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  • Onemoresummer

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    Feb 02, 2014 8:05 AM GMT
    So the other night I met up with this guy from Grindr.
    We went to his house and watched movies. That led to us making out but no sex. I stayed the night.

    The next night he invited me out clubbing and I sleep over again. No sex.

    We cuddled etc.

    He is coming over to mine tomorrow, is it now time. It's very HARD not to jump his bones.

    Why is he holding off?!
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    Feb 02, 2014 8:16 AM GMT
    Maybe because he likes you and wants to take it slow. Just a thought....
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    Feb 02, 2014 8:36 AM GMT
    Maybe he just wants a cuddle buddy?
  • Onemoresummer

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    Feb 02, 2014 8:58 AM GMT
    What kind of normal sexually charge 20 year old is just after a "cuddle buddy".
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    Feb 02, 2014 1:00 PM GMT
    YourName2000 said
    Onemoresummer saidWhat kind of normal sexually charge 20 year old is just after a "cuddle buddy".

    A romantic. icon_wink.gif

    I agree with this. I cuddled with my current bf for weeks before we had sex the first time. I just wanted to enjoy the dating process and get to really know him first.
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    Feb 02, 2014 1:05 PM GMT
    You look like a perfect guy to be a cuddle buddy with....but, I'd definitely do more than just cuddle with you. icon_smile.gif
  • Breeman

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    Feb 02, 2014 1:41 PM GMT
    Enjoy those times together; the cuddling, watching movies and getting to know each other. Make those times last. The longer you can put off any intimacy, the better - I think. Let the tension build. It can make for better sex!
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    Feb 02, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    Have you made a move to initiate sex? Did he say no? Or are you waiting for him? It doesn't have to be an elephant in the room - just casually bring up the fact that you want to get carnal and discuss what you are both into... Or just go at it... Or respect his need to take it slow if that's what he really wants...
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    Feb 02, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    It's call dating, a long forgotten process. Notice how it's intensified your desire rather than having done it and then the climax was before the climb up?

    Enjoy him, talk with him, get to know him. You have years to have sex together. Now go rub one out to relieve the pressure before you see him again. icon_eek.gificon_eek.gif
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    Feb 02, 2014 6:10 PM GMT
    Onemoresummer saidSo the other night I met up with this guy from Grindr.
    We went to his house and watched movies. That led to us making out but no sex. I stayed the night.

    The next night he invited me out clubbing and I sleep over again. No sex.

    We cuddled etc.

    He is coming over to mine tomorrow, is it now time. It's very HARD not to jump his bones.

    Why is he holding off?!


    Because he knows you will block his texts after you fuck .
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    Feb 02, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidIt's call dating, a long forgotten process. Notice how it's intensified your desire rather than having done it and then the climax was before the climb up?

    Enjoy him, talk with him, get to know him. You have years to have sex together. Now go rub one out to relieve the pressure before you see him again. icon_eek.gificon_eek.gif


    Laugh! THIS!
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    Feb 02, 2014 6:18 PM GMT
    Why is he holding off?!

    He most likely is just shy. Tell him you think it's cute but you have needs, like the boy's in high school do it.
    or
    He got a small pee pee.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 02, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    toddstud saidHave you made a move to initiate sex? Did he say no? Or are you waiting for him? It doesn't have to be an elephant in the room - just casually bring up the fact that you want to get carnal and discuss what you are both into... Or just go at it... Or respect his need to take it slow if that's what he really wants...

    This. Have you initiated anything? Maybe he's wondering the same thing? Is he the top? Is that why you're waiting for him to start? I wouldn't try to talk about it. Just make a gentle move and see where it goes. If he stops you, you can ask why. Just be willing to hear an honest answer and maybe you'll love what he has to say.
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    Feb 02, 2014 6:30 PM GMT
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    That's Sweet!
    He is taking it slow because he really likes you and doesn't know if you are ready, and doesn't wish to ruin it all
    I mean Really.. Why else?
  • Suetonius

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    Feb 02, 2014 7:25 PM GMT
    It's how gays distinguish themselves from straights - who jump into sex as soon as they meet.

    It takes two to tango. Why haven't you initiated any moves in the direction of sex? Next time you are in bed together, try kissing him, (or fondling his dick if you are daring).
  • mybud

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    Feb 02, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    Onemoresummer saidWhat kind of normal sexually charge 20 year old is just after a "cuddle buddy".
    Move on..you don't deserve him after that statement...
  • chadwick1985

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    Feb 02, 2014 9:05 PM GMT
    What is with gay guys and it all being about sex. OMG we've been on 3 dates, slept in bed together and didn't have sex. Should we?

    Have you ever heard that sex corrupts? If a guy wants sex too early and they get it they usually disappear. If they want to take it slow somethings wrong with them.


    Maybe he just wants to take it slow, don't push it. Let it happen in its own time. However on the 3rd date it is time for some open discussion about what you are into sexually. If you don't the first time could turn out kinda weird (both strict tops etc)
  • Onemoresummer

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    Feb 04, 2014 12:39 AM GMT
    I ended up inviting him over. Cooked him dinner, watch a movie, talked, fell asleep.

    I woke up really horny and well starting putting my hands 'down there' but I could tell he wasn't into it so I stopped.

    A little later I told him it's pretty rare for me not have had sex after 3 sleeps together and I asked him if he just wanted affection/cuddles or what and that it's really hard to control myself because I find him really sexy.

    He said that we will probably have sex eventually he just has to be in the right mood for it.
    Doesn't like doing it in the morning...

    I told him I don't usually cook for guys (so hopefully that emphasised the fact I actually like him, and don't just want a one night stand).

    Dropped him off at home, I hope i didn't freak him out.

    We will see what happens..
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Feb 04, 2014 1:06 AM GMT
    Onemoresummer saidI ended up inviting him over. Cooked him dinner, watch a movie, talked, fell asleep.

    I woke up really horny and well starting putting my hands 'down there' but I could tell he wasn't into it so I stopped.

    A little later I told him it's pretty rare for me not have had sex after 3 sleeps together and I asked him if he just wanted affection/cuddles or what and that it's really hard to control myself because I find him really sexy.

    He said that we will probably have sex eventually he just has to be in the right mood for it.
    Doesn't like doing it in the morning...

    I told him I don't usually cook for guys (so hopefully that emphasised the fact I actually like him, and don't just want a one night stand).

    Dropped him off at home, I hope i didn't freak him out.

    We will see what happens..

    Well make sure to text him later. Wait until HE asks to have sex. Also make sure you make it comfortable for him to be open about asking to fuck.
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    Feb 04, 2014 1:13 AM GMT
    Hm I bet that was it
  • OutdoorAdvent...

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    Feb 04, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    Perhaps he's waiting till you fill in your RJ profile.
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    Feb 04, 2014 1:46 AM GMT
    YourName2000 saidHe's probably just having a herpes outbreak. icon_razz.gif



    Hahahaa, fucking hilarious...but might be true
  • Onemoresummer

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    Feb 04, 2014 5:49 AM GMT
    A work friend (hysterically) suggested he might gave HIV and doesn't wanna tell me yet.

    He is only 20. If he doesn't do it with me next time, I think I'll give him the flick.
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    Feb 04, 2014 5:53 AM GMT
    Never have I ever

    Ha--"not in the mood"?
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    Feb 04, 2014 5:56 AM GMT
    Onemoresummer saidA work friend (hysterically) suggested he might gave HIV and doesn't wanna tell me yet.

    He is only 20. If he doesn't do it with me next time, I think I'll give him the flick.


    You didn't ask?