BROTHERS OR GAY COUPLE. Why most gay couples look alike?

  • anketa

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    Feb 17, 2014 4:33 PM GMT
    Have you noticed that the two partners in a gay couple resemble each other? Do you prefer guys who physically resemble you?
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    Feb 17, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    Nah, I want a hot partner.
  • anketa

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    Feb 17, 2014 4:38 PM GMT
    well, it's obvious! every gay guy wants to have [as many as possible] hot partners... that's one of the reasons to live foricon_smile.gif
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    Feb 17, 2014 4:41 PM GMT
    anketa saidHave you noticed that the two partners in a gay couple resemble each other? Do you prefer guys who physically resemble you?

    I've noticed it a lot. But I think it could also be the "fashion accessory" effect. You select a guy you think will compliment you.

    Plus over time some guys will start to resemble each other more than when they first got together. Call that one the "pet dog" effect.
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    Feb 17, 2014 4:41 PM GMT
    If I have to think about it I guess I'm attracted mostly to people that look like me i.e. same facial structure, height, weight and possibly skin tone. To provide you with an explanation behind that? Well, I can't.
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    Feb 17, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
    I actually do not look for guys that look like me. My preferred tastes are very different that what I look like.
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    Feb 17, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
    I only notice this sort of strangeness with fat bear types. Both grow ugly beards, put on another extra 50-100 pounds and they just start to meld into one unhealthy looking piggy.
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    Feb 17, 2014 5:01 PM GMT
    I usually see people as individuals so have trouble picking out my own family resemblance but I was recently at my brothers 60th surprise party with more than 50 of his friends and colleagues and a bunch came over to me having identified me, they said, by how much I look like my brother. I still think I'm better looking though.

    And I don't think his kid looks like me anymore but our baby pictures are bizarrely identical. What's also weird is that the kid has a lot of my attitudes about life though he was of course raised by my brother. So I think some predispositions of how we think are genetic.

    In partners, I didn't look anything like my last guy, he wasn't even "my type". We were definitely the odd couple. I was Jersey gruff and he was Hollywood sleek, yet we connected in so many ways.

    But my first guy had a similar body structure as mine though he had better legs. And we both had big faces and we were both pretty loud. I wasn't always this demure. We totally fit each other. Here, I morphed us...

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  • wowIggy

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    Feb 17, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    Kinda grim, why would you want to shag someone who looks just like you?
  • Webster666

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    Feb 17, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    I don't know any gay couples who look anything alike.
    No, I don't want a partner who looks like me.
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    Feb 17, 2014 9:32 PM GMT
    I would say there are some resemblance of other things which make them the "look alike" that's what true unity of a couple together is. Not entirely on the basic look alike if you look closer.

    I believe chemistry that shares among the two does unite significance in both which I clearly think it does speak of harmonies that exchange among the 2.

    Probably the aura or omen that reflects upon it all.
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    Feb 17, 2014 9:52 PM GMT
    i alway's wanted to know that also? But I doubt that gay men who actually are attracted to men who look like them would feel the need to giva anyone a explanation.
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    Feb 17, 2014 10:13 PM GMT
    Neogaf1000 saidi alway's wanted to know that also? But I doubt that gay men who actually are attracted to men who look like them would feel the need to giva anyone a explanation.


    Well to be honest, only one of my exes looked like me. I'm not going out of my way to find someone that looks like me either. If a guy has a good personality and all that jazz, I would not turn him down because he didn't look like me. icon_confused.gif
  • Lincsbear

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    Feb 17, 2014 10:20 PM GMT
    Yes, I`ve noticed it quite a bit.

    I think we`re probably attracted(unconsciously) to someone who looks like us because it`s one obvious way of noting someone similar to us, which will tend to make the relationship more robust in the long run. Difference, however you define it, tends to weaken them.(This is true for heterosexuals, too.)

    It may be as well that when two guys are together for a long time, they`ll tend to grow together, and resemble each other in many ways, including the physical.
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    Feb 17, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    Lincsbear saidYes, I`ve noticed it quite a bit.

