celibate also, and to stomach the homophobic church that he belongs to, I'd say let it go. Plenty of non-celibate fish in the sea.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 1:24 AM GMT
    Some mormon guys are really hot.. too sad icon_neutral.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 1:30 AM GMT
    You seduce him off course.



    Sure it might lead to him being disowned and institutionalized by his family and his eventual suicide attempt. But there's gotta be a happy ending in a cliche restaurant scene, right?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 1:43 AM GMT
    vballboy12 saidYou seduce him off course.



    Sure it might lead to him being disowned and institutionalized by his family and his eventual suicide attempt. But there's gotta be a happy ending in a cliche restaurant scene, right?


    hahahaha, too funny!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 2:08 AM GMT
    Frottage in magic underwear; hot hot hot.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    Falling for someone who does not or will not reciprocate our affections is tough. This has happened to me a few times and it sucks balls. What has always worked for me is that I just force myself to create some distance between myself and the guy I'm developing feelings for, and try my best to move on. Check out some other gay social networks, make new friends, and learn to appreciate who else is out there beyond this friend of yours. When you create this distance, it's possible that your friend will realize what he's missing out on and will be able to develop the relationship with you that you are looking for. But the best thing you can probably do for yourself is move on. It's like getting over a break up. From my own experiences and those of my friends', distance and time are key to moving on.
  • MikeW

    Posts: 6061

    Feb 02, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidFrottage in magic underwear; hot hot hot.

    Yeah, I mean there's gotta be some kind of potential compromise somewhere, especially if he identifies as gay!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 2:34 AM GMT
    Im thinking you try to cure him of being celibate. I had some great mormon friends. They were wonderful. Celibate is not how we were meant to live. IMO..
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 3:26 AM GMT
    You let him be.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Feb 02, 2014 3:34 AM GMT
    You pray to god for forgiveness. Lol, I know how it feels to like someone you cannot have. I had a crush on a popular high school kid, who had a girlfriend. Those years were painful. Then met way better looking guys. Saw him couple of months ago in my collage, and I was like ewww, wtf I was thinking. Not to sound mean or anything. I guess, I was only attracted to his popularity and the perks it came with lol.