you can look, but can't touch..

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    Feb 05, 2014 3:57 AM GMT
    So today I volunteered and met the perfect man. Stats: 31, 6'1", 170ish lb. Studly looks & smile to die for. He is only missing a halo on his head. BUT he's married. I get to work with him for 4 hours, and I know his life story. We just connected. At the end of the day, his ride was there and he had to leave, but I was still having my meal. He asked me to volunteer together next week, Which I will. It can develop into a great friendship, but I am down for anything, if he makes the move. So, I'll be nice enough to not make the first move. All the good ones are just taken. While my mind was thinking all the dirty things, my eyes were fixated on his wedding ring icon_sad.gif.Anyone in similar situation of you can look, but you can't touch.
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:07 AM GMT
    Yeah, but you have to respect his relationship. And even if he did make a move, you have to think of his innocent wife and how a few minutes of pleasure could destroy her life. Think how awful you would feel if he were your partner and you found out he cheated with a woman.
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:13 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidYeah, but you have to respect his relationship. And even if he did make a move, you have to think of his innocent wife and how a few minutes of pleasure could destroy her life. Think how awful you would feel if he were your partner and you found out he cheated with a woman.


    Why the wife has to innocent in all the scenerios, I mean he told me they met and had sex. So, go figure her innocence. if my future partner has sex with boy or girl, I will ask him for details and fuck my brains out. And as for this particular scenario, I will add follow up next week.
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:15 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidYeah, but you have to respect his relationship. And even if he did make a move, you have to think of his innocent wife and how a few minutes of pleasure could destroy her life. Think how awful you would feel if he were your partner and you found out he cheated with a woman.


    That's the right thing to do.
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:16 AM GMT
    123triston said
    Scruffypup saidYeah, but you have to respect his relationship. And even if he did make a move, you have to think of his innocent wife and how a few minutes of pleasure could destroy her life. Think how awful you would feel if he were your partner and you found out he cheated with a woman.


    Why the wife has to innocent in all the scenerios, I mean he told me they met and had sex. So, go figure her innocence. if my future partner has sex with boy or girl, I will ask him for details and fuck my brains out.


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    Feb 05, 2014 4:21 AM GMT
    If he's unhappy in his marriage, wants to divorce and then bang you, he'll straight up tell you... this is a man we're talking about. icon_lol.gif
    Most things go misread when overthought.
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:23 AM GMT
    He's married ... imagine if you were married to your perfect love ... would you want someone coming along and trying to take him away from you ... that is a walk down a dark road that can only end in pain, that you don't want to take
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    Feb 05, 2014 4:25 AM GMT
    123triston said
    Scruffypup saidYeah, but you have to respect his relationship. And even if he did make a move, you have to think of his innocent wife and how a few minutes of pleasure could destroy her life. Think how awful you would feel if he were your partner and you found out he cheated with a woman.


    Why the wife has to innocent in all the scenerios, I mean he told me they met and had sex. So, go figure her innocence. if my future partner has sex with boy or girl, I will ask him for details and fuck my brains out. And as for this particular scenario, I will add follow up next week.


    What does how soon they had sex have to do with innocence or infidelity? And why would you assume they have an open relationship?
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 05, 2014 4:41 AM GMT
    Maybe you shouldn't look either...

    In before YCYL
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    Feb 05, 2014 5:07 AM GMT
    Ajjax saidIf he's unhappy in his marriage, wants to divorce and then bang you, he'll straight up tell you... this is a man we're talking about. icon_lol.gif
    Most things go misread when overthought.


    Even then he would have to have actually started the divorce on paper.. otherwise he could change his mind After he slept with you

    The OP will Never be happy until people tell him what he wants to hear or until he reads these comments After he makes the mistake and makes a thread asking for advice about That situation

    Also, odds are, this likely straight man isn't even into you that way.. straight guys need friends too, especially older ones with wives who likely lost some in the process of making Their relationship work..

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    Feb 05, 2014 5:50 AM GMT
    Eh you guys are right, I am gonna volunteer somewhere else, and avoid the situation all together. Just needed some level headed advice. I spent majority of my day, lusting after him.
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    Feb 05, 2014 6:00 AM GMT
    lol.. its ok.. happens to us all

    at least you came to an understanding before things possibly went wrong
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    Feb 05, 2014 6:11 AM GMT
    123triston saidEh you guys are right, I am gonna volunteer somewhere else, and avoid the situation all together. Just needed some level headed advice. I spent majority of my day, lusting after him.

    Best to lust after out gay men. But no reason to avoid this guy in the future - if you two like each other. If he hasn't made any moves on you, he's probably just made a connection with you - possible friendship, and I wouldn't get your hopes up for anything more. Some straight guys are just friendly.
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    Feb 05, 2014 6:19 AM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    Best to lust after out gay men. But no reason to avoid this guy in the future - if you two like each other. If he hasn't made any moves on you, he's probably just made a connection with you - possible friendship, and I wouldn't get your hopes up for anything more. Some straight guys are just friendly.


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    Feb 05, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    "Anyone in similar situation of you can look, but you can't touch."

    Only about once every fifteen seconds at the gym.
    (Oh, who am I kidding...? I touch them all!)
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    Feb 05, 2014 7:52 PM GMT
    Making a connection doesn't necesarily makes him like you. He likes you because he sees a friendly potential. I actuaLly feel bad for him, because if you avoid him, he might feel hurt, so I hope you can still be friends, and don't worry, someone will apear to you.
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    Feb 05, 2014 8:02 PM GMT
    You are over thinking it. He is just a nice guy.
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    Feb 05, 2014 8:26 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidYou're the reason we can't have nice things. icon_sad.gif


    Well although, I agree that I am/was wrong to think like that you can't blame me. Majority of the gay guys are super picky to even to start a friendly conversation. It's like gay guys never leave high school. On the other hand, you say hi to a straight guy, they are so easy going and the conversations are so easy. So, a guy wonders.
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 05, 2014 8:28 PM GMT
    I don't know... You're right, OP, you surely shouldn't waste time lusting after some guy who probably is just a friendly, nice, straight guy, but I also know all kinds of things are going on out there in the world of straight marriage. I have two very close straight friends who haven't slept in the same bed with their wives for years, and these are younger guys in the prime of their lives. Both wives just decided to turn into uber-bitches and shrill harpies. Right after the birth of their first children. Both friends stay on for the sake of their kids. There are closeted gay guys who just couldn't fight society and got married and don't know what to do next. Lots of stories. I don't think there is one prescription for how to interact with married guys. Sometimes it may not be wrong to buck conventional wisdom and instead listen to the guy and judge the situation.