Break Up by Text ?

  • Suetonius

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    Feb 14, 2014 8:24 PM GMT
    Would you?

    Overheard at an airport - man on cell:
    "Are you breaking up with me? ?
    You aren't breaking up with me, are you?
    Text me first."

    (as printed in the SF Chronicle)
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 14, 2014 8:51 PM GMT
    Maybe. It depends why I am breaking up. If I found out he had been cheating on me for quite some time, that is all he deserves is a text:
    Never call me again, your shit is in a box on the curb ... better hurry

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    Feb 15, 2014 12:20 AM GMT
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    Feb 15, 2014 1:39 PM GMT
    Texting is the new post-it!

  • peterstrong

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    Feb 15, 2014 2:23 PM GMT
    the new movie " HER " is amazing and speaks directly to this mega / meta trend in human behavior


    http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=HER&ei=UTF-8&fr=moz35





    i mean disassociation from other human beings - not necessarily just 'break up by text'

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    Feb 15, 2014 6:39 PM GMT
    Well, it's probably starts off as a text argument. Maybe you've had some rough patches recently in your relationship and have forgiven each other a couple times but recognize there are problems. Or maybe one of you has been biting your tongue for sometime and just reach the breaking point.

    A simple text of "where are you?" Or "why are you ignoring me?" Or even a cryptic response set things in motion. You're both sliding into a war of words via text. Then one of you says, "I can't do this anymore". Or "I'm tired of fighting, maybe we're not meant to be". Or, "let's give each other a little space for a few days and then talk about us".
  • mladri

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    Feb 15, 2014 7:06 PM GMT
    I would never do something like that. Put yourself in that guys skin, will you love that someone break up with you over text?
    That is for cowards!
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    Feb 15, 2014 7:12 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidMaybe. It depends why I am breaking up. If I found out he had been cheating on me for quite some time, that is all he deserves is a text:
    Never call me again, your shit is in a box on the curb ... better hurry

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    I wouldn't even send him a text. You might as well not exist if you lie to me

    It doesn't surprise me one bit that this is becoming normal. It's bound to happen since people live their entire lives through texting. Facebook breakups, now that'll be the day
  • MarvelClimber

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    Feb 15, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    I had to do it in one instance because he kept pushing for something more serious that night. There was no other way of doing it. It did segue into a phone call though.

    Recently, I tried to end the romantic aspect with a guy I was dating in person, but I just couldn't find the opportunity to bring it up. I hate the idea of it, but I certainly understand why people do it. If you invite someone out to break things off, they're stuck in that situation, not just physically, but also mentally cornered. At least electronically, they can distance themselves, have time to process emotions, and can get back with you later.
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    Feb 15, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    Phoenyx saidFacebook breakups, now that'll be the day

    I'm breaking up with you.

    The first RJ breakup!

    And we weren't even together, like, ever. Top that!
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    Feb 15, 2014 7:59 PM GMT
    Suetonius saidWould you?

    Overheard at an airport - man on cell:
    "Are you breaking up with me? ?
    You aren't breaking up with me, are you?
    Text me first."

    (as printed in the SF Chronicle)

    Someone broke up with me via email. I was grateful.
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    Feb 15, 2014 8:24 PM GMT
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    Phoenyx saidFacebook breakups, now that'll be the day

    I'm breaking up with you.

    The first RJ breakup!

    And we weren't even together, like, ever. Top that!


    I can't believe even you would stoop that low icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 16, 2014 4:27 AM GMT
    Phoenyx said
    Aristoshark said
    Phoenyx saidFacebook breakups, now that'll be the day

    I'm breaking up with you.

    The first RJ breakup!

    And we weren't even together, like, ever. Top that!


    I can't believe even you would stoop that low icon_lol.gif

    "Even" me?
    Well, my my my my my my.
    My my my my.
    My my my.
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    Feb 16, 2014 4:31 AM GMT
    Next it'll be a break up app where you use the app to let them know.
    Heck the next stage after that is an automatic break up after x amount of time.
    Contractual relationships where you agree on a set amount of time in the relationship and then after that it's just an automatic agreed break up.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 16, 2014 4:36 AM GMT
    What difference does it make how you break up, when you need to break up with someone. It actually might be better to break it off in a text because they way you both have time to get yourself together to discuss it, and so neither of you is acting on pure adrenaline and anger or what ever feeling it is you are feeling. If you need to break it off with some one, it is more important that you get the message out in the open and that you do not drag out a relationship that you are not happy in. The sooner you break it off, the sooner the two of you can get with your lives. I think really the biggest thing you have to consider, is how can you do it in the most peaceful manner possible. If it takes just suddenly moving out when they are at work, then that is what you should do.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Feb 16, 2014 5:38 AM GMT
    I was broken up with via text

    If you have to break up with someone via text, then you are clearly not mature enough for a relationship

    Done
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 16, 2014 5:53 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidI was broken up with via text

    If you have to break up with someone via text, then you are clearly not mature enough for a relationship

    Done

    And that is exactly why it would be best to breakup via text.
    Or would you have rathered he'd have gone another five years until he was mature enough to say it face to face?
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    Feb 16, 2014 6:26 AM GMT
    I wouldn't..

    But it could be worse, they could just disappear icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 16, 2014 6:29 AM GMT
    If Your Man enough to date a Guy - You should be Man enough to break it off like a Man, face to face.
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    Feb 16, 2014 6:52 AM GMT
    anything other than face to face is chickenshit.
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    Feb 16, 2014 7:08 AM GMT
    I once broke up with a guy via text.

    Although we mutually decided that we were seeing each other exclusively for a period of four months (at that point) I could not bring him to at least say we were dating to me or anyone else for that matter.

    He didn't feel the need to label the "understanding we had with each other".

    So when I broke up with him I just sent him a few text messages to end it.

    And I don't feel bad about it.
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    Feb 16, 2014 8:29 AM GMT
    To break up via text or email indicates there wasn't much substance to the relationship to begin with.

    Seriously involved people would serve to indicate a whole different scenario playing out.

    But in this day and age of technology (texting and emailing), peoples' social skills have seriously diminished. From texting instead actually talking on the phone or when going out to witness how many people are actually tied to their phone instead of engaging with others it's no surprise that this cheesy way of dealing or ending a relationship is an option.