Better mindset when chatting with guys online or offline

  • MarkW1

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    Feb 08, 2014 5:13 PM GMT
    Recently I've had lots of guys messaging me on these sites, and many of them have been incredibly hot or good looking men. Whenever guys like that compliment me I always feel so shocked and surprised. Yeah it has really improved my confidence ten fold, but I can't help that guys who message me will end up being turned off since they could probably tell that my confidence is not the best in the world. I know it's natural to feel shock initially but I hate when guys who start conversations with me end up no longer chatting.
  • MarkW1

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    Feb 08, 2014 5:15 PM GMT
    It's in the wrong forum, can an admin move it to the mental health section please? icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 08, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
    MarkW1 said but I hate when guys who start conversations with me end up no longer chatting.

    Started reading this thread when I mis-read the title to be the more exciting, "When Cheating With Guys Online." Don't be surprised that hot guys message you - it's because they think you look hot. As for breaking off contact - just get used to it. Has nothing to do with your confidence level. It's just RJ (and other online sites). Interest wanes fast - especially when there's no real probability of hooking up. Just a passing fancy. If you want to connect with guys on RJ, either join the younguns in the hangouts, or participate a lot in the forums (if I said "fora," that would probably piss off a lot of readers here.)
  • MarkW1

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    Feb 08, 2014 5:31 PM GMT
    I joined this site today, since it seemed more in line with what I do in my free time (determination to workout). It's happened mainly on Grindr and Scruff.

    [quote]Started reading this thread when I mis-read the title to be the more exciting, "When Cheating With Guys Online."[/quote] Haha never realised that icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 08, 2014 5:35 PM GMT
    MarkW1 saidI joined this site today, since it seemed more in line with what I do in my free time (determination to workout). It's happened mainly on Grindr and Scruff.

    [quote]Started reading this thread when I mis-read the title to be the more exciting, "When Cheating With Guys Online."
    Haha never realised that icon_lol.gif[/quote]
    What to expect - Grndr and Scruff are for hooking up - and rarely anything else happens there. Interesting that you found RJ. Is there anything similar in the UK (site with conversations, not all about hooking up?)
  • MarkW1

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    Feb 08, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    Well there are a few like 'Match.com' but you need a subscription to use their services, same for many others. There are sites like 'Plenty of Fish', but tbh while I've had lots of guys message me, as good as that is, not many have been guys I've fancied back.
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    Feb 08, 2014 6:08 PM GMT
    MarkW1 saidWell there are a few like 'Match.com' but you need a subscription to use their services, same for many others. There are sites like 'Plenty of Fish', but tbh while I've had lots of guys message me, as good as that is, not many have been guys I've fancied back.

    The only dating site I know has proven successful for a number of guys I know is OKCupid. Don't know if/how much it costs, or if it works in the UK.
  • MarkW1

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    Feb 08, 2014 6:13 PM GMT
    Yeah I also have OKCupid but the results haven't been too great so far. I'm tempted to limit it to Scruff, this and try to meet guys face-to-face in pubs, social groups, etc.
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    Feb 08, 2014 6:20 PM GMT
    MarkW1 said ... hate when guys who start conversations with me end up no longer chatting.
    we always come to the immediate conclusion is about me when likely its not. The other boy lives far away, has to go to school or work. There are lots of reasons.

    Main reason he is just as hesitant as you.
  • MarkW1

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    Feb 08, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    MarkW1 said ... hate when guys who start conversations with me end up no longer chatting.
    we always come to the immediate conclusion is about me when likely its not. The other boy lives far away, has to go to school or work. There are lots of reasons.

    Main reason he is just as hesitant as you.

    Well that makes a lot of sense. To me it was when we chat for a few days then just stop all forms of communication. It's weird.

    woodsmen saidTry the "What's on Your Mind" thread. That is where a lot of the younger guys hang out.


    Will visit it now icon_smile.gif