When did you start telling your doctor you are Gay and Sexually active?

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    Feb 10, 2014 8:21 PM GMT
    I just had a physical last week and I told him I was a straight virgin. . .

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    Why do they Need to ask So Much!?.. but anyways... I'm afraid if I told him the truth he would figure I would lie about the lack of all the drugs and drinking in my teenage life. . . None of their business anyways is how I feel
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    ReeBad19 saidI just had a physical last week and I told him I was a straight virgin. . .

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    Why do they Need to ask So Much!?.. but anyways... I'm afraid if I told him the truth he would figure I would lie about the lack of all the drugs and drinking in my teenage life. . . None of their business anyways is how I feel


    In my 20s because I asked about getting tested for HIV. He flat out asked me why I wanted it. I told him (and my insurance company) that he was irresponsible for discouraging anybody from getting tested and changed doctors soon after. The next one I was up-front with from the get-go.
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:28 PM GMT
    They're asking you in order to help you, not pry into your personal life. If you're sexually active, they may recommend routine STI screening. If you're gay, they may recommend an HIV test. Doctors may not breach patient confidentiality. They are not there to judge or to blab to whomever, they are there to give you medical advice and treatment.

    You lose nothing by telling the truth.
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:29 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidThey're asking you in order to help you, not pry into your personal life. If you're sexually active, they may recommend routine STI screening. If you're gay, they may recommend an HIV test. Doctors may not breach patient confidentiality. They are not there to judge or to blab to whomever, they are there to give you medical advice and treatment.

    You lose nothing by telling the truth.


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    Feb 10, 2014 8:30 PM GMT
    I know but I hope they know I am smart enough to do testing at a Separate office.. Privately.. not around someone I see so much such as themselves
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:43 PM GMT
    As I zipped his pants and buttoned his lab coat.
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    When I got an STD icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:46 PM GMT
    43Rueperronet saidI believe that now with electronic medical records, whatever you tell one doctor will be available for all? Thank you Obamacare. icon_question.gif


    Because my eye doctor needs to know I strain to watch gay porn! And my dentist needs to know it was a Prince Albert that chipped my tooth!
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    Feb 10, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    43Rueperronet saidI believe that now with electronic medical records, whatever you tell one doctor will be available for all? Thank you Obamacare. icon_question.gif


    even b4 digital med records:

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    Feb 10, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    We both go to the same primary care provider. She knows we're a gay couple. We both have legal Health Care Surrogate documents on file with her, that give us complete access to each other's medical records.

    We have the same on file with every hospital, clinic and doctor we see. In the county medical system we're each officially listed as "Next of Kin" for the other in their computers.

    We are always present when the other sees a doctor. Even during any examination, that might be intimate.

    One time a doctor told me to drop trou and bend over for a DRE (digital rectal exam), with my husband sitting right there in this tiny exam room. The doctor didn't even first ask him or me if we were OK with this, he just did it. His finger right up my ass.

    Our doctors all know we are a gay couple because we tell them, and are therefore sexually active. We aren't the least bit ashamed, and discuss our sexual activities freely if asked. If anybody has a problem with that we'll find another doctor.
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidThey're asking you in order to help you, not pry into your personal life. If you're sexually active, they may recommend routine STI screening. If you're gay, they may recommend an HIV test. Doctors may not breach patient confidentiality. They are not there to judge or to blab to whomever, they are there to give you medical advice and treatment.

    You lose nothing by telling the truth.

    Nicely put Ben. The confidentiality agreement you have with every doctor allows you to be open and honest. It's for YOUR good, not for theirs.

    I told my doctor when I came out and we were very open in discussing what that means to me. Precautions I should take. Exams I should consider. Everything to ensure that I kept myself healthy and safe and others the same.
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:18 PM GMT
    Broseph saidI don't really tell them now. If the only thing they will infer from that is that I'm slutting around, and I'm not, I don't see the point. If I want another test for HIV I will just ask straight up.

    I agree, you have to weigh it out depending on your sexual activity. If you're in a monogamous relationship then you might not need an HIV test every 6 months but if you're not or you're not 100% that your partner is being monogamous then you may need to rethink that.
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    You have to realize that everyday doctors see and deal with a lot of things that we perceive to be weird, gross and uncomfortable. You being gay and sexually active isn't a big deal at all to them personally. They're not judging you; they're just trying to ensure you're healthy.

    When I switched to my current doctor, he asked me if I was sexually active and if I had mostly male partners, mostly female partners or both. Got to the point but was a little less direct, which made the situation a bit less uncomfortable. Since then, we've had good, normal chats about sexual health.

