Lost my Virginity -- A$$ Hurts Help Me!!!

  • gjoseph

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    Dec 18, 2008 12:41 AM GMT
    Okay this past Saturday, I lost my virginity to a very loving, and seductive guy *Abercombie type =) that I've been talking to for a little while. I have a little predicament my bum, hurts so freaking bad!! He didn't even fuck me hard but he was so big I was screaming from the pain. What can I do to relieve the pain? Do I take an asprin? IDK but I really need some help to relieve the pain.
    Am I still supposed to be in pain? I didn't think I would still have a little "tenderness."

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    Dec 18, 2008 1:29 AM GMT
    Dude. He popped your cherry. That is what is supposed to happen. Be a man and suck it up. It will go away in about a week. Keep practicing and you'll eventually be like me where you can take two big dicks up your ass and not be sore afterward. LOL.
  • gjoseph

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    Dec 18, 2008 1:32 AM GMT
    HAHA!! Okayy =)
    Hopefully, I'll get better I want to ride him so hard that I'd rock his world!
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    Dec 18, 2008 1:36 AM GMT
    Congrats on popping that cherry.

    Too bad it was popped by a shitty lover.

    It should not hurt. Not when you are having sex and certainly not four days after. Go to a doctor. Four days is a lot of time and you may have injured yourself. It is really easy to get a nasty infection there, so go now.

    Next time, if it hurts, tell him to slow down. Start with a nice rimming, get a finger then a couple in there, use plenty of water-based lube. Then have him slide on a condom and go to town.

    Have you made a doctors appointment yet?
  • gjoseph

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    Dec 18, 2008 1:59 AM GMT
    Noo...not yet I've been researching and I hope I don't have an anal fissure =( I'll definitely will set up an Dr. Appt ASAP!!
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    Dec 18, 2008 2:13 AM GMT
    I wish I could be a fly on the wall when you go for that Dr's appt. Hmmm. "Yea doc. I got fucked in the ass for the first time last week and my ass still hurts now. Will you take a look at it?" Sorry, I'd rather just deal with the pain.
  • gjoseph

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    Dec 18, 2008 2:17 AM GMT
    Lol......I'll see if there's anything I can do at home to relax my muscles but I do feel much better I took an aspirin and have been laying on my stomach.
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    Dec 18, 2008 2:22 AM GMT
    You could just tell him you went to a chili cook off that friday and by Saturday night you had a bowel movement of epic proportions. Consider your sphincter the Gates of Mordor!
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    Dec 18, 2008 7:42 AM GMT
    gjoseph saidNoo...not yet I've been researching and I hope I don't have an anal fissure =( I'll definitely will set up an Dr. Appt ASAP!!


    just had to laugh....I sure hope your doctor isn't a really old school, was there at your birth, attends your parents x-mas party every year type too....

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    Dec 18, 2008 7:57 AM GMT
    well damn.....

    I seem to hurt every guy I've been with... Wait its not my fault they ride me so hard, they hurt themselves damn it.


    Welcome to butt fuckin though....
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    Dec 18, 2008 3:39 PM GMT
    Prolonged pain can be due to a really big dick your first time; insufficient lube; the guy entering you too quickly and not loosening you up first with a finger or small dildo; fucking you too fast & hard. All but one of those are things your top controls, to not severely hurt or injure you.

    Did you bleed at all? Bleeding can definitely mean a fissure. You may also have torn some muscle tissue, which will cause lingering pain.

    Seeing a doctor at this point could be a good idea, and no anal sex until then. My partner & I, and most of our gay friends, see either gay doctors, or straight doctors whose patients are mostly gay men. We'd have no hesitation telling them symptoms like yours, without any embarrassment or shame.

    But I realize that may not be an option you have at the moment, even living in Tampa, which has a sizable gay population. Nevertheless, if you hurt yourself you really need to get some medical assistance ASAP.
  • gjoseph

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    Dec 18, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    I still have my "family doctor" from whom I've seen since I was a toddler. I haven't been bleeding and my butt actually feels MUCH better today lol I put vaseline on it and took an aspirin this morning. I feel "Normal" now =)
  • rnch

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    Dec 18, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
    i didn't experience pain during or after my first time; so very sorry you did, gjoe.

    after you recover, for the next time may i suggest: a long message, losts of rimming, HUGE amounts of an excellent quality lube (NOT ky or astroglide!), one, two, then three fingers, perhaps a numbing spray like "anal ease", and a SLOWWWWWW insertion and ride?

    worked for me! icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 18, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    You should be able to talk to your doctor about anything. If the pain does not go away within a few days you need to go. You dont want things to get worse down there. Just be open wtih him. Trust me there is nothing he hasnt herd before. I am very open with my doc. and let him know if anything is different from normal. Otherwise he may not be able to help you in a way that you need.

    I have been sore for a few days after a good pounding...its all part of the fun.
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    Dec 18, 2008 10:56 PM GMT
    I don't like using petroleum based products on my body. I wanted to find if there were any dangers to using vaseline internally.

