Turning 65 - WOW!

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    Feb 19, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    Though my RJ age already shows 65, because I set my birthday at January 1st for security reasons (though it hasn't prevented certain RJ stalkers from attempting to identify me), the actual event is a little bit aways yet.

    And every day, like today, I get mail about medical plans and eligibility windows because I'm 65, stuff I really don't understand. But what it tells me is that in the US turning 65 is one big deal.

    Life is like a conveyor belt we ride. It never stops, it's inexorable. At the beginning we don't think about it, because we can't see or imagine the end of it, where we fall off into oblivion. There's always a big crowd ahead of us.

    But as we age that crowd ahead of us thins out. And finally we realize we're getting near the edge, that there's not a lot of people ahead of us anymore, and we can finally see the precipice clearly. Very soon it's gonna be our turn to fall over the edge.

    Becoming 65 reminds me of that. Especially thanks to all this crap I'm getting in the mail to further remind me. Well, if I get through this, I suppose my next goal is to reach the 70 milestone. icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 12:53 AM GMT
    Nowadays turning 65 is not a big deal. Life expectancy is much higher than that.

    And happy birthday!
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    Feb 19, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    Such a Debbie Downer.

    Congrats Deco.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    David3000 saidNowadays turning 65 is not a big deal. Life expectancy is much higher than that.

    Not in my family. And I already have heart disease, chronic hypertension, and high cholesterol nothing will control, not diet or medicines.

    A doctor once lectured me about all the healthy things I should do to live longer. He outlined a life of boring nothingness for me.

    "So if I do these things I'll live forever?" I wickedly asked him.

    "Well, no, you'll still die. But you'll live longer."

    "Forgive me, doctor, but if the end result is still gonna be the same, I'd rather live a shorter and happier life than a drawn-out death while lingering like an aging vegetable in a nursing home."

    It's not that I don't take care of myself at all, but I know my genes, and what makes me happy. My only concern is that I predecease my husband. Ideally we'll both go about the same time.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:07 AM GMT
    Kuestion saidSuch a Debbie Downer.

    Congrats Deco.

    Thanks for that pat on the back! I appreciate your own positive thoughts!
  • drfeelgood

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    Feb 19, 2014 1:08 AM GMT
    Well it must be interesting turning 65...
    Why would someone stalk you though??
    That usually happens to famous people like nicole kidman or madonna.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    Well that's wishful thinking (dying both at the same time for natural causes) though I understand your concern. I think we gotta take life as it is; You know your genes and the way you choose to live, so you already have an idea of what you're gonna get, yet you don't know for sure, so what's the use in worrying about it? You might surprise yourself! Just live your life the best you can trying not to worry and when the time comes it comes, it will happen to all of us after all.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:14 AM GMT
    David3000 saidWell that's wishful thinking (dying at the same time for natural causes) though I understand your concern. I think we gotta take life as it is; You know your genes and the way you chose to live, so you already have an idea of what you're gonna get, yet you don't know for sure, so what's the use in worrying about it? Just live your life to the fullest and when the time comes it comes, it will happen to all of us after all.

    All true. It's just the cold splash of reality in my face that arrives in the mail, every goddam day now, with banner headlines on the letters:

    YOU'RE TURNING 65!
    YOU'RE TURNING 65!
    YOU'RE TURNING 65!

    Wait until some of you experience it, at least in the US. Then get back to me. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:15 AM GMT
    I beat you to it by several months! But happy Birthday, even if you're a bit slow!

    I've got most of the same symptoms, but things are pretty good. 65 is no problem.

    Many happy returns!
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:26 AM GMT
    tazzari saidI beat you to it by several months! But happy Birthday, even if you're a bit slow!

    I've got most of the same symptoms, but things are pretty good. 65 is no problem.

    Many happy returns!

    Well, I hope you know I'm gonna keep moving forward, one way or another. In fact, I wasn't planning to make any fuss about 65 at all, just another number.

    BUT THEN, I start getting this deluge of daily letters. I never got anything like THAT before. What's THIS all about?

    Should I be more concerned than I've been all along? I thought I was just having another birthday, but everybody's telling me I'm turning this big corner in my life. Not MY idea, but theirs.

    But thank your for your kind thoughts. And know I envy where you live, where I lived myself for years. I often dream of spending some time back there, camping at Larrabee, motorcycling on the Peninsula or in the Cascades. Now those are things I DO miss.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:31 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidWish you many more years with us on RJ!

