opinions on this regarding my ex

  • jnick91776

    Posts: 30

    Feb 07, 2014 9:36 PM GMT

    I asked my ex the other night to leave this guy he's been seeing because we have 4 years and they only have 2 months.
    His response was...I cant do what you asked me to do right now. I enjoy being with him. I just cant blow him off. I still want to do things with you but right now...its not a good time. He said he sees us together again as of now but cant promise anything. I also said I think there is more to it then me not going out to bars for leaving me. That's not important he said. but he did say part of it was him too. He just wanted to see and experience other people.
    I was the first guy he was with. He just came out when we met.
    Friends of mine say this sounds like he knows that it is not going to last that he wants to keep me on the back burner just in case it does not work out that I will be there for him. Do you agree?
    Advice. Thanks
  • Suetonius

    Posts: 1842

    Feb 07, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    jnick91776 said
    I asked my ex the other night to leave this guy he's been seeing because we have 4 years and they only have 2 months.
    His response was...I cant do what you asked me to do right now.


    This sounds pretty much like what you were asking about a few days ago.
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3667453/
    You got plenty of advice. Doesn't seem any different now. Leave. Stop reading his texts, answering his calls.
  • jnick91776

    Posts: 30

    Feb 07, 2014 10:40 PM GMT
    Suetonius said
    jnick91776 said
    I asked my ex the other night to leave this guy he's been seeing because we have 4 years and they only have 2 months.
    His response was...I cant do what you asked me to do right now.


    This sounds pretty much like what you were asking about a few days ago.
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3667453/
    You got plenty of advice. Doesn't seem any different now. Leave. Stop reading his texts, answering his calls.


    you know I was looking for advice from ppl who have been in my situation that split up and worked on getting back together. Everyone seems to just give the fuck up. Like society today, everything is throw away instead of fixing. isn't love worth fighting for? when ppl split up everyone always says to move on, get over it you'll find someone new. You never hear any good advice to help ppl get back together......I don't understand that.....
  • Suetonius

    Posts: 1842

    Feb 08, 2014 2:38 AM GMT
    jnick91776 said
    Suetonius said
    jnick91776 said
    I asked my ex the other night to leave this guy he's been seeing because we have 4 years and they only have 2 months.
    His response was...I cant do what you asked me to do right now.


    This sounds pretty much like what you were asking about a few days ago.
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3667453/
    You got plenty of advice. Doesn't seem any different now. Leave. Stop reading his texts, answering his calls.


    you know I was looking for advice from ppl who have been in my situation that split up and worked on getting back together. Everyone seems to just give the fuck up. Like society today, everything is throw away instead of fixing. isn't love worth fighting for? when ppl split up everyone always says to move on, get over it you'll find someone new. You never hear any good advice to help ppl get back together......I don't understand that.....

    Sorry that you don't want to hear this, but real life is not a Hollywood movie, or a novel, where the heroine might "fight to keep her man." It is never good to try to get someone back, who wants to leave (and has actually left). You could wait. But if he does come back, after he tires of the new guy, will it just happen again - after he meets another young guy that strikes his fancy and he thinks he has a connection with? It could happen over and over again. Is that the kind of relationship you want? I think you are being used.
  • mybud

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    Feb 08, 2014 2:48 AM GMT
    Your self respect starts when you leave his ass...
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    Feb 08, 2014 4:16 AM GMT
    jnick91776 said
    Suetonius said
    jnick91776 said
    I asked my ex the other night to leave this guy he's been seeing because we have 4 years and they only have 2 months.
    His response was...I cant do what you asked me to do right now.


    This sounds pretty much like what you were asking about a few days ago.
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3667453/
    You got plenty of advice. Doesn't seem any different now. Leave. Stop reading his texts, answering his calls.


    you know I was looking for advice from ppl who have been in my situation that split up and worked on getting back together. Everyone seems to just give the fuck up. Like society today, everything is throw away instead of fixing. isn't love worth fighting for? when ppl split up everyone always says to move on, get over it you'll find someone new. You never hear any good advice to help ppl get back together......I don't understand that.....


    Here's why they're telling you that....because it didn't work the first time so what makes you think it's going to work the 2nd time? But it doesn't matter what advice you get because you're not going to listen to them!
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    Feb 08, 2014 4:50 AM GMT
    mybud saidYour self respect starts when you leave his ass...


    This.
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    Feb 08, 2014 1:15 PM GMT
    mybud saidYour self respect starts when you leave his ass...

    This times a million.
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    Feb 08, 2014 3:10 PM GMT
    mybud saidYour self respect starts when you leave his ass...


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