Feb 02, 2014 10:53 AM GMT
I am a very trusting person to a fault... My "ex" is very narcissistic and I have known this from the beginning and have been cool with it. I just never thought that his Narcissism was a bad as it really is. We met in 2004 in Florida, he's German and we met through personals. He was on vacation and the relationship progressed to the point that we decided that I would move to Germany to be with him. I couldn't speak the language but I have worked my ass off to learn this language and try to assimilate the culture. After five years together we bought a house and car and have traveled the world. It has been a great ride. I love(ed) him so much. About six months ago he was able to refinance the house and take out some extra money to go on a personal retreat in Thailand. On Christmas day he ( before he left ) tells me that I need to move out he's done and wants to start over. Come to find out, that all this time the house and the car were never in my name at all, he had just used me as cosigner to obtained the loan. Once he got the refinancing he was able to take my name off as cosigner and so everything is his free and clear. He told me that I have to be packed up and be gone before he gets back. Now that I have gotten a good grasp of this language I have learned so many other things about him and that he has told so many lies. I cannot believe I have been with someone for 10 years, invested all this love and support... and I NEVER knew this man at all. Furthermore, I cannot believe that anyone could be so narcissistic to have done all this to someone and then leave them in their apartment for 6 weeks while they go on a retreat. I just keep thinking of all the damage I could wreak.... I am not a violent person at all, but damn I am struggling with all this hostility, working out doesn't even help. FUCK I feel like a complete idiot!