    Awww... how sweet! Well certainly you, too! Another guy from where I lived 5 years of my life. Where I came out, actually. How is it that the Pacific Northwest grows such lovely guys? Whether US or Canadian, you guys set the standard for class. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:35 AM GMT
    Call me crazy, but I have a totally different perspective on 65. I'm not concerning myself with health since a lot of that is out of our control.
    65 to me says, hey brother, you're one day closer to freedom! I really do look forward to retiring one day and enjoying my life, like my parents do now.
    Work can be a tiresome bitch somedays... and today was one of them!
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:42 AM GMT
    Well, as someone who passed that milestone over a year ago, I wish you a happy Bday. Wasn't a bad year for me all in all but I have to say that 66 has hit me hard; being now only 4 years from 70. I like the conveyer belt analogy; yes its kind of like that and horrifying seeing that 'the end' is approaching. But OTOH, we need to be thankful that we've lived as long as we have. Sadly, not everyone made it this far. So, its a mixed bag.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:53 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidCall me crazy, but I have a totally different perspective on 65. I'm not concerning myself with health since a lot of that is out of our control.
    65 to me says, hey brother, you're one day closer to freedom! I really do look forward to retiring one day and enjoying my life, like my parents do now.
    Work can be a tiresome bitch somedays... and today was one of them!

    A good and healthy perspective. But not applicable to me. I retired at 45, that 20th anniversary coming up in September. I did try some other things, mostly academic, but I always considered that just dabbling, not serious careers like I'd had for 25 years.

    No, this has nothing to do with retiring or not retiring, merely with reminders of mortality.
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    Feb 19, 2014 1:55 AM GMT
    YourName2000 saidCongrats, Bob!

    Lot's of great well wishes here. Hope you enjoy them all. icon_wink.gif

    TY! I think I will. My husband sees to that. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 2:05 AM GMT
    MikeW saidWell, as someone who passed that milestone over a year ago, I wish you a happy Bday. Wasn't a bad year for me all in all but I have to say that 66 has hit me hard; being now only 4 years from 70. I like the conveyer belt analogy; yes its kind of like that and horrifying seeing that 'the end' is approaching. But OTOH, we need to be thankful that we've lived as long as we have. Sadly, not everyone made it this far. So, its a mixed bag.

    Very wise observation.

    It reminds me of when I came out, trés late at 45. I should have come at at 15, or 25, or 35, but not fucking 45! I lost 30 years of my life! Fucking idiot!

    So OK, I looked at it, and said: "You can't reset the clock, you screwed up. You're 45 and nothing will change that, and you can't go back in time. So what can a 45-year-old gay do with his life at this point?" And I developed a plan, that I think worked as best as could be expected under the circumstances.

    And today I'm a 65-year-old gay man. Similar problem. Can't set the clock back on that, either. So I'll play the hand I've been dealt, as best I can. I may not like it, but unable to change it, I promise you I'll be the happiest 65-year-old gay man you ever saw. icon_biggrin.gif
  • ChicagoSteve

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    Feb 19, 2014 2:47 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday Art-Deco!,
    Wishing you many more! I like your age analogy because I can relate to it. in my 20's the birthdays went by rather slowly, an infinite amount of time was laid out in front of me. It speeded up after 30, but then after 40 it warped into light speed, LOL.
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    Feb 19, 2014 2:51 AM GMT


    Happy Birthday, Mr! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    ....and many mooooorrrrrrrrreeeeeeee!
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    Feb 19, 2014 3:24 AM GMT
    ChicagoSteve saidHappy Birthday Art-Deco!,
    Wishing you many more! I like your age analogy because I can relate to it. in my 20's the birthdays went by rather slowly, an infinite amount of time was laid out in front of me. It speeded up after 30, but then after 40 it warped into light speed, LOL.

    The speed is part of it, too. But also that there's no one left ahead of you, to go before you. You're NEXT!

    Once I had grandparents ahead of me, and then parents, but now there's just ME. I'm the only one at the head of the line today, nobody older. UH-OH! icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 3:30 AM GMT
    Hope you find a great balance of keeping healthy while living your life to the fullest, enjoying your favorite activities, and beating your bad genes. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    WOO WOO!! #EARLYBIRDDISCOUNTSTATUSSSSS

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    YAAAAAAAASSSSSSS!!!!!
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    Feb 19, 2014 3:46 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidCall me crazy, but I have a totally different perspective on 65. I'm not concerning myself with health since a lot of that is out of our control.
    65 to me says, hey brother, you're one day closer to freedom! I really do look forward to retiring one day and enjoying my life, like my parents do now.
    Work can be a tiresome bitch somedays... and today was one of them!


    Ditto
    Enjoy the journey of life ... every age is wonderful icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 19, 2014 7:41 AM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    tazzari saidI beat you to it by several months! But happy Birthday, even if you're a bit slow!

    I've got most of the same symptoms, but things are pretty good. 65 is no problem.

    Many happy returns!

    Well, I hope you know I'm gonna keep moving forward, one way or another. In fact, I wasn't planning to make any fuss about 65 at all, just another number.

    BUT THEN, I start getting this deluge of daily letters. I never got anything like THAT before. What's THIS all about?

    Should I be more concerned than I've been all along? I thought I was just having another birthday, but everybody's telling me I'm turning this big corner in my life. Not MY idea, but theirs.

    But thank your for your kind thoughts. And know I envy where you live, where I lived myself for years. I often dream of spending some time back there, camping at Larrabee, motorcycling on the Peninsula or in the Cascades. Now those are things I DO miss.


    There's a guest apartment over my garage, should you ever venture this way...