MOVING TO NORTH CAROLINA!

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    Feb 03, 2014 6:55 AM GMT
    I'm leaving my home state of NY finally to live with a friend in Norf Kaki. I'm excited for the move because we're moving to Greenville which is a big college town so theres a lot of people my age doing shit my age group does lol.

    Plus the american South has the hottest men on earth icon_cool.gif

    Anyone have any suggestions as to what to do in Greenville or anywhere in that area? Bars, outdoor activities, ect.


    Theres nothing like New York but I need a fucking change.
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    Feb 03, 2014 6:59 AM GMT
    Im not from USA and even I thought the same thing than ^^^ when reading your post icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 03, 2014 7:13 AM GMT
    NC is the armpit of America. Trust me. I was stationed there for 4 years.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 03, 2014 9:18 AM GMT
    BEACHES!!! Go to the ocean one time in NC and you'll forget all about the eroding dredged-up sand pushed against artificial barriers that's called the Jersey Shore. There are no sketchy boardwalks like in Jersey and on LI, or rows of concrete condo towers like in Florida, either. Plus the water is warm.

    The South is still drenched in football/frat/Republican Christian Right culture and ECU is no different. You're in for culture shock big time. One positive difference is how kind and polite people generally are, though. Nobody leans on their horn if you don't floor it as soon as a traffic light turns green. "Sir" and "ma'am" are used in business and social conversations of all kinds - and you better learn to use it too, especially with older people.

    But the best thing is the FOOD. Not for nothing does the South have the highest obesity rates in the country. Cafeterias down South are awesome. Grits with breakfast, served "everywhere" just like home fries up North, are delish and best enjoyed with cheese. Fresh seafood is out of this world. Before long you'll know exactly how you like your BBQ, too; it's a science. OTOH if you're vegan/vegetarian life can be tough.

    You'll be greeting friends with "Hey" instead of "Hi" before you know it. icon_wink.gif And if military servicemen catch your eye you'll have a lot of fun scoping in store. Camp Lejeune and Fort Bragg, huge bases, aren't far away. The much lower cost of living should appeal as well.
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    Feb 03, 2014 1:38 PM GMT
    I've lived in NC for almost three years now and love it! I haven't been to Greenville much, but from what I know it's definitely a college/party town. The beaches are great to visit, and being in Greenville you won't be far from them. Raleigh and the Triangle is awesome as well.

    As far as it being anti-gay, from what I've experienced it really depends on what area you're in. Being in Chapel Hill and the Triangle, I haven't come across much of it. I know this isn't the case for many other parts, but I've never felt threatened or anything like that in this area. The people here are very polite, and are actually more welcoming to "Yankees" than I thought when I first came here.

    Just live your life, be polite and you'll enjoy it here.
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    Feb 03, 2014 1:49 PM GMT
    The politeness of Southern culture is a mask for their enormous passive-aggressive hostility, and the famous hospitality is barely skin deep. The South is generally somewhere between suspicious of and outright hostile to anyone not born and raised there---and I mean, even to people from other parts of the South.

    However. They are quirky, and sometimes they make a sort of unstated group decision that they like you and therefore they treat you as one of their own. I was lucky when I moved to Virginia (not Northern Virginia, which is Yankee-land, but Richmond, the capital of the Confederutsy) because my boyfriend was from a very old Virginia family and therefore I was treated to the same kind of respect. But I saw up close how they treated people they didn't cotton to, and it wasn't nice at all.

    Still, I enjoyed my Richmond years from my perch of privilege. The place is fucking nuts, so I got the best of both worlds, a place I genuinely loved and could make sport of at the same time.
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    Feb 03, 2014 2:01 PM GMT
    good luck with the move. Asheville and the Outer Banks are pretty cool, then there's BBQ, Waffle House and pine trees, lots of pine trees
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    Feb 03, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    The South is an odd place. You'll love having access to nature and the cities in NC are actually mostly progressive and gay friendly. I'm a Southerner and can't for the life of me figure out where all those trailers in the woods are that produces the redneck voting patterns. Although I will say a lot of southerners that vote Republican seem otherwise socially liberal and educated. You should have no problems and will love living among polite people.
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    Feb 03, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThe South is an odd place. You'll love having access to nature and the cities in NC are actually mostly progressive and gay friendly. I'm a Southerner and can't for the life of me figure out where all those trailers in the woods are that produces the redneck voting patterns. Although I will say a lot of southerners that vote Republican seem otherwise socially liberal and educated. You should have no problems and will love living among polite people.


