I've an asexual cousin living with her "we're not lesbians" partner in one of the most committed and loving relationships I've ever witnessed. She's about 4 or 6 years younger than me, so probably around 50/early 50s and they've been together since their late teens.
When they visit me I give them separate bedrooms yet during the day they are inseparable. What's sad is they feel they have to hide their love, all these years that we've never invited one without the other as partner.
Just at a party the other week, after overhearing my cousin's partner introduce herself to one of the guests as my cousin's friend, I pulled her aside and finally, after decades of watching this, let her have it. I said to her "you're killing me, how you just introduced yourself as a mere friend." "That you don't acknowledge in the full light of day your special relationship."
I didn't tell her it's insulting to the rest of us but that's how I feel. That I've buried two loves after only 10 years each, both times denied marriage, one time in hiding from my bud's homophobic mom, yet she gets decades with my cousin and hides in front of our faces for no reason at all. I hate it and I let her know.
And she looked up at me and nodded, knowing that I was right.
You find who you love, and you love each other however you can.