    I think we`re probably attracted(unconsciously) to someone who looks like us because it`s one obvious way of noting someone similar to us, which will tend to make the relationship more robust in the long run.(This is true for heterosexuals, too.)

    It may be as well that when two guys are together for a long time, they`ll tend to grow together, and resemble each other in many ways, including the physical.


    I agree.

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    Feb 17, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    I think sub consciously a lot of gay men pick partners that are essentially a good reflection of who they see themselves as.

    None of my boyfriends have looked like me though. They are much more macho icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 17, 2014 10:35 PM GMT


    I seek someone which I will try to see the inside , and I do always try to see the deep insecurities of many deeper level of other understandings, what most common of temperaments of sensuality. Something that grasp from inside out. That is where I would want and do believe matter to be with that someone for eternity.

    There is 2 kinds, one is the Body that seeks, the chemistry cells which ignites desire. and the other the Heart seeks, Intuition of the truth that draws out many harmony lines to the one another in many deeper levels of understanding, that trades only with conjunctions of sensitivity. External dimensions always comes in 3rd in my vibes of seeing essentials.

    That is what I see in a partner.

    There is one here whom I saw something about him, and there are things that people say things out unconsciously which does trigger something internally. The only thing in reality we are many distance apart, which neither knows or wants take it on as serious drop it off . Funny thing even there isn't much exchange of the late, this particular person still is and keeps floating between clouds around the vortex of my mind.
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    Feb 17, 2014 10:58 PM GMT
    Har19 said

    I seek someone which I will try to see the inside , and I do always try to see the deep insecurities of many deeper level of other understandings, what most common of temperaments of sensuality. Something that grasp from inside out. That is where I would want and do believe matter to be with that someone for eternity.

    There is 2 kinds, one is the Body that seeks, the chemistry cells which ignites desire. and the other the Heart seeks, Intuition of the truth that draws out many harmony lines to the one another in many deeper levels of understanding, that trades only with conjunctions of sensitivity. External dimensions always comes in 3rd in my vibes of seeing essentials.

    That is what I see in a partner.

    There is one here whom I saw something about him, and there are things that people say things out unconsciously which does trigger something internally. The only thing in reality we are many distance apart, which neither knows or wants take it on as serious drop it off . Funny thing even there isn't much exchange of the late, this particular person still is and keeps floating between clouds around the vortex of my mind.


    That was really beautiful.
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    Feb 17, 2014 11:02 PM GMT
    None of my boyfriends have looked like me, either in body or face. They have all been ectomorphs.
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    Feb 17, 2014 11:10 PM GMT
    Not the interracial couples I know. They know nothing alike. LOL
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    Feb 17, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    Neogaf1000 saidi alway's wanted to know that also? But I doubt that gay men who actually are attracted to men who look like them would feel the need to giva anyone a explanation.

    --I always wanted to know why people steal photos and post them as their profile picture, then have the nerve to except photo comments, from naive men.

    To the OP, not so much here.
    I'd love to change my hair to copper, but I'm bot about to shave my head.
    However, having the same foot and waist size--WIN, especially when he's a Shoe Whore.
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    Feb 18, 2014 1:20 AM GMT
    Well, if he's similar in size to you then you have just doubled your wardrobe icon_smile.gif!
  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 18, 2014 1:23 AM GMT
    It has not been my experience that the gay couples that I know look alike, though they tend not to be two different extremes, either (i.e. they're usually within 6 inches in height and 20 pounds in weight from one another, usually <10 years in age difference, etc.).
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    Feb 18, 2014 1:31 AM GMT
    Nope not me. I mean I like guys that are unique and different than me. Even when I was younger in my 20s, one of my earliest bf was a Filipino guy, he was 5'7, 24, shorter than me. I mean unless you only like A&F model boys, then they all look the same. icon_eek.gificon_redface.gif
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    Feb 18, 2014 1:36 AM GMT
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