    Don't be to put off from the impression of people who hate the south. The right wing politics are bad publicity and scare most gay men away. NC is actually a swing state but that doesn't really explain the complicated politics alluded to in Destin's post. It is more blue red pocodots than solidly red.

    Unfortunately Greenville is not a big college town despite the presence of ECU. That part of NC is rather depressing. Durham/Chapel Hill is the most liberal part of the state. It is like a small version of Austin there though, Durham and Chapel hill put together would be smaller and more liberal than Austin. Raleigh/Cary is more corporate and still moderately blue. Most gay men go to Raleigh because they prefer bigger cities but Durham/Chapel Hill is more welcoming. In fact the latter is not just gay friendly but a lot of straight people are more than willing to help us out politically. Charlotte the closest the state has to a big city. It is also corporate and moderately blue but it is surrounded by bright red counties and mega-churches. The city of Asheville is liberal but the surrounding area is bright red. Then there are the swing counties that have liberal cities such as Boone, Winston Salem, Greensboro, Wilmington and the outerbanks.

    The state has the greatest geographic and climatic diversity in the east. It has the highest mountains, highest elevation towns, deepest gorge, and I would guess it has the highest percentage of pristine undeveloped beaches and the best surfing in the east. The climate ranges from palm trees, and spanish moss in the southeastern part of the state to a northern new england climate in the locations above 5000 feet.

    The bad news is that it is in the south and with that comes a lot historical baggage (such as zealots, bigots, and bible thumpers) outside its liberal pockets. In a place like Greenville you will invariably meet them, in a place like Chapel Hill or Durham you may find you see them more on TV or the Radio that up close. I have lived up and down the east coast and have decided you pick your poison. I love New England and upstate NY but the winters are beyond harsh and the population can become very withdrawn as a result. DC to New York is clogged with traffic and overcrowding and still a lot of bad weather and an in your face aggressive mentality. South of Northern Va you have to deal with southern baggage unless you take refuge in one of the liberal pockets.

    Good luck.
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    Feb 03, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    True NYC is the center of the world but sometimes we all need a change.NC is very nice.Good luck and safe travels!icon_smile.gif Ryan and Ruben
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    Feb 03, 2014 8:51 PM GMT
    hey me too!
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    Feb 03, 2014 8:52 PM GMT
    Congrats. Hope it works out well for you.

    I'm moving from DC to Kentucky, so I pretty much get it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 03, 2014 9:04 PM GMT
    check out Raleigh...great downtown scene, esp in the Spring/Summer. They have a Beer Fest in April that's super fun
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    Feb 03, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    Don't be to put off from the impression of people who hate the south. The right wing politics are bad publicity and scare most gay men away. NC is actually a swing state but that doesn't really explain the complicated politics alluded to in Destin's post. It is more blue red pocodots than solidly red.

    Unfortunately Greenville is not a big college town despite the presence of ECU. That part of NC is rather depressing. Durham/Chapel Hill is the most liberal part of the state. It is like a small version of Austin there though, Durham and Chapel hill put together would be smaller and more liberal than Austin. Raleigh/Cary is more corporate and still moderately blue. Most gay men go to Raleigh because they prefer bigger cities but Durham/Chapel Hill is more welcoming. In fact the latter is not just gay friendly but a lot of straight people are more than willing to help us out politically. Charlotte the closest the state has to a big city. It is also corporate and moderately blue but it is surrounded by bright red counties and mega-churches. The city of Asheville is liberal but the surrounding area is bright red. Then there are the swing counties that have liberal cities such as Boone, Winston Salem, Greensboro, Wilmington and the outerbanks.