    What I came up with is a gem of medical history

    The Canadian Medical Association Journal. Sept. 1934a sixty-four year old Irish peddler was admitted on May 6, 1932, with the history of having inadvertently allowed a vaseline bottle to slip up the rectum twenty four hours previously, when trying to relieve an exacerbation of pain from his piles and constipation. The remainder of his history was essentially negative. Examination showed a rugged Irishman, apparently in good health. The anal orifice was somewhat dilated and markedly congested, with some ecehymosis under the perianal skin.


    The following article is titled "An Ink Bottle in the Rectum".

    Sure makes me glad Texas' no-sex-toys-allowed law was recently called unconstitutional.
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    Dec 18, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    gjoseph saidOkay this past Saturday, I lost my virginity to a very loving, and seductive guy *Abercombie type =) that I've been talking to for a little while. I have a little predicament my bum, hurts so freaking bad!! He didn't even fuck me hard but he was so big I was screaming from the pain. What can I do to relieve the pain? Do I take an asprin? IDK but I really need some help to relieve the pain.
    Am I still supposed to be in pain? I didn't think I would still have a little "tenderness."

    Ok, well first did he rub you or give you a rub down?
    2. Did he rim you?
    3. Did he rub you down again?
    4. Did he side fuck you?
    5. Did he go slow?

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    Dec 19, 2008 3:07 AM GMT
    Bmt27 saidjust curious whats the difference if he side fucked him?
    dont worry dude...you got fucked. yeah he might have tore your ass a little..but it will be fine.


    LOL. That's funny! I actually had sex with a 10x7" dick (and I wasn't a virgin) and felt something tear inside my ass while getting fucked. When I took a dump, it felt like razor blades coming out and I would shit mucous and blood. This last for about a week or two.

    Somehow, I just don't have a very much sympathy for this ex virgin's ass soreness after trying to shit razor blades for two weeks. .
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    Dec 19, 2008 5:03 AM GMT
    Bmt27 saidjust curious whats the difference if he side fucked him?
    dont worry dude...you got fucked. yeah he might have tore your ass a little..but it will be fine.


    Side fucking wouldn't make a difference. The sphincter has to open up to take a certain size and that size doesn't change if you are being fucked sideways, upside down, or through a wall. I do, however, whole heartedly recommend that now that your cherry has been obliterated you try every different position possible to find what makes your prostate hum.
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    Dec 19, 2008 5:21 AM GMT
    LOL. Good advice ^^
  • gjoseph

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    Dec 19, 2008 5:26 AM GMT
    Ok, well first did he rub you or give you a rub down?
    2. Did he rim you?
    3. Did he rub you down again?
    4. Did he side fuck you?
    5. Did he go slow?

    No he didn't rim me or give me a rub down
    I had to beg him to stop and start fingering me
    He didn't side fuck me
    He went slow at first but as I starting moaning at said "fuck me" he went harder and faster until I thought the whole world would hear lol.

    Now I know what to do next time =)
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    Dec 19, 2008 8:28 PM GMT
    gjoseph saidOkay this past Saturday, I lost my virginity to a very loving, and seductive guy *Abercombie type =) that I've been talking to for a little while. I have a little predicament my bum, hurts so freaking bad!! He didn't even fuck me hard but he was so big I was screaming from the pain. What can I do to relieve the pain? Do I take an asprin? IDK but I really need some help to relieve the pain.
    Am I still supposed to be in pain? I didn't think I would still have a little "tenderness."



    Aww... congratulations!

    Same thing happened to me my first time. It was painful as hell, all the way through. It probably didn't help that my first had a huge cock and we didn't use any lube at all.

    Live and learn.

    It wasn't until my third guy that the feeling became remotely pleasurable.
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    Dec 19, 2008 8:42 PM GMT
    gjoseph saidOk, well first did he rub you or give you a rub down?
    2. Did he rim you?
    3. Did he rub you down again?
    4. Did he side fuck you?
    5. Did he go slow?

    No he didn't rim me or give me a rub down
    I had to beg him to stop and start fingering me
    He didn't side fuck me
    He went slow at first but as I starting moaning at said "fuck me" he went harder and faster until I thought the whole world would hear lol.

    Now I know what to do next time =)


    That is why I think anal sex is overrated! If you really want to be fucked then I would do a lot of prep work before hand. You might want to try out sex toys first. Start small and work your way up to a size that mimics your friend's. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither are most bottoms.

    Also I would recommend, if possible, to get a gay doctor. They see these issues all the time and don't get phased by them. You do not want an anal fissure. They can require surgery to repair, and are supposedly very uncomfortable (I know someone who had his operated on last month).
  • gjoseph

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    Dec 19, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    Wow okay totally agree!! The problem is I'm still living with my parents for the next 6 months until I go to college. Should I find a gay friendly doctor then? I'm not out yet to my parents but plan on coming out to everyone once I'm out of the house and am semi-independent.

    *I'm only out to VERY close friends*
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    Dec 19, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidYou could just tell him you went to a chili cook off that friday and by Saturday night you had a bowel movement of epic proportions. Consider your sphincter the Gates of Mordor!



    And i have lost my precious!
  • EricPrado

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    Jan 10, 2009 9:23 AM GMT
    catfish5 saidKeep practicing and you'll eventually be like me where you can take two big dicks up your ass and not be sore afterward. LOL.



    The guy says it all proud. haha