How emotional are you?

  • MikePhilPerez

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    Sep 21, 2007 5:25 PM GMT
    How emotional are you? Do you cry? What makes you cry?

    I was reluctant to start this thread because I cant really ask you without answering the question myself.

    So here goes,

    I think I am very emotional. I cry sometimes.

    A sad story can bring a tear to my eye. Some movies make me cry. Broke Back Mountain made me cry, and I think it was the only movie that really made me cry. I mean it was not just a tear in my eye, the tears were rolling down my face. You could here me cry.

    If I see or here of someone suffering it brings a tear to my eye. Even animals, my father is a framer, and once he had sick cow that was suffering, in a lot of pain, I could no bare to see her suffer so I suffocated the her to stop her suffering. Another time I watched a cow dying, and in that case there was nothing I could do. It took me a few days to get over it.

    Sometimes happy things bring a tear to my eye.

    When I am stressed out I feel more emotional, but I guess that is normal.

    I am very masculine other wise.

    Sometimes I think I am a mess.

    Am I weak?

    Mike
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    Sep 21, 2007 5:36 PM GMT
    No, you are not weak, just human. Crying is as much a natural emotion as laughing. There's nothing wrong with it as long as it's not overtly sentimental.

    I never used to cry but after my partner died last year I find myself crying often. It's a totally natural thing to do and you shouldn't be afraid to release those emotions. In the last year I've cried everywhere - on the train, in the supermarket, in the street, at the gym, even in the steam room. It doesn't make me a cissy or make me weak. I guess it's nature's way of helping me cope with my loss.
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    Sep 21, 2007 6:27 PM GMT
    I've cried three times in the last five years (in the presence of someone else). When my husband of 14 years ended our relationship, when my father died, when I saw the Metropolitan Opera's live performance of Suor Angelica.

    Other than that, only in private, watching movies like Dark Victory. I wish I were more able to release myself enough to cry but that's another issue. Mostly, I'm a very happy person and even in the worst of times (and they have been both numerous and severe) I tend to look to the positive without blindly ignoring the actual situation.

    I wouldn't want to be someone who will cry at the drop of a hat, but I'd love to feel able to release the sadness sometimes rather than always 'working it off'.
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    Sep 21, 2007 6:31 PM GMT
    think am very emotional,anything touching makes mecry,can you imagine mecry at nights because i cant find someone to fuck my asshole,am nigerian andhave been looking for years for someone to fuck me but none please can someonehelp me out,am emotionaly sicki
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    Sep 21, 2007 6:31 PM GMT
    how emotional are we talking here? ....weepy like DesignStar Scott Corridan ??? ...Golly! That boy could cry!


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    Sep 21, 2007 6:34 PM GMT
    Hardly at all. I don't typically swing through a wide range of emotion, and when I do, it rarely shows. In fact, this has been the primary complaint from boyfriends both current and past - that they can never divine my mood or quite know what I'm thinking.

    I suppose this is a fairly individual thing; I think it has little to do with someone's character.
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    Sep 21, 2007 6:49 PM GMT
    I often get described as really laid back, which kind of means I don't show a lot of emotion in person.

    On the other hand, I write very emotionally and speak in emotional terms, if not actual tone. If anything, I cause others to get emotional more than I cause myself to, by speaking very honestly and not dancing around issues. Hmm...this would probably fascinate a psycholoigist.
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    Sep 21, 2007 6:56 PM GMT
    Haha I agree you should think about going into that career. My friends would say i am deadened to the world. HaHa. Years of the family bashing gays at the dinner table (Im not out) has removed all but some of any emotions i once had.

    Kinda sad, but very helpful in many situation i think.
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    Sep 21, 2007 7:14 PM GMT
    MikePhil, you are definitely not a mess...
    Everything you described sounds pretty normal to me.
  • jarhead5536

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    Sep 21, 2007 7:30 PM GMT
    I tend not to cry over the things that most people would. I don't cry if I'm depressed or something awful happens (losing a job/boyfriend). I did cry at my father's funeral, but I was just reacting to my mom, who never cries. I feel the overpowering sadness, but my mind tells me: your tears are not going to help this situation, so pipe down. I cry when I get REALLY angry, not sure why, I've only been that mad a few times in my life. I do cry over emotional moments in movies, opera, theater, good literature and the like. I also cry when I'm feeling patriotic or really religious (hearing the national anthem or in church sometimes). I guess this makes me a person that goes numb at crisis points in my life, but I am a sappy sentimental puddle when the stakes are not so high...
  • iHavok

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    Sep 21, 2007 7:31 PM GMT
    I dont really show emotions to those that don't know me well. I'ts been ages since I've cried, it's been about that long since i was made enough to feel my blood pressure pulsing in my face.
    If you know me well, then you might be able to tell, otherwise, good luck!
    :-)
    I'm totally fine being secretive emotionally. I have no urge to share, or explain what i'm feeling...
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    Sep 21, 2007 7:52 PM GMT
    Employers are starting to recognize emotions - It is called 'emotional intelligence' it is a
    skill-set that some people have limited degrees of. So - my friend, count your blessings - having this skill can take you far in life!
  • maximumrisk

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    Sep 21, 2007 8:12 PM GMT
    There are very few things that can make me cry.In the last 10 Years I cried 3 times. When my dog Died, when enerything came out when I was with the man I loved and when I came to Guatemala and realized that I wont see Austria again.