    The state has the greatest geographic and climatic diversity in the east. It has the highest mountains, highest elevation towns, deepest gorge, and I would guess it has the highest percentage of pristine undeveloped beaches and the best surfing in the east. The climate ranges from palm trees, and spanish moss in the southeastern part of the state to a northern new england climate in the locations above 5000 feet.

    The bad news is that it is in the south and with that comes a lot historical baggage (such as zealots, bigots, and bible thumpers) outside its liberal pockets. In a place like Greenville you will invariably meet them, in a place like Chapel Hill or Durham you may find you see them more on TV or the Radio that up close. I have lived up and down the east coast and have decided you pick your poison. I love New England and upstate NY but the winters are beyond harsh and the population can become very withdrawn as a result. DC to New York is clogged with traffic and overcrowding and still a lot of bad weather and an in your face aggressive mentality. South of Northern Va you have to deal with southern baggage unless you take refuge in one of the liberal pockets.

    Good luck. [/quote]

    This is a great assessment. Greenville isn't exactly a college town in the way you might think of Ann Arbor, Boulder or Charlottesville. ECU is a regional university known chiefly for its rabid football fans and reputation for being a party school. It's definitely not regarded as a very progressive or intellectually stimulating place, the university notwithstanding. However, there are beautiful beaches nearby, and Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill are not that far for a getaway. I know that many of the gay guys in Greenville go to Raleigh on the weekends. Raleigh is a far cry from NYC, but there are some good restaurants and the vibe is more or less tolerant/progressive.
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:09 AM GMT
    Thanks everyone for your input! I'm definitely excited about the move and can't wait to get there already!

    The homophobia won't bother me one bit (if there is any) I get amused by it easily lol. I'll gladly make out with another gay guy in the middle of a busy area just to piss off some people lol icon_biggrin.gif And i'll wear my NY Yankee shirt while doing it to show who's who.

    I love beaches and I can't wait to check out all the beaches in NC and myrtle beach as well. Plus all the attractions and bars down there.

    Besides the move is to scope out a whole new culture and see if I like it. I plan on staying for about a year before moving back to NY.

    Although I realize that they don't have good pizza places down there so I'd like to open up a small pizzeria in the bar area I think it will be a big success. Bring a bit of little italy to the south icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:12 AM GMT
    southbeach1500 saidOnce again, the "gay establishment" / "gay community" posts all their lies about a southern state, all the while ignoring that "progressive" NYC is having an epidemic of gay hate crimes in the past 2 years.

    How many gay hate crimes have there been in "backwards" North Carolina during that time?

    Anyone?

    The good thing about the "gay community" / "gay establishment" view of the southern states is that it keeps them in their "safe" gay ghettos in their "progressive" states so we don't have to deal with their intolerance, prejudice, lies and "we're so much better than you" attitude down here.

    is there anything at all that doesn't disgust you about gays?
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:13 AM GMT
    I'm in NC.. I don't live where you are going but not far away

    My area is Really just O.k, but lots of youth is in your area so it should be fun... also I didn't notice many hot men til recently.. they are Flocking here.. for what? I do not know why
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:15 AM GMT
    Minion saidThanks everyone for your input! I'm definitely excited about the move and can't wait to get there already!

    The homophobia won't bother me one bit (if there is any) I get amused by it easily lol. I'll gladly make out with another gay guy in the middle of a busy area just to piss off some people lol icon_biggrin.gif And i'll wear my NY Yankee shirt while doing it to show who's who.

    I love beaches and I can't wait to check out all the beaches in NC and myrtle beach as well. Plus all the attractions and bars down there.

    Besides the move is to scope out a whole new culture and see if I like it. I plan on staying for about a year before moving back to NY.

