Date with ex for Valentines

  • whytehot

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    Feb 15, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    3 months ago I broke up with a guy I had been seeing for 2 months, despite a very strong mutual attraction, because I realized he wasn't everything I was looking for in a LTR. We've stayed friends since, and sometimes hang out together, but only with other mutual friends, to not give him the wrong impression.

    When it was approaching Valentines, he started inviting me out more, but on date-like activities and with just the two of us. I still stand by my decision to break up, but was tempted by his sheer hotness and the idea of doing something romantic for once on Valentines, so I gave in and we went skating together at Central Park, followed by coffee and dessert, which he paid for.

    We went our separate ways home afterwards, but I'm not even sure what I would have done if he had made a move on me. It's not like we haven't had sex before back when we were dating, but to even cuddle now, knowing that it's not going anywhere, seems kinda wrong...
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    Feb 15, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    You both had a good time. Leave it at that.
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    Feb 15, 2014 11:23 PM GMT
    Your ex didn't make a move on you, so he's probably not interested in rekindling anything.
    Maybe he wants to get into a fb thing with you but doesn't know how to initiate it. Maybe.

    Let's just say that you guys are each other's placeholder until one or both of you have boyfriends. It's fine in theory. The problem is if you're looking to date again and find a new boyfriend, that space in your life is being taken by your ex. A guy who might be interested will see you out with your ex doing "date-like activities" and assume that you're in a relationship.
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    Feb 16, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    What's your question?