    I hate it to cry, especially in front of other People. I just dont like it if somebody thinks of me like i would need protection or anything.
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    Sep 21, 2007 8:15 PM GMT
    I think I remember tearing up a bit when I came out to my Mom.

    I DEFINITELY cried when I had to put my dog and best friend who at the time, I had known for half of my life. I probably still would if I think about that too long.

    I don't cry much but I think this thread started w/ the ? of how emotional am I?

    In that regard, at times a bit reserved/stoic but around my close friends and family, I laugh, joke, connect, freak out - all that good stuff.

    *HUGS*
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    Sep 21, 2007 8:39 PM GMT
    I'm crying right now.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Sep 21, 2007 8:58 PM GMT
    Too all you guys that have lost loved ones, I am sorry for your loss.

    You have brought a tear to my eye.

    HUGS

    Nick, I laugh and joke and have fun too. I'm not a total mess. Just a mess :)

    There is only one person that I feel comfortable to cry in front of and that is my partner. I hide it from everyone else.

    I am always trying not to cry, and I think that make me worse.

    Mike
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    Sep 21, 2007 9:02 PM GMT
    My cancer therapy makes me cry, but I don't think that counts cause it is medicinally induced. Before that I never cried.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Sep 21, 2007 9:11 PM GMT
    Caslon,

    I hope that is going well for you and you will be feeling better soon.

    HUG
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    Sep 21, 2007 9:15 PM GMT
    thanks, MikePhil.

    I only have a few more months. And I know I will be fully cured...I can just feel it. But right now, I am so tired of being tired and sick of being cured, I could scream! hahahahaha
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    Sep 21, 2007 9:31 PM GMT
    may I ask - what inspired you to initiate this topic MikeP?
  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 21, 2007 9:52 PM GMT
    BrokeBack is the only movie that make me cry. The movie storyline seem so realistic and kinda hit me right on the stomach. When Ennis daughter leave him alone at the trailer house, it seem like I am seeing myself in my old age. Alone fill with regret and with only memory to hang on to.

    Aside from that I have cry two more time , when my parent past away.
    Loosing bf dont make me cry. I have become immune to sorrow as far as bf is concern. So many man have hurt my feeling that is no big deal any more.
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    Sep 21, 2007 10:10 PM GMT
    Dear MikePhil, I resemble you on that point. The things that makes you cry, makes me cry too.

    So if you are a mess, I must be a mess too. I just keep my tears for myself.

    Like Redheadguy, I think that you are just human. You are in touch with the human part in all of us... emotions.

    I also wonder what made you bring that topic to our attention.

    I have a confession to make. While writing about this topic, I realized that, inside of me, I'm crying silently...







  • MikePhilPerez

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    Sep 21, 2007 10:36 PM GMT
    Caslon,

    I am sure it will too.

    Nick,

    Why did you have to ask that question :)

    Lots of things.

    I do think I am overly emotional, at least sometimes and wondered if it is a gay thing.

    When I met my partner he told me "men don't cry". I told him "I do" :)

    He grew up in a culture were men don't cry. I guess it is considered weak to cry. He has cryed in my arms a few time sense and he no longer thinks men don't cry.

    Lots of thing have upset me in my life, and I feel bitter about some of those things. Maybe that is where all that emotion comes from. Maybe that is why I argue with some guys here :)

    Also I sometimes worry about complete strangers. just the other night I was looking through the threads here and there was a guy a while back, and he was lonely and feeling bad, and I didn't see him on here for a while, so I had to mail him to see if he was ok. BTW he is ok :)

    Other things have happened here in the last few day also that made me think. Not something I want to talk about on here.

    Mike
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    Sep 21, 2007 10:51 PM GMT
    All my hopes for your niece and also, for you.

    Michel
  • GQjock

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    Sep 21, 2007 11:40 PM GMT
    Not very...I'm extremely good at negotiations
    someone could be screaming at my face and I won't skip a beat
    ...BUT... bring me to a chick flick or show me puppies or kittens and I'm a weepy little Girl!!!