    Although I realize that they don't have good pizza places down there so I'd like to open up a small pizzeria in the bar area I think it will be a big success. Bring a bit of little italy to the south icon_biggrin.gif


    Welcome to NC man. It is not as bad as some people make it out to be. It all depends on the people you hangout with. I live in the ultra red county and it still has people who are cool.
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:25 AM GMT
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    Minion saidThanks everyone for your input! I'm definitely excited about the move and can't wait to get there already!

    The homophobia won't bother me one bit (if there is any) I get amused by it easily lol. I'll gladly make out with another gay guy in the middle of a busy area just to piss off some people lol icon_biggrin.gif And i'll wear my NY Yankee shirt while doing it to show who's who.

    I love beaches and I can't wait to check out all the beaches in NC and myrtle beach as well. Plus all the attractions and bars down there.

    Besides the move is to scope out a whole new culture and see if I like it. I plan on staying for about a year before moving back to NY.

    Although I realize that they don't have good pizza places down there so I'd like to open up a small pizzeria in the bar area I think it will be a big success. Bring a bit of little italy to the south icon_biggrin.gif


    Welcome to NC man. It is not as bad as some people make it out to be. It all depends on the people you hangout with. I live in the ultra red county and it still has people who are cool.


    Thanks dude I'm hype. You're a hot one I hope to meet you when I get down there icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:29 AM GMT
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    Minion saidThanks everyone for your input! I'm definitely excited about the move and can't wait to get there already!

    The homophobia won't bother me one bit (if there is any) I get amused by it easily lol. I'll gladly make out with another gay guy in the middle of a busy area just to piss off some people lol icon_biggrin.gif And i'll wear my NY Yankee shirt while doing it to show who's who.

    I love beaches and I can't wait to check out all the beaches in NC and myrtle beach as well. Plus all the attractions and bars down there.

    Besides the move is to scope out a whole new culture and see if I like it. I plan on staying for about a year before moving back to NY.

    Although I realize that they don't have good pizza places down there so I'd like to open up a small pizzeria in the bar area I think it will be a big success. Bring a bit of little italy to the south icon_biggrin.gif


    Welcome to NC man. It is not as bad as some people make it out to be. It all depends on the people you hangout with. I live in the ultra red county and it still has people who are cool.


    Thanks dude I'm hype. You're a hot one I hope to meet you when I get down there icon_cool.gif


    There are a few of us NC RJers.
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    Feb 04, 2014 2:32 AM GMT
    Of all the NYCers I've met here in NC, not one of them is enjoying their time here. I love it here, but it's not for everyone.
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    Feb 04, 2014 3:22 AM GMT
    Minion saidThanks everyone for your input! I'm definitely excited about the move and can't wait to get there already!

    The homophobia won't bother me one bit (if there is any) I get amused by it easily lol. I'll gladly make out with another gay guy in the middle of a busy area just to piss off some people lol icon_biggrin.gif And i'll wear my NY Yankee shirt while doing it to show who's who.

    I love beaches and I can't wait to check out all the beaches in NC and myrtle beach as well. Plus all the attractions and bars down there.

    Besides the move is to scope out a whole new culture and see if I like it. I plan on staying for about a year before moving back to NY.

    Although I realize that they don't have good pizza places down there so I'd like to open up a small pizzeria in the bar area I think it will be a big success. Bring a bit of little italy to the south icon_biggrin.gif


    Honestly they'd probably hate you more for the Yankees shirt than making out with a guy in public. And as woodsmen said, the cockroaches are awful! There's just no avoiding them and they're huge.
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    Feb 04, 2014 3:28 AM GMT
    Say Wahhhhhhhhhhh^

    I have lived here my Entire life and barely seen any......
    Maybe in Greenville only
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    Feb 04, 2014 3:30 AM GMT
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    woodsmen saidCockroaches in North Carolina are larger than those in New York City.


    I didn't see any giant cockroaches in NC but I've seen several in Dallas and those fuckers aren't playing around.

    Down here in Florida they're so large that I had to list two of them on my last census questionnaire.
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    Feb 04, 2014 3:40 AM GMT
    North Carolina is a growing, which means lots of good opportunities, so it's a great destination to move to. The Triad and Triangle are prime areas now.