Now I know why some gay guys just don't believe in dating...(and why I believe FWB is a bad idea. Either you're dating, or you're not.)

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    Feb 03, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    ...And it's not to agree with them or say I'm going to feel the same way. But some of the bullshit drama I've come across is just un-called for.

    Last night, I went to a party...everything seemed fine throughout the day/night. Then, I guess one of the hosts of the party seen his BF kissing some other guy...and although I won't go into the specifics, they both ended up being hauled off to jail, and someone's blood somehow got on my fur coat icon_mad.gif

    On the 1 hand, you have a guy denying that that they are even dating...trying to make it seem like they never discussed it, when it turns out they've been doing things like getting tested together. So I'm telling the guy, ummm...you knew he invited you here to his house, why are fucking kissing other guys in his house? That's stupid. I'm asking if he's dating the guy, he can't even give me a straight answer. I don't even think he knew if he was dating the other guy, or maybe 1 thought it was 1 thing, and the other thought it was something else. Then, I was telling the other guy, all he did was kiss someone...gay guys do that ALL THE TIME. It comes with the territory. I'm sorry, but I've learned that the hard way. It doesn't excuse it or make it right, or make it not matter, but it's something that's just going to happen more or not when you get a group of guys together around alcohol, etc. Although, I'd expect that more at a club/bar.


    I just hate to see people go down that route, when it was supposed to have been something else. Drama is not even the word for it. It's just I sometimes believe some gay guys fail to take responsibility for themselves and then blame it on the alcohol or claim they aren't dating, etc.

    And then, say this was a friend's with benefits. Guys brings 'friend' to party who he's been 'benefiting' off of. But since they are just friends...they aren't dating so no one gets hurt right? Wrong. All I know is, I'm getting the fuck up out of this town because I keep having to play mediator for everyone else's bullshit relationship, yet I can't even fucking find one of my own out here.
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    Feb 03, 2014 7:32 PM GMT
    I do not know where you come from but kissing other men and cheating within the confines of a relationship consented to by both parties is not the the norm, at least where I come from and I am sorry that has been your experience. Good for you getting away from a bad situation thou!
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    Feb 03, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    Broseph saidWait... fur coat?


    Uh yeah, they make fur coat for men
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    Feb 03, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    Broseph saidWait... fur coat?

    Bloody fur coat.
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    Feb 03, 2014 7:40 PM GMT
    BeauBlanc saidI do not know where you come from but kissing other men and cheating within the confines of a relationship consented to by both parties is not the the norm, at least where I come from and I am sorry that has been your experience. Good for you getting away from a bad situation thou!


    I'm not saying it's the norm. But I'm also not saying it's not the norm either lol. I do know though from experience, that on more than enough occasions, people with boyfriends have MADE OUT with other men. I've seen it with my own eyes.

    I have a friend who would make out with any and everything, including me...and then the next day it didn't mean anything. I had to cut that one out because I didn't want MRSA or mononucleosis...and I may have my own indiscretions, but the people I come across generally take care of themselves and I can find them, I can't say the same about some random guy at the club.
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    Feb 03, 2014 8:10 PM GMT
    I cant imagine seeing someones BF making out with a different guy it would make me angry even thou i was not involved, and yea gotta watch out for MRSA and all that haha. I think I just tend to be much more devoted and monogamous than the majority at least for my peers
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    Feb 04, 2014 4:19 AM GMT
    so stop playing mediator........let people create their own drama
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    Feb 04, 2014 7:11 PM GMT
    bearygood1 saidso stop playing mediator........let people create their own drama


    bitch I already agreed on that lol. It was spur of the moment thing anyway. See...people always think Black folks be the ones starting shit...nah it ain't always like that.

    It used to be I was the one who always had a mediator. Years ago, I had a friend who was mutual friends with me and my boyfriend. So he ended up being the mediator for the both of us lol. But, he'd be agreeing with him and then turn around and agree with me when he's with me lol.
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    Feb 04, 2014 7:38 PM GMT
    Who still wears fur coats? You are so ghetto....
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    Feb 04, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidWho still wears fur coats? You are so ghetto....


    ok, I'm going to take fashion advice from someone who lives in Miami about fucking winter clothes when it's fucking -7 degrees outside and blizzard conditions right now.

    yeah...you sound like an idiot. Fur never goes out of fashion dumbass.
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    Feb 05, 2014 6:10 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    jmusmc85 saidWho still wears fur coats? You are so ghetto....


    ok, I'm going to take fashion advice from someone who lives in Miami about fucking winter clothes when it's fucking -7 degrees outside and blizzard conditions right now.

    yeah...you sound like an idiot. Fur never goes out of fashion dumbass.


    Well besides it being horrible for animals, it's also super tacky.

    And FYI, I lived in DC for awhile. I know what the cold feels like.
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    Feb 12, 2014 12:17 AM GMT
    It seems to me like men in gay relationships have a harder time committing monogamously to someone. Maybe there is too much testosterone and not enough estrogen to balance things out. This isn't to say that heterosexual couples don't have their own troubles.

    It's a sad reality that we live in. If it isn't politics or discrimination nailing us down, it's our own men... jk. All joking aside, it really is a shame. I always see a shimmer of hope when I see gay couples that have been together for years monogamously/successfully.