I was a social outcast when I was in high school. I craved the attention of the "cool, popular kids". I was so unhappy.
Then one day, I looked around and I saw that I had friends who loved me just the way I was. And, I suddenly thought to myself, "FUCK THE COOL, POPULAR KIDS! I don't need them or their approval!" I would also tend to call bullshit on their "clique" exclusive nature.
And, I was happy.
Today, I realize that not everybody is going to like me. And, that's ok. Because not everybody likes everybody. I have a social circle of people who like me just the way I am. I have friends with whom I have been friends for up to 35 years.
To this day, I tend to continue to call bullshit on the exclusive cliques. Inclusivity is civility.