Dealing with Anger on RJ

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    Feb 19, 2014 5:27 AM GMT
    From a NYT op-ed: While it is unwise to shut your ears to opinions that differ from yours, it is equally unwise to let them carry you to total despair. The proposal involves three steps: (1) a taking into account all positions, a kind of survey of possible ways to look at things, even those ways we find irritating; (2) identifying those ideas that degrade us and sap our energies; and (3) denying these ideas an existence in our personal spheres by disregard.

    This method of disregard as a path to simmering down collectively. Regardless if you’re on the left or on the right or anywhere in between, you’ve surely noticed how worked up we’ve become. There are obvious pressing issues at hand to be dealt with, but this helpless frenzy keeps us in a cycle of pointless trolling and political implosion. Getting flustered breathes life into other people’s fictions. When your buttons have been pushed and your goat gotten, it is rare that you can act with composure in response. Instead, you react. Action derives from power, reaction from a state of powerlessness. Much of the anger generated by political debates is never actually channeled toward fixing things. It is either pent up, leading to sullenness and self-devastation, or redirected toward others in destructive ways.

    http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/02/16/in-praise-of-disregard/?ref=opinion

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    Feb 19, 2014 5:40 AM GMT
    Perhaps this experience sounds familiar to you: Sometimes, particularly during an argument on a thread on RJ or other politically feverish moments, you spend many hours reading about the issues; but you have a tendency to dwell on posts you find truly distressing. You are drawn to the most inflammatory posts, the reports that make humans seem like wolves, the kind that make it impossible to stifle my expletives. You feel it physiologically: Your adrenaline surges, your breaths get quick and short, and you pace and fume around the house trying to get rid of this nervous energy.
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    Feb 19, 2014 5:45 AM GMT
    It doesn’t matter what your position is; reading or watching things that aggressively dispute all that you believe can produce this effect. Often, one's whole afternoon is wrecked by reading one article or watching one debate. And that lost afternoon is irretrievable. Those hours could have spent pursuing one's hobbies, or engaging creatively in something, or writing, are lost because of a morbid attraction to provocative rhetoric and lost causes. But if a pundit screams brutishly in the forest and there is no one there to hear him, does he still make a sound?
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    Feb 19, 2014 5:50 AM GMT
    Reality and the voices that claim to represent reality are not at all the same thing. And even if they were, given the abundance of problems that we are told each day need immediate attention, there is a certain threshold beyond which an individual cannot affect the universe. No amount of outrage can repair certain broken features of discourse, like the boundless partisanship and the punitive and reactionary attitudes displayed throughout some memberships, whose forte is clearly not equanimity.
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    Feb 19, 2014 9:13 AM GMT
    Is Rakequiescent your alter ego?
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    Feb 19, 2014 9:16 AM GMT
    tortoise_sex saidi don't worry about it because i know how to spit that venom on some real nastiness where i go for the jugular or below the belt with no fucks given. it's a hit or miss but when i hit em, they ain't coming back.

    but ignoring em is just as bad. icon_lol.gif


    This is you hitting someone