Is it rude to finger someone?

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    Feb 11, 2014 6:09 AM GMT
    And I don't mean flip the bird...

    I really get off on fingering my bf, especially since he's 3 inches taller, which makes casual violation via penis harder outside the bed. The best is when he's naked and practicing standing splits (he's a competitive dancer) while I sidle up and surprise him with 2 or 3 lubed fingers up the ass. Maybe it's from porn, but I like the fact that I can see it go in his ass, whereas when I'm fucking him the view is obscured.

    I just found out he had been pretending to enjoy it the whole time, and that apparently he feels objectified by my "rude" behavior, and annoyed by having to constantly keep his rectum douched clean in case of unexpected penetration. Yea I realize it's a chore to bottom on call, but is sticking fingers up a guy's ass really less respectful than sticking the penis in there? And it's not like he doesn't randomly grab my cock every now and then while we're watching tv.
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    Feb 11, 2014 6:16 AM GMT
    lol. If he really didn't like it, he wouldn't keep it clean.
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    Feb 11, 2014 8:43 PM GMT
    you're doing it wrong douchebag.
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 11, 2014 9:00 PM GMT
    Lol
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    Feb 12, 2014 12:07 AM GMT
    Broseph, if I was pissing him off on purpose, I wouldn't need to ask about it here...

    mindgarden saidlol. If he really didn't like it, he wouldn't keep it clean.

    Haha, that's what I said, but he said he's simply too embarrassed to have anyone other than himself see his own shit. Apparently it's a German thing, this obsession with feces...
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    Feb 12, 2014 3:46 AM GMT
    Prostate stimulation can get the opposite vote.
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    Feb 12, 2014 4:24 AM GMT
    What did I just read...

    You cannot randomly put fingers in your boyfriend's butt just because you feel like it... what kind of sorcery is this.

    Get some manners, boy.
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    Feb 12, 2014 4:30 AM GMT
    Rita saidWhat did I just read...

    You cannot randomly put fingers in your boyfriend's butt just because you feel like it... what kind of sorcery is this.

    Get some manners, boy.

    It takes 2 to tango, and if the BF ain't dancing, then I'm guessing the OP is playing the wrong music.
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    Feb 12, 2014 5:31 AM GMT
    Fingering kinda hurts. When I'm having sex and a dick has already been in there or is planning to go in there, then I have no problem. But if I'm just sitting watching Bravo and you put your finger up there I would be kinda annoyed. Especially if you have long fingernails....icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 13, 2014 8:54 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidFingering kinda hurts. When I'm having sex and a dick has already been in there or is planning to go in there, then I have no problem. But if I'm just sitting watching Bravo and you put your finger up there I would be kinda annoyed. Especially if you have long fingernails....icon_confused.gif

    Ouch !
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    Feb 13, 2014 9:33 AM GMT
    ummmm sounds kind of awesome. . .

    being objectified by a bf sounds nice.. shows you are interested

    though I also get how annoying that could be.. or how it could hurt... 2 fingers? Randomly...? Really... 1 is my limit
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    Feb 13, 2014 9:49 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidFingering kinda hurts. When I'm having sex and a dick has already been in there or is planning to go in there, then I have no problem. But if I'm just sitting watching Bravo and you put your finger up there I would be kinda annoyed. Especially if you have long fingernails....icon_confused.gif

    omfg, I laughed so hard.
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    Feb 16, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    YourName2000 saidSeriously, he's just doing his dancing --nude of course-- and you just slide up at some amazingly opportune moment where he hasn't seen you (somehow) and you not only have unfettered access to his conveniently clean poopshoot with your conveniently lubed up finger(s), but you're so quick (and he so steady) that the sudden push of your fingers against his bung doesn't cause him to jerk away simply out of shock? icon_confused.gif And even if this was plausible, you're saying your BF is too stupid to just wear underwear when he's dancing?? icon_neutral.gif

    Yeeeeeaaahhh....I call bullshit. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Of course he sees me coming, I'm there to "help" him with his stretching, prior to morning sex (hence we're naked). So I get a bit frisky, but after the first couple times, he's no longer jerking away in surprise. And I don't even get out of bed until after I hear him douche in the bathroom lol.


    CanadianComedy saidummmm sounds kind of awesome. . .

    being objectified by a bf sounds nice.. shows you are interested

    though I also get how annoying that could be.. or how it could hurt... 2 fingers? Randomly...? Really... 1 is my limit


    BS lol, everyone pretends to be so tight, yet we can all lay turds much thicker than 2 fingers.
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    Feb 16, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    If 2 or 3 fingers is just flying in a hole..I think there is a problem there. And if this is happening and he doesn't complain that's his fault for not punching you in the face
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    Feb 16, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    dude the fact that hes a bottom doesnt mean you have to make his ass your play-toy....sex is something intimate and it has to be something mutual....you cant just shove your finger there and then just carry on with ur day....usually the finger thing is fun when u play before sex...but not like all the time u get bored and wanna do something so u finger his ass lol...and it takes lots of time to get a clean colon so be more appreciative for his efforts in pleasing you even if he didnt like it....i would have dumped you for sure for something like that lol
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    Feb 16, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidIf 2 or 3 fingers is just flying in a hole..I think there is a problem there. And if this is happening and he doesn't complain that's his fault for not punching you in the face

    This. There is hardly anything in life that can not be dealt with by punching someone quickly and solidly in the face.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Feb 16, 2014 9:28 PM GMT
    How about he grabs your cock and clamps down on it so hard your hard pops off and then he continue to jerk you until he rips your shaft off, just 'cause he's board and sees your cock hanging there.
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    Feb 17, 2014 3:33 AM GMT
    This is for OP

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    Click image for uncropped!
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    Feb 19, 2014 2:47 AM GMT
    ^^I need to try this in front of a mirror. He's not into bondage unfortunately =(
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Feb 20, 2014 3:58 AM GMT
    Sorry, I can't be bothered to draw anything where there isn't at least one non-consenting participant. Yeah, something's wrong with me lol.
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    Mar 21, 2014 1:49 AM GMT
    STill haven't made that drawing a reality yet lol
  • Timbales

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    Mar 21, 2014 1:50 AM GMT
    fingering him when he's doing a standing split nude is rude

    blow him instead
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    Mar 21, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidSorry, I can't be bothered to draw anything where there isn't at least one non-consenting participant. Yeah, something's wrong with me lol.


    TheOneWhoKnocks: You deserve more praise. It looks like this was customized for the thread!

    OP: Your boyfriend sounds like he's very submissive, complacent, and likes to please you. He deserves someone that always has his best interests in mind. If you really love him, ask him what he likes -- just don't assume because he's following your lead it's his "ideal way to be intimate". I agree with others, you're treating his hole like a stress ball. How would you like it if every time he wanted to feel something squishy, he just squeezed your balls? It would eventually feel like he was objectifying your body overtime. It's not even a human; it's just something to grab. If I was you, I'd take your sweet boyfriend out to a romantic dinner. Then massage and kiss every inch of his tender body when you get home. You're lucky you're dating a dancer.
  • highforthis

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    Mar 21, 2014 4:55 AM GMT
    AnOriginal said
    theonewhoknocks saidSorry, I can't be bothered to draw anything where there isn't at least one non-consenting participant. Yeah, something's wrong with me lol.


    TheOneWhoKnocks: You deserve more praise. It looks like this was customize for the thread!


    I think it was drawn specifically for the thread lol. He's got a whole thread dedicated to his other drawings if you check his profile.

    OP... just curious, how did you find out ur bf didn't enjoy surprise fingering? lolol