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  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 01, 2014 8:47 PM GMT
    I've been seeing this guy for 3 months, we didn't have anything in common other than our friends, and he annoys me a lot, but I gave it a shot because he's super cute and has some great aspects to his character. A week ago, I decided that it's not going to work out and planned to break up with him this weekend. I want to do this in person, but he won't see it coming, so everytime I contact him, he's expecting to spend the night over since he lives on the other side of town. I managed to prevent him from coming over last night(feigning work demands and fatigue), while saving the bad news for tonight's dinner date.

    I'm worried that he'll think I had cheated on him, because I didn't see him last weekend either (needed alone time last weekend to study - waking up with a guy can be a chore sometimes).

    The other problem is that a few days ago I met a guy who is new to our friend circle, who I instantly fell for, and hope to pursue the first chance I get, which is tonight when we all go clubbing. My soon-to-be-ex is coming, as always. I'm hoping that tonight's break-up will deter him from going out with us, and if he does, common sense tells me I should wait a week before pursuing the new guy, just to avoid any bad feelings from coming up in our friend circle.

    Thoughts?
  • Import

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    Feb 01, 2014 8:50 PM GMT
    youre a fuckin mess bro. just break it off. why have a fuckin dinner over it?

    youre wack as fuck bro
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    Feb 01, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    Wow just do the guy a favor and let him go! You're just stringing him along. And I'm not going to lie, but, that's a bit messed up that you're already thinking of snagging another guy when you're still in a relationship.

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  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:08 PM GMT
    Ok... so I should just break up over the phone?
  • MikeW

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:17 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidOk... so I should just break up over the phone?

    Just text him: we're done bye. Then block.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:18 PM GMT
    This isn't a grindr "relationship". There's nothing to block. And we're friends.
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:20 PM GMT
    Honestly, it seems like you are being very unfair to him by not being upfront. Just let him go and do it drama free.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    Take him to dinner and pick up the tab, tell him you still want to be friends and buy him drinks all night afterwards when you go out clubbing
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
    Jaggal saidExplain to me how you date someone who annoys you.


    Bubble wrap and duct tape, from what I've read.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:25 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidTake him to dinner and pick up the tab, tell him you still want to be friends and buy him drinks all night afterwards when you go out clubbing


    Ok, thanks, that sounds like my plan all along.

    No thanks to all those guys ranting vicariously through the "victim" and telling me to "let go". Duh, what do you think I'm doing...
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:26 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks said
    jo2hotbod saidTake him to dinner and pick up the tab, tell him you still want to be friends and buy him drinks all night afterwards when you go out clubbing


    Ok, thanks, that sounds like my plan all along.

    No thanks to all those guys ranting vicariously through the "victim" and telling me to "let go". Duh, what do you think I'm doing...


    The way you are going about it makes you look like big ol' douche bag.
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:28 PM GMT
    YourName2000 said
    Jaggal saidExplain to me how you date someone who annoys you.

    Bingo.

    Really you've just been using him for sex. And it doesn't sound like you have any respect for the guy...surprised that you actually call him a "friend". I personally don't treat my friends that way. icon_neutral.gif


    Pretty much this.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:29 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidThis isn't a grindr "relationship". There's nothing to block. And we're friends.

    Was not serious. If anything, it was a comment on aboves who seem rather callous.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:34 PM GMT
    YourName2000 said
    Jaggal saidExplain to me how you date someone who annoys you.

    Bingo.

    Really you've just been using him for sex. And it doesn't sound like you have any respect for the guy...surprised that you actually call him a "friend". I personally don't treat my friends that way. icon_neutral.gif


    Ok, I didn't date him just for his looks; I overstated the "annoying" part... I only started feeling that way a month or so ago, but still "gave it a shot" because his character had redeeming qualities. But at the end of the day, I realized we were too different. I already alluded to this, but most of you made assumptions probably based on your own experiences as a victim.
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:35 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    theonewhoknocks saidThis isn't a grindr "relationship". There's nothing to block. And we're friends.

    Was not serious. If anything, it was a comment on aboves who seem rather callous.


    Hmmm, having been the recipient of such machinations, yes, I probably sound callous. It hurt like hell to find out the guy I was seeing for months had found me irritating from the get go, and had been planning to boot me while he had his eye on someone else. *shrugs*
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:37 PM GMT


    Go back to bed Southbeach. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:41 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    meninlove said

    Go back to bed Southbeach. icon_lol.gif


    How anyone could find you irritating baffles me.



    Aww, how sweet. I'll keep that to quote and post.
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:42 PM GMT
    "My soon-to-be-ex is coming, as always. I'm hoping that tonight's break-up will deter him from going out with us"

    some friend you are. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    I think they should all take you to dinner then throw you off a fucking bridge
  • whytehot

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:49 PM GMT
    RJ is a victim's circle. When's the last time anyone has asked for break-up advice on here - as the instigator, and not gotten hell for it? Just saying
  • Aodhan

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    Feb 01, 2014 9:49 PM GMT
    So sweet. I aspire to have relationships like this! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    somersault saidI think they should all take you to dinner then throw you off a fucking bridge


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    Feb 01, 2014 9:51 PM GMT
    whytehot saidRJ is a victim's circle. When's the last time anyone has asked for break-up advice on here - as the instigator, and not gotten hell for it? Just saying


    Lot of times. Go research the dating and relationships forum.
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    Feb 01, 2014 9:52 PM GMT
    Don't dump him completely; keep him around for a fuck buddy.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 01, 2014 10:02 PM GMT
    YourName2000 said
    theonewhoknocks said
    YourName2000 said
    Jaggal saidExplain to me how you date someone who annoys you.

    Bingo.

    Really you've just been using him for sex. And it doesn't sound like you have any respect for the guy...surprised that you actually call him a "friend". I personally don't treat my friends that way. icon_neutral.gif


    Ok, I didn't date him just for his looks; I overstated the "annoying" part... I only started feeling that way a month or so ago, but still "gave it a shot" because his character had redeeming qualities. But at the end of the day, I realized we were too different. I already alluded to this, but most of you made assumptions probably based on your own experiences as a victim.

    Pffft....accuses others of "projecting" by "projecting" himself....ughh. icon_rolleyes.gif

    No it's your writing style. You come off like a douche.

    Let the guy go fast....you've fucked him [over] enough.


    I only see him on weekends. This is the first weekend since deciding to break up with him. For the last time, speed is far less relevant here than method. Most of you keep thinking I'm "stringing him along", because you forumers are mostly too anti-social to realize it when it was happening to you.

    And I didn't even fuck him yet, that's how pious and unsuperficial I am.