beaujangle saidThere are a few posts recently on HIV+ and of course it's disturbing.
I have a question for you guys. How do you feel about practising really safe sex as in no penetration at all, not even with condom since condom may break?
Would you be contend wth mutual masturbation which is 100% safe (even in long term relationship)?
Here's what I did with my late poz partner: anal & oral sex, both with a condom on him (he was the top), and mutual masturbation with no condom, cause he didn't shoot much. A powerful shooter might hit you in the eye, a possible infection risk, and could require a condom. I remain negative.
The safety of unprotected oral sex is still debated regarding HIV (you can also get other STDs from it). Studies appear to be inconclusive regarding a strong connection between unprotected oral and HIV transmission. It's theorized by some that mouth sores, or even bleeding gums after tooth brushing, could be HIV entry points.
For my HIV partner I always used condoms for oral on him. I tried to buy non-lubed, non-spermicidal types, because of the bad taste of the treated condoms. Otherwise, I'd usually wipe it down with a damp cloth after putting it on him. Still, it was very much a balloon taste, so sometimes I added a little flavoring.
An ex-BF has been sexually active in NYC since 1980, and saw the AIDS crisis there up close. His solution, that has kept him negative, is no oral or anal at all, just masturbation (he loves JO clubs there).
Plus he also does "frotage" which is rubbing his dick against you until he cums. The way he likes it is with the other guy lying on his stomach naked, while he lies on top and humps his hardon along the ass crack.
Strangely, as the "bottom" I always found that extremely relaxing, almost tranquilizing, to have my ass treated that way. He'd get understandably upset if I fell asleep and started snoring before he'd shot all over my back. Funny memories this brings back.