    If you're uncomfortable and can't be honest with your doctor, maybe you should switch to someone else who you do feel comfortable having those conversations with. Sexual health is important and you're cheating yourself by not being honest.
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:48 PM GMT
    thadjock said
    43Rueperronet saidI believe that now with electronic medical records, whatever you tell one doctor will be available for all? Thank you Obamacare. icon_question.gif


    even b4 digital med records:



    Love that show! That was hilarious but it's true. And the Obama website has already been hacked so many times. Not much is private these days.
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:54 PM GMT
    This is me when the doc asks if I have been sexually active...icon_twisted.gif

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    Feb 10, 2014 9:56 PM GMT
    Do gays get side tracked easily?

    lol, the last part of my OP was a hypothetical question.. I'm just asking when did you start telling them. . . .
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:56 PM GMT
    EH? since when do you have to tell your doctor your having sex with men? (I never did)
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    Feb 10, 2014 9:59 PM GMT
    Draper said And the Obama website has already been hacked so many times. Not much is private these days.


    yeah the only way to avoid it is to go completely off grid. Uni-bomber style.

    and when they start putting the med chip in your neck ur gonna have to cut that out too.

    http://planet.infowars.com/health/obamacare-obamatax-makes-rfid-chip-implants-mandatory-march-23-2013-via-sodahead-com

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    Feb 10, 2014 10:09 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    I told my doctor when I came out and we were very open in discussing what that means to me. Precautions I should take. Exams I should consider. Everything to ensure that I kept myself healthy and safe and others the same.

    When my late poz partner & I relocated to a new city he got a new doctor. We sat there together for the initial visit and the doctor said to me:

    "This is my patient. I really don't care about you. But I've gotta know what I'm dealing with. What kind of sex are you having with him?"

    I told him, which was safe sex.

    "I need to know if you have any kind of disease. You need to have complete blood work and studies done. I can't treat him if I don't what he's being exposed to."

    Well, that was pretty blunt. But OK, my HIV partner was the priority, and I'll do whatever will help him. So I let them test me thoroughly, a whole series I went through. My tests showed I had never had an STD ever, and I had no ongoing infections of any kind that might put him at risk.

    But it was a new thing to me. To have a finger pointed at me saying: "You might be a disease carrier." When all I thought about was my love for my husband, and his welfare. And then to be told I myself could be unhealthy for him. Almost more than I could handle.
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    Feb 10, 2014 10:12 PM GMT
    I told my doctor I was sexually active at the age of 19 when I lost my virginity....

    I have yet to tell a doctor I prefer men over women.
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    Feb 10, 2014 11:04 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidI told my doctor I was sexually active at the age of 19 when I lost my virginity....

    I have yet to tell a doctor I prefer men over women.


    I told my doctor that I was gay before I was sexually active, funny enough.

    That one prefers men over women shouldn't be all that important, but some doctors might recommend different routine tests for gay patients over straight patients.
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    Feb 10, 2014 11:10 PM GMT
    I told my PCP back when I was 23. It was just after my first male sexual encounter. Because I had zero frame of reference for gay health, I was freaking out (unjustly, but I did not know any better).

    My doctor knew I was sexually active, but I was dating a girl when I first became active and had never asked for a test before. My doc asked me why I wanted to get tested. I cannot explain why exactly the question caught me off guard, it just did.

    I was very rude at first, "Does it matter? I have insurance, just do the tests." My doc then said, "Everything you tell me stays right here. I am not asking to judge, but the more information I have makes it easier for me to take care of you. That's all."

    I loosened up and told her why. I could tell she was surprised, but she didn't judge. She said regular testing is advised for anyone who is sexually active, but I had not done anything to make her think any of the tests would come back against my favor.

    My sexuality has really been a non-issue since then. She really gets on me about my proclivity for twinkies nowadays. (And twinkies is not code for twinks; I just really love Hostess Twinkies)
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    Feb 10, 2014 11:11 PM GMT
    it's about the sexual act that you are conducting, in a true sexual history we are supposed to ask if you have safe sex, what sort of sexual contact you are having, if all of that is protected, etc. The fact is there are higher prevalence of different diseases in different communities, HIV infection rate is higher in the gay community, whereas HPV isn't high on my list. Then you have to take into account that anal sex is much less sanitary than any other form of contact, so being vigilant about UTIs, which are uncommon for healthy men, is a very legitimate issue.
  • Webster666

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    Feb 10, 2014 11:38 PM GMT
    My general practitioner is gay.
    So is my chiropractor.
    So is my optometrist.
    So is my dentist.

    My GP asked me, "Are you gay, bi, or straight ?"
    I'm gay as a goose.
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    Feb 10, 2014 11:39 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidMy general practitioner is gay.
    So is my chiropractor.
    So is my optometrist.
    So is my dentist.

    My GP asked me, "Are you gay, bi, or straight ?"
    I'm gay as a goose.


    I would prefer this when I'm older.. now really but I could never just ask for it