Had a great conversation until I said "I don't like sports"

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    Feb 18, 2014 6:14 PM GMT
    I was chatting with a guy for about an hour and we were getting along great until the sports question came up. After I told him I don't care for sports he quit chatting. I was floored!
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    Feb 18, 2014 6:27 PM GMT
    How do straight guys handle it when they find a girl who doesn't want to watch ESPN with them? Christ. Guys need to get real, they can't expect to find a mirror image
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    Feb 18, 2014 6:31 PM GMT
    Well then forget him. I've had situations where I've felt I have to go along with everything guys say just so they don't stop talking to me. Now I'm like screw it, I'm going to be myself and if they don't like it they can go to hell.
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    Feb 18, 2014 6:32 PM GMT
    Sometimes the way we say things can come across as douchy and insulting especially when we're talking about things we may not enjoy or don't know much about.

    Alternative ways to say could have been to say you don't know a lot about it but have an passing interest in such and such or did something when you were younger or ask them about something you do know. Like what's your team? Etc etc. Even if you aren't interested in that particular subject - you are interested in knowing more about that person, right?
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    Feb 18, 2014 9:35 PM GMT
    Sports are such a bore
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    Feb 18, 2014 9:40 PM GMT
    In no way could i just stop talking or listening because of that being said icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 18, 2014 9:41 PM GMT
    Only sport I care to watch is Football. But, I do like playing Nascar on PS3. DAMN, it's been a long time.
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    Feb 18, 2014 9:44 PM GMT
    haha wtf... sounds like an episode of Seinfeld
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 18, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    Maybe he is so into sports that he really wouldn't be a good match for someone who isn't. Better to find out before getting invested in the guy. You don't like any sports at all? Not tennis? Olympics? Any? If you do you could have just said you weren't really into sports that much but love (whatever sport you do like). At least that way he wouldn't feel like you just shut him down.
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    Feb 18, 2014 10:23 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidSometimes the way we say things can come across as douchy and insulting especially when we're talking about things we may not enjoy or don't know much about.

    Alternative ways to say could have been to say you don't know a lot about it but have an passing interest in such and such or did something when you were younger or ask them about something you do know. Like what's your team? Etc etc. Even if you aren't interested in that particular subject - you are interested in knowing more about that person, right?


    This. You see it the Forums every once in a while. Some innocent but temporarily inept guy throws an offhand comment out there that starts a flame war without intending to. It comes down to the delivery a lot of the times.
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    Feb 18, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    He can think that you two have nothing in common. Or you are not athletic or active enough for him. Or the worse, you came off mean and douchy (like someone said), so he just ignored you completely to be mean back.




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    Feb 18, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    I'm not big into sports, but I usually can deflect a bit by saying, you know, I haven't been keeping up with football (or whatever sport is being discussed) this year. I've been busy with other things. Who's playing?

    Then it's easy to change the subject to other things.

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    Feb 18, 2014 10:44 PM GMT
    Be happy it was an hour and not 2 years.

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    Feb 18, 2014 10:48 PM GMT
    I know what you mean, I was chatting to this guy and as soon as I mentioned I wear a ball gag 20 hours a day he didn't send me any more messages. I mean, learn how to have a conversation eh? What a weirdo.
  • Lincsbear

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    Feb 18, 2014 10:51 PM GMT
    Forget him.

    We all have non-interests.
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    Feb 18, 2014 10:57 PM GMT
    Ohno saidI know what you mean, I was chatting to this guy and as soon as I mentioned I wear a ball gag 20 hours a day he didn't send me any more messages. I mean, learn how to have a conversation eh? What a weirdo.


    I know, right????

    Mention that that You keep hostages in the basement and some Dudes get all uppity...

    WTF???
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    Feb 18, 2014 10:59 PM GMT
    Cash said
    Ohno saidI know what you mean, I was chatting to this guy and as soon as I mentioned I wear a ball gag 20 hours a day he didn't send me any more messages. I mean, learn how to have a conversation eh? What a weirdo.


    I know, right????

    Mention that that You keep hostages in the basement and some Dudes get all uppity...

    WTF???
    icon_eek.gif hahahahaha!
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    Feb 19, 2014 2:54 AM GMT
    Should have said you were into water sports. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 3:08 AM GMT
    what the heck is up with your profile?
    With little to go on and assuming it was here.
    I'd say he was one of those guys who gets pissed the're so many non-jocks on the site.
    If on another sight as we don't have IM anymore I'm guessing your profile states or comes off as if your into sports and all things masc.
    --still plenty of guys out there that believe if you're not into sports than you must be fem.
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    Feb 19, 2014 3:17 AM GMT
    KApparition saidI was chatting with a guy for about an hour and we were getting along great until the sports question came up. After I told him I don't care for sports he quit chatting. I was floored!


    I don't really want to date someone unless we have something in common. If someone doesn't share my love of sports, there needs to be some other interests that we have in common. A relationship between two people with nothing in common, will be a short-lived one, in my opinion. No two people are going to have everything in common, but there has to be SOME thing to hold each other's interest.
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    Feb 19, 2014 4:54 AM GMT
    Yes it's nice to know early on before I make too much of an investment. However just because somebody doesn't like sports doesn't mean you should stop talking to them. Straight men rarely find women who are into sports and they don't just ignore them if they aren't interested in it. They accept it and move on. We all have different likes and there is bound to be something that 2 people have in common from which they can bond over.
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    Feb 19, 2014 4:59 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidMaybe he is so into sports that he really wouldn't be a good match for someone who isn't. Better to find out before getting invested in the guy. You don't like any sports at all? Not tennis? Olympics? Any? If you do you could have just said you weren't really into sports that much but love (whatever sport you do like). At least that way he wouldn't feel like you just shut him down.
    Why was the first one mentioned tennis?
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    Feb 19, 2014 5:17 AM GMT
    xrichx saidShould have said you were into water sports. icon_biggrin.gif

    I'm into water sports. But not the golden water kind. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 5:36 AM GMT
    Haha, so a great conversation for an hour, then he finds out you don't like sports and he shuts down. Laaaame
  • killercliche

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    Feb 19, 2014 6:48 AM GMT
    KApparition saidI was chatting with a guy for about an hour and we were getting along great until the sports question came up. After I told him I don't care for sports he quit chatting. I was floored!


    Do you carry disdain for sports?

    If the way you offered said information came across in a very dismissive manner, I can see him calling things off.

    If you HATE sports and want to hear nothing about them and he was say the high school quarterback and watches all the games every sunday, he would probably not want to go any further with you.

    If you said something to the effect of not following sports but being interested in learning about them you would have had something to talk about.


    Having said that, if you really dislike sports it sounds like things worked out best for both parties.